Your Moon sign in Astrology represents how you nurture yourself and your life. Your Moon sign and what the Moon is doing in your birth chart represents your emotional world, how you handle your emotions, love, your relationship with your mother and women in general, and is also the area of your chart that is not noticed right away by others as it is a more hidden aspect of your personality and your life.
Connecting with your Moon sign and understanding this energy better can do wonders for your life, and when it comes to acts of nourishment. After all, in the words of the Sagittarius Moon Queen herself, Lauryn Hill, “How you gon’ win, when you ain't right within?”
Acts of nourishment are different for everyone and each sign has a different mode of attaining this energy in their life. A Mercury-ruled Moon sign such as a Virgo or Gemini Moon needs more of a mental release to feel nourished. These Moon signs tend to be more in their head than their heart, and finding ways to understand their emotional world is key to healing it. However, an emotional water Moon sign like a Scorpio or Pisces Moon needs to find ways to release their heavy emotions and connect more with reality and beauty that is around them.
Your Moon sign is where you want to go when understanding your emotions and how you work through them. If you have ever wondered why someone acted the way they did emotionally when you handle things in a completely different way, look at your Moon signs and their compatibility. Someone’s love language and experience of nourishment may be completely different than your own and there is no one way of nourishing yourself and your life.
By diving deep into the different Moon signs in Astrology, you can discover what self-care and nourishing acts benefit and support you most.
ARIES MOON
With an Aries Moon, exercise is a great way to regulate and nourish your emotional world. When you can get out of the house, do something exciting, and get your body moving, you feel like a completely new person. With an Aries Moon, activity is important for you so that your emotions don’t feel bottled up and ready to burst at any moment. You have a lot of emotional energy within you and need to find ways to release it. Having a daily routine, ritual, or physical exercise that lets you decompress and open up, does wonder for your heart.
TAURUS MOON
Having a Taurus Moon means nourishment, comfort, and safety are very important to you in life. To nourish yourself, you need to be feeling good from within to without. Things like self-care days, spa days, and taking the time out to treat yourself does wonders for you emotionally. To feel nourished in life, you need to be around the people that help you get there and if you are not in supportive or safe environments, you aren’t going to be feeling good. For you, it’s all about spoiling yourself or allowing another person to treat you.
Meditation does wonders for the Gemini Moon's soul.
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GEMINI MOON
Gemini Moons are all about mental decompression when it comes to nourishment. Meditation does your soul wonders as it allows you to fully connect with what’s going on in your head, which is a direct correlation to your emotional world. Being a Gemini Moon, you aren’t the most emotional Moon sign out there but that doesn’t mean you don’t need nourishment and care just like everyone else. Meditation, sound baths, journaling your thoughts, or reading a book are all beneficial ways for you to nourish yourself that align with who you are and what you need.
CANCER MOON
Being a Cancer Moon, you are born with nourishing energy. Cancer is the perfect sign for the Moon to be in, as it is the ruler of Cancer and feels at home here. Nourishment means everything to you in life and if you aren’t feeling the nourishment in your life, it can manifest as some chaotic energy outwardly. For you, acts of nourishment involve being at home, in your safe spaces, and around family or close loved ones. You love to feel needed and valued, and being around people that provide this equal reciprocity makes you feel stable. Connect with a loved one to reconnect to what nourishment feels like for you.
A Leo Moon can paint or create art as a way to nourish themselves.
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LEO MOON
Being a creative and bold soul, nourishment for a Leo Moon is all about lighting that spark within you. When you are not feeling the nourishment in your life it is usually because you are not feeling seen or heard. For a Leo Moon, your emotions are front and center, and you want to be acknowledged for how you are feeling. Having creative outlets where you can express yourself and how you are feeling means everything to you, and self-expression is how you feel nourished. To tap into nourishing energy in your life, go have fun, dance, paint, create or admire art, and repeat some self-love rituals that remind you how loved you truly are.
VIRGO MOON
A Virgo Moon is not for the faint of heart. Your energy flows mentally, which can get confusing with the Moon involved, as the Moon is all about your emotions and the heart. To feel nourished in your life, you need balance, release, and receptivity. Journaling your thoughts, writing daily gratitudes, meditation, and listening to soft music can help put you in a place of peace. Writing your thoughts is key for a Virgo Moon as it helps you see what you are truly feeling when your mind tends to get in the way of understanding your emotions as it loves to rationalize and organize. Meditate on it, Virgo Moon.
A clean space is a nourishing space for a Libra Moon.
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LIBRA MOON
As a Libra Moon, connection is something that makes you feel deeply nourished in life. You often see yourself in another, and you are somewhat of a mirror to others in life. You match the vibe of those around you which can be good if their vibe is positive, but not so good if someone is in a spiral around you. To nourish yourself, you need to assess your body and your emotional world and see if what you are feeling is truly yours, or the issues of someone else’s. For you, it’s important to cleanse your space and your body and protect your energy so that you can be in a clear space to feel the love and nourishment in your life.
SCORPIO MOON
With a Scorpio Moon, your energy and emotions are often heightened. You feel everything deeply and you need a trusting guide to help you understand everything that is going on within. Tapping into your higher self and receiving intuitive guidance is key for you to feel internally connected and at peace in your life. Pull a tarot card, look at what the stars are doing, or hire a trusted psychic or astrologer to help you reconnect to your spirituality. When you are feeling aligned spiritually, you feel good emotionally, and nourishment for you is about connecting to your inner guide.
A Sagittarius Moon wants to explore the world and connect with nature.
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SAGITTARIUS MOON
As a Sagittarius Moon, you are an adventurous soul. When you can explore the world around you, travel, and get out of your head, you feel aligned with what nourishment means to you. This is not to say that you should escape your emotions and not deal with them altogether, but going on a new adventure or journey with the intention that you are going to release, understand your emotions better, and connect with your inner self; you can make some significant progress on your journey. Go on a spiritual retreat, take that vacation you’ve been wanting to take, learn about a new culture or religion, and align with your spirit.
CAPRICORN MOON
A Capricorn Moon needs a lot of nourishment in life, but you may never admit this to anyone. You prefer to handle emotional stuff in private, and you aren’t the one to necessarily let others know when you are hurting or need nourishment in your life. However, being vulnerable, asking for help, and allowing someone to help get you to a better place can be life-changing for you. Talking to a therapist, a friend, or even journaling your thoughts can be a place of deep nourishment for you. Being an earth Moon Sign, going out in nature, and doing grounding rituals are also highly beneficial for you and your energy.
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AQUARIUS MOON
Aquarius Moons are more in their head than they are in their heart. This isn’t a bad thing, but when it comes to understanding what it takes to feel nourished in your life, all of this mental energy can get in the way of healing and regulating your emotions. To bring in the nourishment in your life, it’s all about getting out of your head and into your heart. Take the time to listen to your emotions without judgment or attachment, to figure out what you need. Give yourself some time each day to tap into your emotional world and how your heart is doing, take intentional action when it comes to what it needs, and release the rest.
PISCES MOON
As a Pisces Moon, you understand emotions more than most. You are highly attuned to your heart and everything that is going on within. However, this energy can feel overwhelming for you at times if you don’t have positive ways to release and regulate here. For you, a sense of nostalgia brings you to a nourishing place in your life. Watching your favorite movie, reading your favorite book, creating art, and healing your inner child are all ways to feel nourished in your life. When emotions feel high and life is feeling like too much to handle, visualize yourself as a child, and ask yourself what you need right now.
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It’s not like it has to be a bad thing. In fact, studies say that somewhere around 15 percent of engaged couples actually met through a friend. All I’m saying is, before you entertain someone’s “I’ve got someone I want you to meet” invitation, it would benefit you to interview them first — for the sake of all parties involved.
The questions that I recommend asking? The following six are what I think can get everyone on the same page, so that there is more pleasure than regret from the hook-up attempt.
1. Why Are They So Invested?
GiphyTwo things that I recently watched over again are the series Survivor’s Remorse (the writing is so damn good) and a movie called Trapped in Temptation (both are currently on Tubi). Something that both of them made me think about is the fact that motive reveals a lot when it comes to why people say and do the things that they do.
When it comes to the movie, specifically, without giving the film away — let me just say that, if you are in a relationship, be really careful about listening to individuals who try to talk you out of maintaining it. More times than not, the motive is shady as hell. And honestly, sometimes people who are close to obsessed with you being in one deserve a bit of side-eye too.
Now, if it’s someone who loves all things love, they are in love and they want you to experience something similar — that’s sweet. Just make sure that they are approaching the set up from a healthy space. What I mean by that is they don’t see singleness as some sort of relational handicap or they aren’t trying to override what you want for your life as if they somehow know better (there are so many ways to be a control freak, y’all).
Hmph. Now that I think about it — make sure that the set-up crew isn’t trying to use you to “save” some male friend or relative of theirs. I say that because I once knew a mother whose son had — count ‘em — 10 kids and she was FOREVER trying to get me to date him. Girl, that wasn’t for me. She was looking for a Holy Ghost Jr. for that child of hers. I’ll pass. HARD PASS.
Bottom line with this one — if someone wants to set you up with someone else, the first thing to ask is why? Make sure to really listen to what their answer is. Then pay attention to if your mind, body and spirit are at peace with their answer(s).
2. Do They Know What You Want?
GiphyI don’t know about y’all, but the people (and let’s be honest, by far, it’s usually women) who have tried to set me up with someone? They didn’t even know what my preferences or type was. Hell, they didn’t even know my thoughts or timeline as it relates to being in a serious relationship were either. And what that boils down to is they were trying to hook me up based on their agenda, not mine — and that usually meant that the guys who they came up with? Yeah…I was good on them. LOL.
Yeah, if someone wants to hook you up, you definitely should ask them if they know what you are looking for in a guy when it comes to his looks, personality, passions, spirituality, relational desires and goals, location, etc. Because, indeed, what is the point in going out with someone who is fine as hell and yet, you want kids and he doesn’t (or vice versa) or who has a great personality yet he isn’t even in the same ballpark of your spiritual beliefs?
If your friend really wants to help you out, valuing your time should come with that — and that means bringing someone into your life who complements your lifestyle. No wiggle room here.
3. Are They Aware of Your Deal-Breakers?
GiphyLast year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Should Bad Sex Actually Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?” The thing that I think needs to go on record about deal-breakers is they aren’t exactly standards that you have. No, a deal-breaker is something that can’t be worked out even after trying to negotiate or compromise. When it comes to relationships, a deal-breaker might be how long two people should date before becoming exclusive or getting engaged. Another deal-breaker might be if being religious is more important than being spiritual and how that manifests itself (church or no church, etc.). And yes, another deal-breaker may be what each other’s sexual needs and expectations are.
When someone is setting you up, it is imperative that they know about your standards. For instance, for me, I am not interested in dating a divorced person, pretty much ever (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I’ve had friends who have tried to hook me up with that demographic before and it has always been a moot effort. The fact that some of them have gotten frustrated with my convictions has absolutely nothing to do with me. Some have tried to get me to compromise my deal-breakers too — like a long-distance relationship. Is it a firm “naw”? No. However, it’s not really something that I am interested in, so why not just…recommend someone local?
Yeah, if someone thinks that they know you well enough to hook you up, they absolutely should be well-versed in what your deal-breakers are before they do. And if they’ve never asked, all they are doing is assuming — and we know what that typically means. LOL.
4. What Is Their Track Record?
GiphyIt’s kind of wild that we now live in a time when more couples meet online than they do through “old-fashioned ways” like via their friends (although some reports say that Gen Z is getting back to that) — and yet, here we are. Still, if you are willing to let someone play pseudo matchmaker in your life, you are well within your rights to inquire about their track record in that department. Have they hooked others up, successfully, before? Has any of their “Cupid work” caused both people to get exactly what they wanted out of the situation? If/when things went awry, why was that?
I know someone who is constantly trying to hook people up. Thing is, maybe 10-15 percent (no joke) of their efforts have proven to be positive and fruitful — and we’re talking about close to close to two decades of them doing it. Listen, time is too precious to be out here doing stuff ONLY to please other people. That said, if someone wants you to devote some time to one of their grand ideas, you are well within your rights to ask about their past and current success score when it comes to it.
5. Can They Keep Their Own Feelings Out of It?
GiphyWanna know if someone who is offering to do something for you is actually doing it more for themselves? If they try to make it be about them when things don’t go the way they would like, that is a dead ringer. An example? They post a message about you on social media and then question you about why you didn’t do the same thing in return. Another example? They do something for you and then throw it in your face during an argument. Still another example? They set you up with someone, it doesn’t work out, and suddenly you’ve put them in a weird spot. No dear — you put your own self in that position by trying to hook two people up in the first place.
I promise you, it will spare everyone unnecessary energy spent (or even drama experienced) if, before you agree to be hooked up, you get the matchmaker on record stating that they will keep their emotions out of it as much as possible. MEANING — they will do the introductions and then let the chips fall where they may. If they can’t do this, my two cents (save it or spend it) would be to decline the offer. Because all you need is someone texting you about why you haven’t called their cousin back or having an attitude with you when you break up with some guy at their church who they thought was the perfect catch (P.S. These aren’t hypothetical examples — LOL).
6. Will They Respect Your Boundaries? Start to Finish?
GiphyYeah, this final one is a biggie. Just because someone sets you up with another person, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily mean that they should have the right to the details of the dynamic. I don’t care if it’s the first date or the 10th date. I don’t care if you decide to just be sex buddies or to have a full-blown relationship. I don’t care if you stay together or break-up — it’s your relationship which makes it your business. Whatever you share is privileged data.
Yeah, I would say that probably the most challenging thing about being hooked up by someone you know is they have a tendency to think that they are a part of the relationship too — and that is a lie. If things go well beyond a couple of dates, you and the guy should discuss what you will both share with the person who introduced you and then agree to stick to that boundary, no matter what. It’s a great way to protect the dynamic, to keep “outside voices” from influencing the growth and to navigate how you want to move, moving forward.
Someone who hooked you up for the right reasons and knows how to honor limits? They will understand. Will they ask questions? Absolutely. Will they pry? Nah.
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Should you sit and let someone hook you up? I mean, you never know how your blessing will come. Just make sure that they are prepared for you to do some digging into their mindset before they start sweetly meddling into your love life.
It’s only fair. Hell, and right. LOL.
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