
Do You Use Toys During Foreplay? Kelly Rowland Thinks You Should

The self-quarantine gives you and bae nothing but time, space, and opportunity to explore your kinks in the bedroom, and Kelly Rowland says that adding toys to your bedtime routine might be the key to curing your cabin fever and spicing up your sex life at the same damn time.
Wednesday, Kelly joined La La Anthony on Instagram Live for a girls' chat that took a very intimate turn and we were here for absolutely all of it. La La told Kelly:
"I am saying no to a toy! I really am. Sometimes you just want to get to it. You don't need all the extracurricular stuff going on."
Although La La remained adamant about her "straight-to-business" attitude in the bedroom, Kelly advised that her adult toybox only maximizes the fun. During their chat, Kelly even revealed her go-to toy, which, of course, is a fan favorite:
"You know the little rings that goes around…That's so nice"
Along with the unspoken joys of the coveted cock ring, Kelly revealed that toys can also be beneficial during foreplay. While one commenter suggested that sex toys may be intimidating to men, Kelly explained that toys can also be used as tools to deepen intimacy and intensify orgasms for both parties.
"You can always have a warmup, a brief warmup. And then have them watch your brief warmup and then have them join you."
While Kelly is normally tight-lipped about her sex life, in a 2016 interview with ELLE, the singer said that with maturity, comes the ability to give no f*cks.
"At 30… I'm going to sound so crazy, but, at 30, sex just got better. And then, at 31, life just got really good. At 33, I just stopped caring so much."
If you and your man are ready to level up your foreplay game, scroll below for 4 sex toys to add to your Amazon wishlist right now.
WE-VIBE Sync Adjustable Couples Vibrator with Remote and App Control
Amazon
Let your partner give you all the vibes with this adjustable couples vibrator with 10 different modes that target your g-spot and your clitoris and can be controlled via remote or phone app.
Doxy Massager
Amazon
Known as the most powerful personal electric massager, this toy did not come to play.
LELO Tor 2 Couples' Vibrating Ring
Amazon
With 6 unique pleasure settings, this waterproof fully rechargeable vibrating couples ring by LELO promises to give you pleasure in any position.
Rocks Off Ass Berries Vibrating Butt Plug
Amazon
Whoever says you couldn't have your cake and eat it too was a damn lie and the Ass Berries Vibrating Butt Plug by Rocks Off is proof.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Ashley Versher is known for her work in the Tyler Perry's Beauty In Black series and more recently, she starred alongside Taraji P. Henson in the Netflix film Straw. But she is more than just her acting credits and stunning looks (her hair alone is everything). In an xoNecole exclusive, Ashley dishes on her first celebrity crush, how she spends her downtime, and her go-to haircare products because we need the deets.
Get to know Ashley below.
xoNecole: Where are you from?
Ashley Versher: San Francisco - BAY AREAAAAAA!!!!
xoN: What was your first major acting role?
AV: A 49ers Super Bowl commercial - I think I was 3.
Ashley Versher
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xoN: Have you ever had an embarrassing or funny audition story? If so, what happened?
AV: Yes! I was doing a self-tape once and I forgot to take off my bonnet. But the tape was so good I sent it in anyway.
xoN: Your hair is gorgeous. What has it been like navigating Hollywood with natural hair?
AV: Thank you so much! Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself. Once I fully embraced my natural hair and committed to the journey, everything else began to align. It’s been nothing short of empowering.
Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself.
xoN: What are your favorite go-to hair products?
AV: Ooooooo, right now I’m loving Camille Rose’s Jai Twisting Butter—it’s super moisturizing and gives me a fun, bouncy twist-out! I’ve also recently gotten into oils, and I’m especially loving sweet almond oil.
xoN: We know you as an actress, but what is another special talent you have that most people don't know about?
AV: I trained as a classical violinist for 13/14years.
xoN: Who is your hero?
AV: My mom. She’s incredible - full stop.
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Johnny Marlow
xoN: How do you like to spend your down time?
AV: Ha! What’s that!? Jk jk, I love to travel, that’s honestly my favorite thing.
xoN: Who was your first celebrity crush?
AV: Prince.
xoN: What is your dream role?
AV: One day I will play a witch with Harry Potter-like powers!
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