What The Full Moon Partial Lunar Eclipse In Taurus Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Are you sitting down? Good. You need to be. November's full moon on November 19 highlights a partial lunar eclipse in Taurus - and frankly? It's going to be a little over the top! In astrology, Full Moons are periods of culmination. Unresolved issues that have been lurking in the background will be brought to the forefront of your consciousness for resolution and closure.
Lunar eclipses intensify the standard strength of your typical Full Moon, adding to its sense of urgency and emotional charge. Things that have been swept under the rug in your relationships and life circumstances will be brought to a head for a conclusion.
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You're likely to feel that your patience and tolerance have been spent during this time. Your emotions feel like they're bursting at the seams and this will be a period where you finally decide how to move forward from people and situations that have left you feeling bothered and unsettled. This will be particularly true if you are a Taurus, a Cancer, or if you have strong Taurus or Cancer placements in your natal chart.
If you were born between November 14 and November 24 or between May 14 and May 24, you're going to feel this energy particularly intensely!
Taking place in the sign of Taurus, we can collectively anticipate that this Full Moon phase will bring a period of culmination as it pertains to matters dealing with major societal structures - especially the economy, and our collective sense of security.
This month's full moon squares Jupiter, strongly suggesting the potential for overindulgence, extravagance, and reckless behavior. If you find yourself being a little charge-happy with your credit card or letting your guard down as it relates to COVID-precautions, this is why! Take heed that you may be feeling a little too optimistic right now and slow down.
On a positive note, this month's Full Moon in Taurus makes a harmonious aspect to Pluto providing us with the extra drive and support to make overdue changes and to positively transform ourselves and our lives from circumstances that have been holding us back. Any decisions that we make now are likely to go off smoother and without a hitch.
Another thing to note during eclipses, in general, is the strong potential for endings. Relationships can end and people may quite literally eclipse out of your life. Regardless of what happens during this period, you can rest assured that it is happening to move you closer to your intended purpose in life. Some people are meant to join you in your future journey, and some aren't.
Whatever doesn't remain in your life during this time wasn't meant to.
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Eclipses also tend to bring major news, random (but significant) events, and sudden realizations. Any epiphany that you experience during this eclipse, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, marks a shift in your consciousness. Something - a person, situation, or even an outdated perspective - is ending in order to make room for a new beginning.
An important note: This full moon features a partial lunar eclipse. Take it that you are in the dark about something and may not have the full picture of a person or situation. Take any revelations that you experience seriously, but hold off on making any permanent decisions until the energy of this eclipse subsides in the five days that follow it.
This eclipse marks the first of a series of eclipses that will last between now and October 2023. Collectively, we will experience shifts in our major societal structures (especially the economy), what we place value upon, and what makes us feel safe on a universal scale.
Expect shifts in the way we earn money, the value that we place on various forms of currency (hello, cryptocurrency), and what makes us feel safe and secure as a society.
Here's what your sign can expect to experience during the full moon partial lunar eclipse in Taurus:
- Aries: What do you have to hide, Aries? Expect sudden revelations as it relates to secrets you've been keeping from others - or even yourself. Now is a time for therapy, meditation, and deep introspection.
- Taurus: Expect shifts in the way you present yourself to society at large. You are likely to switch up your appearance or your outward personality. Get ready Taurus, this full moon marks the beginning of a brand new you!
- Gemini: Issues related to debt, your personal finances, your sense of self-worth, or the things that make you feel physically or emotionally vulnerable will arise now for conclusion or resolution.
- Cancer: Now is the time to scratch up on your communication skills, Cancer! You may decide to start journaling, to join a virtual writing group, to purchase that laptop you've been eyeing, to download that app that will help streamline the way you communicate with others, and with yourself. Take this time to strengthen your social media presence, it may pay off significantly over the next two years. An important conversation, an epiphany, or a shift in your relationship with a sibling or neighbor is possible during this time.
- Leo: Now's the time to get in touch with your roots, Leo. Your focus will be shifted to strengthening your foundation. Whether you're moving, redecorating your home, or figuring out how to strengthen your relationship with your family, expect the way you approach your home and family to shift. New awareness surrounding those things will begin to be sparked during this moon phase.
- Virgo: You've been responsible and reserved for so long, Virgo! Now's the time to loosen up and to prioritize FUN. Expect a boost in your creative self-expression. The way you approach sex, dating, love, creative self-expression, and your relationship with children will begin to shift now. Get ready.
- Libra: This full moon phase marks a renewal in your daily habits and nutrition. Incorporate a new diet or workout routine and stick with it for the long haul, Libra. You may make a realization about the ways you've been approaching work, health, and exercise and finally decide to make a change and cut out bad habits standing in the way of a better, happier you!
- Scorpio: In a serious relationship? You may both decide to take things to a more serious level or to split up altogether. Hold off on making any permanent moves until the energy of this eclipse subsides. Scorpio, you may find that you're a bit more impulsive than usual during this moon phase and you don't have the full picture of where you stand in your relationship yet!
- Sagittarius: Expect and embrace shifts in the way you view and experience sex, death, and investments. Deep interactions with another are highlighted during this moon phase. Keep an open mind, Sagittarius. Allow this experience to transform your perspective.
- Capricorn: Have you been feeling boxed in, Capricorn? Now's the time to pursue personal freedom. Expect major shifts as it relates to circumstances that have been restricting your growth or preventing you from experiencing life in a sincere and fulfilling way.
- Aquarius: Your career is highlighted during this moon phase, Aquarius! Are you unhappy in your field of work? If so, you may finally decide to make that career shift now. Happy with your career? Expect recognition and achievement for all that you've done. That hard work and dedication had better be paying off, otherwise, you're likely to decide to go where you're better suited and appreciated. This is a period of lifestyle design. You work to live, not the other way around! You won't be able to tolerate anything different now.
- Pisces: Are you being taken for granted in a friend group, Pisces? Do you feel like you've outgrown your friends or that things have become stagnant or toxic in your relationships with others? Expect revelations that will shift the way you approach friendships, volunteering, humanitarianism, activism, your overall involvement with groups, and your awareness of global issues.
Special note for all signs: The energy of the Full Moon in Taurus is especially chaotic. You are likely to feel particularly raw or vulnerable because your ability to absorb energy is intensified. Heal and ground yourself with protective crystals like Black Tourmaline to better withstand the tumultuous experiences that will inevitably accompany the Full Moon in Taurus phase.
Take special note of everything that you experience during this eclipse. They are simply a preview of what's to come for you between now and October 2022.
The themes highlighted for you now will take center stage in your life for the next two years. Buckle up - the way you approach these themes in your life is about to permanently change.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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Do You Want To Be A Wife? Or Do You Just Want To Have A Wedding?
Even though it’s my life, sometimes I look at it and totally trip out over certain things.
For instance, even though I am aware that both Hebrew and African cultures put a lot of stock in the name of a child (because they believe it speaks to their purpose; so do I) and I know that my name is pretty much Hebrew for divine covenant, it’s still wild that in a couple of years, I will have been working with married couples for a whopping two decades — and boy, is it an honor when they will say something like, “Shellie, we’ve seen [professionally] multiple people and no one has been nearly as effective as you have been.”
Yep, me. Little ole’ never-been-married-before me. Yeah, y’all better quit letting people tell you what you’re called to do in this world. That is between you and the One who made you.
Okay, but let me stay on track. When it comes to the engaged couples specifically, who have crossed my path, something that I believe I’ve said to each and every one of them (especially the bride-to-be) is — “You better enjoy every single minute of your wedding day because you deserve a big ‘ole party for all of the work that you’re about to do.” And then I look at the woman as intensely as I can and say, “And you? Remember, you are a bride for a day. You are a wife for the rest of your life.”
Why do I emphasize that point so much? It’s because those two things are not one and the same. Hmph. Let me tell it, a huge reason why 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women, however, is because a lot of them think that it is. And so, in the effort to do my part to help make marriages last longer and cause the divorce rate to go down, I think it’s important for more women to ponder if they really want to be a wife — or if they just want to throw a big party (a wedding), go on a trip (a honeymoon) and not much more than that.
Buckle in. This one might be a bit of a ride (for some, at least).
It’s Time to Stop “Living for the Fairy Tale”
GiphyIf you’ve been reading my content for a while (and if so, thank you), it will not shock you in the least that I’ve spent many years studying the origins of things as they directly relate to marriage. I know that the engagement ring is not about love but about a jewelry company that was about to go bust. So, they came up with the slogan “A diamond is forever” and then made some serious bank from it (you can read about that here).
I know that white wedding dresses have nothing to do with purity and virtue; in fact, women in the Bible often wore lots of bright colors during their more-than-one-day wedding celebrations. Actually, white comes from Queen Victoria making it famous back in the 1840s. I also know that a lot of people were pretty obsessed with evil spirits back in the day because things like wearing a wedding veil and bridesmaids wearing the same dresses were all about hiding from said spirits. Another pretty popular wedding day tradition? Well, I’ll just let you read Insider’s “Here's the horrifying truth about why grooms carry brides across the threshold,” if you’re interested.
And as far as marriage goes, don’t even get me started on the whole “I’m living for the fairy tale” narrative that gets pushed incessantly. I’ve said in other articles before that "fairy tale" literally means “a story, usually for children, about elves, hobgoblins, dragons, fairies, or other magical creatures” and “an incredible or misleading statement, account, or belief.” Who wants to live for childish stories that are incredibly misleading? And the ones that have a character like Prince Charming in it? The Bible literally says that “charm is deceitful” (Proverbs 31:30).
Know what else the Bible says? It states that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). So, what’s up with all of this wedding/marriage rhetoric that’s so popular and also, so… “silly” is the first word that comes to mind, “unrealistic” is the second and “unnecessary” is the third?
Why are there so many expectations, especially when it comes to the wedding day, that push folks to the point where a whopping 49 percent of couples end up going into debt right after jumping the broom — all because they wanted to live for the fairy tale and throw a big party that they basically couldn’t afford? SMDH.
It really is wild, just how much human nature tends to do things without even really knowing WHY it does it — even when it comes to marriage. And so, if you are someone who desires this type of union, be honest with yourself: what is your “why”?
When it comes to becoming a wife someday, WHY do you want to do that?
A man needing to spend three times his salary on an engagement ring, WHY?
When it comes to having a big traditional wedding, WHY is it necessary?
Marriage is a goal for you (and don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing) — WHY is that the case?
When it comes to being married, WHY do you think it will better serve you than your single state?
Motivational speaker Eric Thomas once said, “When you find your ‘why’, you will find a way to make it happen.” And when it comes to something as big (and supposed to be lifetime lasting) as marriage, perhaps a big part of the reason WHY so many of them do not go the distance is because there aren’t enough “why” questions, on the front end, that are asked (which is why you should partake in premarital counseling before your wedding day). Oh, but there should be.
Because saying “why” you want a huge wedding is nothing more than “because I want to” or “why” you chose the man that you did is simply “I love him” — I’ve been doing this couples work thing long enough to assure you that those answers simply aren’t good enough. You need to know what it means to be a wife and why a marriage and a wedding are not the same thing…not by the longest country mile that you can imagine.
What It Means to Be a Wife
GiphyIf you’ve been reading my content for a while now, you know that I’m good for throwing some Scripture in; it’s a part of my foundation and I make no apologies for it. And so, when it comes to what it means to be a wife, the first word that’s used to define it in the Bible is “helpmate” (Genesis 2:18). A helpmate is a companion, a helper and someone who assists another individual — in this case, a husband.
While we’re here, a helper is not helping unless the help is actually needed and it’s good. Lawd, I can’t tell you how many wife clients I’ve had who have totally missed that part. So, what does “good help” look like?
- A good helper ASKS the person they are assisting what they need.
- A good helper does not try to control another person or make them do what they want.
- A good helper gets that needs can shift based on what is transpiring at any given time.
- A good helper makes things easier and less stressful.
- A good helper learns how to master good listening, effective communication, and wise timing.
And yes, in many ways, this is what it means to be a good wife. So, if you are someone who desires marriage, when it comes to what is required to be not just a wife but a GOOD WIFE, how much have you factored helping your man into the dynamic?
Not mothering him. Not bossing him around. Not trying to manipulate him into being a version of a husband that you would prefer. No, how much thought have you put into “Am I equipped to help another person be their best self? Am I ready to be supportive, encouraging, and nurturing? Was it even modeled to me, while growing up, to know what a proper helpmate looks like? Have I realized how much sacrifice goes into that type of role? Am I even selfless enough to be a consistent helper?”
I know this is probably gonna ruffle some feathers yet, you know something that I’m not big on? Women saying that their man should give them the “princess treatment.” Every time I hear that, the first thought that comes to my mind is “Fathers make their daughters princesses while men make their wives a queen” — and little girls are treated differently than grown women. And to that, Proverbs 12:4(NKJV) says, “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.”
My point? There is a MATURITY that is to come from going from princess to queen. A queen does have more privileges, yet, at the same time, she also has way more responsibility. It’s not about sitting around and being catered to all day long. Queens have work to do — and it’s not always comfortable or pretty. Same thing goes for being a wife.
Y’all, I could go on and on (and on and on and on) about what it means to be a wife in a marriage. For now, I’ll just end this part of the article with, “If you’re not ready to help, each and every day of your relationship, you’re not ready to be a wife.” Plain and simple.
Weddings Are Not Marriages (and Vice Versa)
GiphySo, why do so many people jump brooms (I’m writing this with Black folks in mind first; jumping brooms is for us only), only to turn around and get divorced a few years later? Oh, I could go on and on as well about how a lot of people don’t have much integrity when it comes to the promises that they make. Listen singles, when you’re dating someone, pay very close attention to whether the person you’re seeing keeps their word — and if you do the same.
It makes absolutely no sense to keep letting someone slide when it comes to reneging now, only to act shocked when they do the same thing after saying “I do.” And while we’re here, being a man or woman of your word is a character issue. Maybe folks are not strong in character when it comes to this.
Yet another reason why folks will get all dolled up, stand before God, family, and friends, look someone straight in the eye, and promise to never leave, only to do just that, is because many people honestly don’t see past their wedding (and maybe their newlywed years). That is why you will hear so many people describe their perfect wedding day, down to the last detail, and yet, if you ask what their five-year plan for their marriage is, they have absolutely not one clue.
I mean, I get it — to a certain extent. A wedding is a big party where you get to dress to the nines, have people come to celebrate you and you get to have everything go your way — down to the font on the programs and reception napkins. Oh, but what a “trick” that can be if you think that your marriage is going to move like that, all of the time, moving forward. I liken it to The Bachelor franchise. Who wouldn’t feel like they are falling for someone when they’re able to live in a mansion with no bills, have fantasy dates that cost thousands of dollars, and a big ole’ rock that a famed jeweler donates?
Meanwhile, folks should watchUnREAL (the television series from several years back where some former producers of the franchise talk about what really happens behind the scenes) to get a reality check. To a certain extent, the same thing goes for marriage: while weddings produce this belief that marriage will be one big party where everyone focuses on you and everything goes your way, that isn’t even close to being the reality of being married.
Honestly, the real deal is 1) if you don’t want to learn how to love on a supernatural level; 2) if you don’t want your strengths to be refined and your weaknesses to be challenged; 3) if you don’t want to be held accountable in ways that you would never be if you remained single; 4) if you don’t want to compromise on a daily basis and, 5) if you don’t want to be challenged to become a truly selfless individual — marriage isn’t for you.
You’d be far better off just throwing a big ass party for yourself, just because (and no, I don’t mean marry yourself; you are already “one” with you; no need for that), and call it a day. Spare yourself and another person the heartache of divorce because…divorce is A LOT to go through.
Lawd, I can only imagine how much drama could be spared if folks simply took into their spirit that weddings ARE NOT marriages and marriages ARE NOT weddings. Weddings are a party to celebrate your union — yet your union? That requires daily energy, effort, and time. It’s not a party. It’s a relationship. BIG DIFFERENCE.
Please Don’t Get Married Until You’re Sure That You Want…BOTH
GiphyAnd this is why, whenever someone tells me that they are going to get married, I don’t immediately respond with, “Congrats! That’s awesome.” NOPE. The very first thing that comes out of my mouth is something along the lines of, “For real. Why?” WHY? Because, it never fails that, about 7.5 times outta 10, folks will be caught off guard and say, “What do you mean ‘why’?” and then follow that up with, “Because I’m in love” or…they don’t really know what to say at all.
Is being in love a good answer? I mean, it explains why you picked the person that you did; it doesn’t really explain why you are choosing to commit to them for the rest of your life, on a marital level, though. Are you getting married because you know that the two of you will make each other better people? Are you getting married because you want to raise your children in a two-parent dynamic? Are you getting married for biblical reasons like wanting to love like Christ loves his bride (the Church and the Church sent him through A LOT — Ephesians 5)?
Are you getting married because you think you’ve gone as far as you can in your evolution as an individual without the assistance of another? Are you getting married because you want to serve another person as they do the same for you (perhaps not in the same ways because you’re both different people)?
Is that asking the most? Chile, that’s not asking enough. I don’t care how much people mock marriage in the media by changing partners like they change cars or homes. I don’t care how much divorce has been normalized. I don’t care how much folks like to act like a husband is a 2.0 boyfriend (it’s not) and having a wife is a 2.0 girlfriend (it’s not) — marriage is special, sacred, and needs to be honored as such. A wedding should be seen as a happy occasion where two people publicly acknowledge what I just said…not simply a time to get a lot of attention and presents only to come home and go from heaven to hell in six months.
And honestly, that’s a bit part of the reason why I do what I do: it’s because I actually think the covenant of marriage is SO MAGNIFICENT that I want to make sure that people know, as much as possible, what they are signing up for — not an endless wedding; a very real relationship that will challenge them and mature them like nothing else ever will in this lifetime.
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This was a lot. I already know. Still, it beats spending thousands of dollars on a wedding to stand before a chaplain only to spend thousands of more dollars several years later on a divorce lawyer and therapy while standing before a judge.
Weddings are awesome; you’ll get no argument from me there. Still, I think if I was to narrow all of this down into one statement, it would simply be this: “When it comes to marriage, if the thought of being a wife doesn’t excite you more than being a bride — wait. You’re not ready yet.”
Thank me later, sis. YOU WILL.
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