This Woman Created An Epic Video Game That Puts The "Don't" In Don't Touch My Hair
There's a certain amount of heaviness that comes with the crown a black woman wears. People usually want to touch our crowns. Like, a lot.
Since our crowns are intricate in design, it's not uncommon to have people run their dirty little fingers in your crown, while examining the craftsmanship of your royal headwear.
By now, you've probably figured out that I'm not talking about an actual crown. If I were, it would seem absurd that someone would be so invasive as to touch something so sacred that lays upon your head. Right?
Unfortunately, that's exactly what happens to a lot of black women. Whether we wear afros, braids, or relaxers, someone is quick to invade our personal space to touch our hair. The rudeness can be overwhelming.
Over the years, many black women have collectively lent their voices to tell too curious onlookers to keep their hands to themselves, and they still don't hear us. But a Portland-based game developer named Momo may have been successful in getting the message across.
This week, she presented a video game called Hair Nah over Twitter in response to the generations old retort, "Don't touch my hair!"
Source: Hair Nah
In the game, you play a young black woman, Aeva, who is traveling by air. As she makes her way to her destination, she must slap away curious hands that are interrupting her as she attempts to catch her flight.
Choosing a player is lit, too. The team added skin tones and cute hair styles as selections.
Source: Hair Nah
You also have three destination choices - Havana, Cuba; Osaka, Japan; or the Santa Monica Pier in Cali.
Source: Hair Nah
As you move through the levels, you hear comments like, "Can I touch it?" "It's so fluffy!" and "Is it attached to your head?" The harder Aeva swats, the more energy she loses on the "Nah meter."
If you win (and no, it's not easy to win the game), a screen at the end of the game explains that this is something that black women actually experience, and that people should stop doing it.
Momo sat down with Okay She Goes to talk about the game, and she said that the idea came from her real life experiences after moving to Portland, where she's had plenty of people touching her hair without permission.
I'll be walking, and a woman will reach her hands into my head. I'm talking to a teammate, and a coworker I just met is holding my hair in his hand. I'm in the checkout line, and the cashier will reach across to caress my braids. I shudder thinking about it. It's so creepy. And it sucks because I know a lot of women have had this issue their whole life. But for me, it all came at once!
She said that she hopes that the game will give people a better understanding of what it means for people to touch your hair without invitation.
I'm hoping to push the conversation further. Because I don't know how many times Black people can keep telling folks to stop touching our hair and in how many different mediums before they get it. There are countless videos, hella memes, Solange made a song, now there is this game. So if folks don't get it, it's because they don't want to.
What's amazing about the game is that Momo has gotten plenty of support, and has also helped people better explain why it's rude to the people around them.
Have you gotten any work done playing Hair Nah? I know, it was hard for me too, sis.
Head on over to Hairnah.com, and give the game your best shot.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
"I don't know what God wants, but I would go for more than two. I would try for my girl,” she adds. “But of course, if it's another boy, it's another boy."
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