Ayesha Curry Gets Candid About Insecurities: "I Internalize It, Like Is Something Wrong With Me?"
Although I have literally no interest in sports, this week's episode of Red Table Talk offered a real-life take on love and basketball that did not disappoint.
Willow, Adrienne, and Jada traveled to Charlotte, home of NBA superstar family The Currys, to talk to the First Ladies of basketball about the ups and downs of love, marriage, and managing their mental health in the midst of the chaos. Ayesha was joined by her mother-in-law, Sonya Curry, as well as her sister-in-law, Sydel Curry, and Seth Curry's fiancé, Callie Rivers, who shared what life is like as NBA royalty, and it's not always as glamorous as it may look.
In this vulnerable conversation among the matriarchs of the Curry family, they got real about what it's like to be a powerful Black woman who is married to an equally powerful Black man.
Ayesha, mother of three and host of Ayesha's Home Kitchen, said that it was important for her to become an entrepreneur because she wanted her journey to be about more than just being a basketball player's wife. According to Ayesha, the saying is true: happy wife, happy life, and what makes her happiest is having the ability to be her own person.
"I need to make sure I have something for myself. As well as my marriage. One, it's going to make me happy and full. I'm going to be a better parent. And it'll make my husband a better person as well because he has this strong woman next to him, who has her own wants and needs and knows what she wants. So I feel like I have greater value and passion and I'm just a happier person that way."
At the Red Table, Sonya, who has been married to NBA superstar Dell Curry for 30 years, and Ayesha who has been married to Steph since 2011, also agreed that the thirst is real when it comes to dating a superstar athlete. Although Jada pointed out that it's part of our primal instincts to gravitate to a man in power, Ayesha said that often, women tend to gravitate a little too closely.
"I'm a grown woman so I'll just insert myself. I'm okay with it now. The ladies will always be lurking and waiting for their moment but for me, I honestly hate it. I don't like when I feel leveled off with somebody. It irks my nerves."
She explained that it bothered her so much, that she was forced to bring it to Steph's attention.
"So we had the conversation about it, like when we're going somewhere we make sure that I'm being introduced. I don't like to have to introduce myself. It irks my nerves. So I try and make that known. But there have been a couple of times when I wanted to punch somebody in the face. But that's just human nature."
Screenshot of Ayesha Curry from 'Red Table Talk'
Ayesha shared that women crossing boundaries isn't anything new. Years ago, when she was breastfeeding Riley, she had a traumatic experience that she would never forget. Ayesha said the encounter triggered anxiety that she still has to take medication for today.
"I'll never forget we wanted to go buy bikes one day. And I'm sitting in the back, nursing Riley. She's less than one-year-old. And this lady—this group of people come over and they're trying to ask Stephen for pictures and autographs—this woman opens the car door, sticks her body in the car and is like, 'Let me see.' And I'm like, 'No, get out of the car.' And she says, 'Oh honey, you know what you signed up for.' And that's kind of stuck with me for a long time. I'm like actually no, I didn't. And I think I deserve some type of personal space and so that's where everything stems from for me."
Along with battling ongoing anxiety, her husband's celebrity has also brought on a number of insecurities for the cookbook author that she never knew she had.
"Something that really bothers me and has honestly, given me a little bit of an insecurity is like 'Yeah, there are all these women throwing themselves [at Steph] but me, the past ten years, I don't have any of that. It sounds weird but I have zero male attention. Then I internalize it and I'm like is there something wrong with me? I don't want it. But it would be nice to know that someone's looking."
Overnight, Ayesha's comments at the Red Table have caught fire on Black Twitter and raised a number of opinions. Ayesha is currently trending, and her choice of words is under siege. According to some pretty angry Twitter fingers, her inclination in the past to criticize women for wearing revealing clothing is directly correlated to this comment, and she should be punished… But, nah, sis. If you've ever watched Red Table Talk, you know it's all about vulnerability, and this episode was no different.
If we're keeping it a buck here, everyone wants to feel beautiful, whether you're dating, married, single, or divorced. Her comments don't negate the appreciation she has for her man, but what they do prove is that no matter how rich, beautiful, or loved we are, we all have insecurities that we have to confront head-on.
After watching the entire Red Table Talk, I realized y'all took Ayesha Curry's word completely out of context. But… https://t.co/bOqcJJc5Hi— La Day Sha (@La Day Sha) 1557249592.0
Red table talk is an open comfortable environment. #AyeshaCurry should be able to say what she wants and anyone who has a problem too bad cause she doesn't know you 😂 now go back to living your basic life cause you can't relate
— buss down thotiana 👾 (@Mayanoi1) May 7, 2019
If we really took inventory, how many times have you side-eyed the waitress for giggling a little too hard at your date? If I saw my man having panties thrown at him by beautiful women every single day, I'd probably be ready to whip out my pimp hand on one of those women, too. But the truth is, just because you're entitled to your insecurities, doesn't make it okay to not deal with them.
Watch the full episode below!
What did you think about what Ayesha said? Was she wrong, or do you think she had a point? Let us know in the comments!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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It’s spring, and it’s time to blossom into our favorite pastel nail colors. We can finally part ways with dark, neutral tones, looking forward to colors that make us feel lighter in spirit. Spring is a time to lighten the mood with floral designs and other aesthetics. Soon, our social media feeds will be filled with tons of nail inspiration, giving us many options. However, we can also understand how time-consuming it can be to find the perfect nail design.
We’ve collected 10 of the trendiest nails for every aesthetic. Warning: choosing one of these designs may cause every girl to ask you where you got your nails inspo from. In those moments, it’s advised to remember us. You’ve been warned.
Subtle Pastel Girlie
So, if you want to ease into your pastel colors, we get it. This nail art is perfect for getting into the nail season without fully committing. We love the subtle flower design with nude undertones. This color palette is ideal for anyone looking to keep their “clean girl aesthetic” without being too dull. If the solid pink color is still too much for your liking, try opting for nude on all the nails and allowing the two floral design to have their moment. There are many ways to get into the season without stepping outside our comfort zone.
Chrome Flower Girl
This nail design is an absolute show-stopper! Make everyone blind every time you wave hello with this incredible chrome art. This design is unique because of the gorgeous mix of purples, pinks, and yellows. This design is for the girl ready to move on from winter and enter her “spring girl era.” As if the colors alone weren’t enough, the two floral designs are the icing on this already captivating work of art. Live spring out loud with this masterpiece!
Yellow Mellow
Yellow is a signature spring color. This design honors the season with various yellows, making it stand out. Each pigment adds contrast to the design. This color scheme makes us want to break up with the typical nude aesthetic that has been around for way too long. Move forward and be the spotlight with the incredible yellow design.
Short But Mighty
Calling all of my short-nail girls! Yes, the rumors are true - we can have fun too. Short nails get a bad rap for not being as flashy as long nails. This design put those rumors to rest with its adorable pastel nail aesthetic. We love the hint of green complimented with pink floral nail art. This design is fun, classic, and refreshing for the upcoming season. Must have short nails for your job? No problem! Don’t lose out on feeling like that girl with this not-so-subtle nail art.
Pastel Anyone?
Gorgeous, gorgeous girls wear pastels! Can’t pick one pastel color for your next nail appointment? No worries! The beauty of nail art is that there are no rules. You can wear each pastel color on your fingertips with no regrets. This nail design proves just that with its impeccable color scheme matched with chrome to make things more interesting. Don’t stress yourself trying to find a design or pick a color. Do it all! You only live once, after all.
French Tip With A Twist
We love a classic white French tip as much as the next person, but in 2024, we are stepping it up! This pastel French tip will have all the girls screaming. Become mesmerized by the swirls of pinks, blues, and yellows across your tips. With this nail design, you’ll have anyone under your spell.
Easter Treat
Easter isn’t over until we say it’s over! This adorable Easter-inspired design will have you leaping into spring. Just look at those cute bunnies complimented with Easter eggs! The colors, design, and festive aesthetic have us jumping for joy. This design also has a nice balance of nudes, which can be great for anyone who wants to have fun with their nails and stay committed to neutral tones. This design has something everyone can appreciate, from the nail art girlie to the neutral girlie.
Simple Spring Chic
We have the perfect nail inspiration for you if you want to keep things clean and classic. This simple nail color eases into the season while still maintaining a classic touch. Let your jewelry be the glam when rocking this clean nail color.
Flower Girl
This design truly captures spring without words. From the colors to the flowers, there isn’t a part of this design that isn’t refreshing. The hues of pink alone give us soft girl Barbie vibes. Let your hands do all the talking with this perfect nail art.
Seeing Things Clearly
Finally, winter is behind us, and the spring sun allows us to see things clearly - just like this nail design! Clear nails have not gotten enough respect until now. These gel x clear spring nails are all you need to set the tone for the season. Colorful flowers are the main vocal point of the design while remaining simple. This design is a breath of fresh air we’ve all been waiting for. Welcome to spring!
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