Cystic acne is the most severe form of acne that causes painful pimples that are often filled with pus. According to Cleveland Clinic, cystic acne also has bacteria in the pores that cause swelling and inflammation which can lead to scarring on the skin. In her YouTube series, Leave it to LeToya, LeToya Luckett revealed her personal battle with cystic acne. “Baby, if I could tell you. I know what it feels like to have that broken-out cystic acne, scarring feeling so ugly, if I can be honest,” she started.
“It’s heavy on you and you feel ashamed. And you feel people are gonna talk about you, trust me, I get it. I’ve been there.” The Power Book III: Raising Kanan actress felt so insecure about her skin that she said she would even walk around the house with makeup on to cover up her skin’s flaws.
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“I wish I could show y’all pictures but because I was so ashamed of my skin, I didn’t take pictures. I would just cake makeup on my face every day but with a change of diet, with more water with finding products and cleansers that work for my skin, I’ve seen a major change,” she said.
Once her skin began to heal, she tried a new method to apply makeup that didn’t include caking it on. “Just put it where the blemish is. Rub it in and blend it in as good as you possibly can and throw a lip gloss on and you straight,” she said.
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In her video, the “Torn” singer shared the natural products she uses on her “sensitive skin.”
For her cleanser, she uses Itadi face wash, which is a gentle exfoliate made with coffee. She then followed it up with Zena Foster’s beauty roller. “This is helping with aging y’all,” she said about the beauty roller. “This is definitely giving yourself a facelift a little bit.”
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Next, she used the Neutrogena purifying mask for 15 minutes followed by Sunday Riley’s Good Genes lactic acid treatment. LeToya then used Vanity Planet’s steamer, which “opens up the pores and allows your face to set” and Itadi moisturizer.
She applied a “few spritzes” of Mario Badescu’s facial spray and an SPF by Derma-E. The singer shared a personal message to Black women about using sun protection. “Baby, protect your skin. SPF, daily, don’t forget it,” she said.
And she closed her skincare routine with lip gloss.
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Chalk it up to naivety or simply the hopeful romantic in me, but love never seemed like a distant concept to me. Sure there were tough lessons I had to learn and breakups that I needed healing from, but the hope of finding that special someone still remained. Yet, in my reflections, I couldn’t help but wonder why I kept meeting men who seemed good enough for the moment but would be better had we met at another time.
That is, until I considered one fated component of my dating life that was simply out of my control: and that was time.
When you can’t make sense of things on your own, the TikTok algorithm has a way of leading you to the answers you’re seeking. And during a recent scroll, I stumbled upon a thread of women echoing the sentiment that “men marry the woman in front of them, at the time they are ready to be married” — but could this be the root of my dilemma?
This notion, known as the "Cab Light Theory" is a concept that was introduced in the hit TV series Sex and the City. In the scene, lawyer Miranda Hobbes suggested that men are like taxis - when they're available, their "cab light" is on, and when they're not, it's off. “When they’re available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and decide they’re ready to settle down, have babies, whatever, and they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up — boom! That’s the woman they marry. It’s not fate. It’s dumb luck,” she tells her group of friends in the ladies' room.
GiphyThe theory is that men are ready and willing to pursue a romantic relationship when they're emotionally available and interested (light on), and if they’re not, well, it’s on to the next pick-up they go (light off). While men are not modes of transportation, there is a point to be made about how a passing notion in a TV series from the start of the millennium could still hold some truth today.
In the original video shared by creator Tay Talks, her take on the “Cab Light Theory” implied that men aren’t necessarily marrying their soulmate or even the love of their life, instead, “it was just the girl he was dating at the time he was ready to get married and settle down.” The “dumb luck” that Miranda Hobbes was referring to in the show is the chance encounter that a woman would find a man who is both financially sound and emotionally available enough to stop his dating pursuits and commit to one woman forever.
But as dating trends shift with new social and economic factors at play, how could it be that more “lights” aren’t going off for men?
In an illuminating piece by Psychology Today, men are more lonely than they’ve been in decades and their soil for choice isn’t helping. The article shared that dating apps drive new connections but have a gender imbalance, with 62% of users being men. And with women becoming increasingly more selective in preferring emotionally available men who share their values, men are now facing a relationship skills gap that can lead to fewer opportunities for long-term partnership if growth, healing, and deeper emotional intelligence are not achieved.
While it’s easy to oversimplify the headaches and frustrations that come with modern dating, we can’t forget that while timing does play a factor in us finding “the one,” we also have the power of choice within our grasp. Men and women both need time to heal, grow, and discover themselves on a deeper level — so would we really want to “jump in the cab” of someone who hasn’t gone through that process already?
Since love is one of those forces that we can’t just make happen a the snap of our fingers, it can be easy to fix a blanket theory into the reason behind our singleness, but it’s important to remember that we can choose to pursue other candidates who date with openness and desire for commitment rather than waiting until someone’s light hastily cuts on.
While love can be sublime it shouldn’t be random. And when love finds us, we shouldn’t have the question in the back of our mind whether we were the best our man could do at the time. We deserve to be sure.
So yes, the “cab light theory” is a cheeky concept that prompts us to appreciate the timing of our love life, but it should also remind us that alignment is everything.
Because the real question is: was his light not on, or was he simply not the one?
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