Brandy was only 16 when she was catapulted into the spotlight and 25 years later, our good sister's skin has still kept the same energy. Her appearance alongside our forever homegirl-in-our-head Monica in last Monday's Verzuz battle proved that not only does Black not crack, but it only gets better with time.
Although the artist formally known as Moesha is pretty low-key when it comes to dropping details about her personal life, in a 2016 interview with Allure, Brandy spilled all the details on how she's kept her skin on 10 for more than two decades. According to her, the first step to having great skin is falling in love with its evolution:
"It's a beautiful thing to grow and to see your face changing, and your body changing, and your mind changing. It's inevitable, so I definitely embrace it. But staying fresh and being your best self, that's what it's all about. It's about taking care of your health and being in the shape of your life, and eating the right way."
Brandy, who often likes to do her own makeup, says that along with her Beauty Blender and M.A.C. Mineralize Skin Finish Natural Powder, patience is a must-have part of her beauty routine:
"Patience is definitely the main thing with makeup, because you have to take the time to blend. You don't want harsh lines, and you have to give yourself enough time to do your face the right way. Contouring is also very important for me, because I don't have a bridge on my nose, and there's a lot of space in between my eyes, so I have to do different things with the contour that pulls it all together. I love contour, but not where it looks like I contoured. I've learned how to do it where it's very natural."
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Beauty Blender
Amazon
"I can't live without the Beauty Blender. That's my favorite thing ever. My makeup doesn't look good when I don't use it. I'm so thankful that [Beauty Blender founder] Rea Ann Silva just stepped it up with that vision. She used to do my makeup on Moesha, and she would always talk about this product, and to see her soar in the makeup field is unbelievable."
Diamond White Rich Luxury Cleanse
Saks Fifth Avenue
"Well, I found this product line about four years ago called Natura Bisse. I use its Diamond anti-aging collection. Usually I never really believe in that kind of that stuff, but these products are my favorite stuff ever. I use the Diamond White Rich Luxury Cleanse to clean my face."
Diamond Gel Cream
Saks Fifth Avenue
"I use the Diamond White Glowing Mask, I use the Diamond Extreme Eye cream for the bags, and I use the Diamond Gel Cream all over my face. It's a little pricey, but it works for me, so I spend my dough on my skin stuff. Because that's everything. You have to keep your skin looking nice. And I drink a lot of water. That definitely helps."
Nars Mizubake Kabuki Brush
NARS
"I go from my eyebrows down the sides of my nose, and I blend and blend. I like the way my eyebrows connect to the contour, because then it hides all the lines. I use the M.A.C. Mineralize Skinfinish Natural Powder in Deep Dark. It's not too dark, and it's not too light. It's perfect for a caramel girl. I also use different brushes to do the contour. I like the Nars Mizubake Kabuki Brush. It can do anything; it's the everything brush."
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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