5 Ways to Reach Multiple Orgasms Alone

1. Tone your pelvic floor muscle

Strong pelvic floor muscles = stronger orgasms.

You need to do a bit of groundwork for mind-blowing orgasms. It’s not just all about sex. Like most things in life, you need to sow and do some work before you can harvest rewards. In this case, your seeds are Kegel exercises.

How to do Kegel exercises:

1. Find the most comfortable position for you. For example, you can sit comfortably or lie on your back.
2. Engage your pelvic muscles by squeezing them 10 to 15 times: clench, then release.
3. Hold the “clench” for 2 seconds before releasing it.
4. If you’re unsure, the feeling is similar to holding your pee.
5. Slowly increase the intensity or repetitions over time. Walk before you run.

2. Relax and take a break in between

A refractory period is a time your body recovers after an orgasm. So there is really a “break time” because, uh, biology. That said, some vulva owners can orgasm one after the other with no refractory period. But for most of us, a little breather is necessary. Literally.

Don’t forget to breathe. Not breathing could impact the likelihood of climaxing for the second or third time. That little break should give your body enough time to reset while not stopping the arousal. You can stimulate other erogenous zones of your body, switch positions or maybe take a sip of a glass of water.

3. Try a different kind of stimulation

An orgasm could make your clitoris extra sensitive. During these times, some can’t bear their pleasure button to be touched. This is the perfect opportunity to experiment and switch stimulation. Play with your breasts, nipples, inner thighs, perineum, etc.—the sky's the limit, and it’s totally up to you.

Sensation play might also be something you’d want to explore to add spice to the session. Trying something new always makes solo sessions more fun. If your clitoris is not too sensitive and clitoral stimulation is what gets you off, you can apply different techniques as well.

Some examples are:

• Rubbing - Slide your fingers up and down or back and forth across the clit or clitoral hood.
• Tapping - Tap the clit and hood as fast (or slow) as you like.
• Circling - Draw circles around the clit and hood, including the labia along the way.
• Pinching - Pinch your clitoral hood in between your first two fingers and gently tug it up and down.
• Grinding - Grind your pelvis on something—your pillow, the sheets… and so on.

4. Concentrate on your breathing

Breathwork is key to multiple orgasms (and orgasms in general). It clears your mind so that you can stay in the moment. Your body is super connected to your mind. When you’re stressed, it could impact your ability to orgasm. So breathe slowly and deeply as you orgasm.

As your body nears climax and your arousal levels peak, your body will naturally incline to switch to short, huffy breaths. Fight that urge. Continue breathing slowly. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth (like when meditating). This breathing technique is a great way to enhance the sensation.

5. Bring out the toys

Adding a sex toy or two elevates the sexploration, making the entire experience more pleasurable for you during solo play (plus with your partner during sex). Almost half of the female participants from a study were revealed to be multi-orgasmic when they use sex toys to aid their sexual activities. So, why not?

These sex toys could help vulva owners achieve multiple orgasms:

• Doxy Die Cast - A wand massager that packs a lot of power and sends deep, rumbly vibrations to your clit and various erogenous zones.
• Lelo Soraya Wave - A top-shelf rabbit vibrator that provides both clitoral and internal stimulation. The insertable arm is powered by their patented WaveMotion tech that feels like you’re being expertly fingered… by a vibrator.
• Lovense Lush 3- A wearable egg vibrator perfect for public and long-distance partnered play. Of course, you can also enjoy it solo by connecting it to your smartphone to enjoy customizing vibration patterns, music syncing, and sound-activation functions.
• We-Vibe Tango X- One of the most powerful bullet vibrators with 7 rumbly vibration patterns and 8 adjustable speeds to give you a variety of sensations. Plus, it’s super portable and easy to hide.
• Satisfyer Pro 2- A budget-friendly clitoral stimulator that creates changes in air pressure to deliver pleasure. You get 11 levels of intensity, so you can find a configuration that gives you multiple orgasms without putting anything inside yourself. Plus, it works underwater.

Practice makes perfect

Rome wasn’t built in a day. So if you didn’t orgasm multiple times after your first few tries, don’t lose hope. It takes practice to be better at something—including multiple orgasms.

The more you train, the easier it will be for you to achieve your second, third, fourth (and so on) orgasm.

Orgasmed or did not, multiple or just one—NO PRESSURE. It’s not a requirement or an end goal.

If you enjoyed the journey, then it was a success. The best part? You can always keep trying.

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