Saturn entered Pisces on March 7, 2023, after moving through Aquarius since March 2020. The Saturn in Aquarius era brought us the global pandemic and was a huge time of stripping what isn’t authentic and ushering in the Age of Aquarius. Saturn in Pisces sings a different tune as this water sign is more in their heart, rather than their head. Saturn in Pisces brings forth a time of healing and having compassion for yourself and others. Saturn, the planet of Karma, is known for giving tough love and now moving through a sign who shies away from this type of energy, there are a lot of different dynamics that are at play. Saturn will be in Pisces from March 7, 2023 - May 24, 2025, and September 1, 2025 - February 12, 2026.
The thing about Saturn in Pisces is that Saturn in this sign teaches us more about boundaries, spirituality, transformation, the importance of maintaining healthy goals, and how to meet the universe halfway. Saturn in Pisces can get messy, but it is also a time when people will be seeing clearly where changes need to be made and will be cleaning up their act a bit. Pisces rules the 12th house which is the house of addiction and emotional patterning, and a lot of people will be working on overcoming these issues during this time. Mutable signs (Pisces, Virgo, Gemini, and Sagittarius) will be feeling this transit the most, as it’s hitting closer to home for these signs.
Saturn’s move into Pisces also ushers in a new wave of people who are now starting their Saturn Return. This Saturn transit is unique in that this is the last wave of millennials entering their Saturn Return because when Saturn moves out of Pisces and into Aries in 2026, Gen Z will begin their first Saturn Return. Overall, those who are between the ages of 27-31 are entering their Saturn Return right now with Saturn’s move into Pisces, and they are entering a journey of adulthood, growth, and spiritual awakening. If you were born between any of these dates, between March 23, 1964 and September 16, 1964; between December 16, 1964 to March 3, 1967; between May 21, 1993 to June 30, 1993; and January 28, 1994 to April 7, 1996, you are now in your Saturn Return. To read more about what to expect during your Saturn Return, check out our previous article here.
Overall, Saturn in Pisces is a time when the collective drops any facades, and the truth is revealed. We are moving through an enlightening time in the world and this time is all about having compassion. Read below to see what Saturn’s move into Pisces means for you.
Saturn is now in your 12th house for the next few years and you are entering a deep journey of healing and overcoming the past. Your past, your history, your emotional patterning, and where healing still needs to take place are coming to fruition at this time, and there will be a lot coming to the surface for you. Secrets are revealed, emotions are exposed, and your mental health should be the priority right now. This is Saturn’s last transit before entering your sign, so this is really your opportunity to release what you need to, emotionally heal, and prepare for a new chapter in life. Over the next few years, there will be some cycles coming to a close and culminations happening in your life.
Saturn in Pisces influences your friendships, social network, community, and your hopes and dreams in life. It can feel difficult to manifest and get inspired for the time being, and you will be working through these difficulties during this time. Saturn will be helping you grow in regard to finding the type of friendships, soul connections, and community of people who support you and love you for who you are. This is also a time of finding new ways to feel confident and secure enough to go after your dreams and goals in life. Inspiration can feel hard to come by at times during this transit, and you will be discovering and uncovering where you truly find that empowerment and inspiration.
Your career life, professional world, successes, and achievements will all be going through a growth spurt now. Being a mutable sign, you will be feeling this transition of Saturn in Pisces more strongly than most. Over the next few years, you could be changing careers or feeling more challenged to reach your goals and to get real on what is restricting you from obtaining them. This time is all about overcoming fears and allowing yourself to be seen and heard in all your glory. This is the time to not be afraid to show up and take up space because you deserve to.
You are moving through a unique adventure now, Cancer. Saturn in Pisces brings the energy to your 9th house of travel, adventure, spirituality, higher education, and belief systems. You are going to spend more time within and in reflection over the next few years and can feel some difficulty when it comes to pursuing adventure, taking time off, and traveling. Saturn will be shaking things up for you to help you question some beliefs and ideals in order to define what holds true for you, where your moral compass lies, and what spirituality means to you. Your Saturn transit will be helping you grow wiser.
Saturn in Pisces will be challenging you to address your commitments and to see what and who is worth your time and energy, and where you are feeling more restricted than empowered. Saturn will be moving through your 8th house of intimacy, commitments, taxes, debts, shared finances, and death. This is a good time to pay off debts, get your affairs in order, and address any imbalances between the giving and receiving in your life. The 8th house is also a relationship house and you will be feeling more pressure to connect and discover a new sense of intimacy and vulnerability within your relationships. Your Saturn transit is about overcoming emotional and financial fears.
Virgos will especially feel this Saturn in Pisces transit as Virgos are a mutable sign like Pisces, but it is also Pisces' opposite sign. With your Sun forming an opposition to Saturn now, there is a lot to learn over the next few years, and you will be growing within your relationships with others. Saturn will be in your house of love, marriage, one-on-one relationships, platonic friendships, and personal finances. You are moving through a time of figuring out what love and true connection mean to you, and how to close the gap that separates you from self-love and love from others. Saturn in Pisces is awakening the heart for you.
Saturn’s move into Pisces is all about health, the body, and your working life, Libra. Saturn moving through your 6th house over the next few years is likely to bring some changes into your daily routine and will be pushing you to develop more healthy habits and daily rituals. This is the time when you are likely to see changes in your working life and your relationship with colleagues, and even though challenges may arise here, you will overall be finding ways to feel better about what’s happening in this area of your life. This transit is about feeling better within your body and own skin, and then seeing how this translates to your daily life and happiness.
Saturn’s move into a fellow water sign means that the energy is moving into your 5th house of romance, happiness, self-expression, hobbies, children, and play. The 5th house is all about having fun, and Saturn is all about putting the work in so you can see where difficulties may arise. You could be feeling more pressured to make time for more fun and freedom, but feeling limited in doing so. Saturn will be helping you uncover what happiness means to you, what your heart needs, and where you can develop greater self-confidence and self-love. This is the time to release any self-imposed blocks and to feel more comfortable taking up space, expressing yourself, and letting yourself shine.
Sagittarius is another mutable sign that will be feeling this transit strongly. You are moving through a journey of getting back to the basics and figuring out what truly matters to you. Saturn will be bringing things to the surface in regard to your home, family, history, relationship with your mom, and inner foundations. A lot of people move during this transit, see changes in the home, and may feel some friction within their family life and around close loved ones. This is all arising for healing to take place, and for Sagittarius right now, this time is all about healing from the past, from childhood trauma, and from experiences that you may feel like you have already addressed. This is a time of inner child healing and overcoming past emotional patterning.
This Saturn transit for you is all about communication. The restrictions you are feeling over the next few years have to do with your immediate environment, siblings, neighbors, business ventures, communication, and transportation. You may be feeling a little out of the loop at times during this transit as communication channels are sure to experience some shake-ups and restrictions. However, Saturn doesn’t want you to shy away from self-expression and communication. Saturn wants to help you address any mental hurdles that have been there, so you can communicate more effectively and confidently. This transit will also be helping you grow stronger foundations within your relationships and those in your immediate environment.
Saturn is officially out of your sign, and you can take a breath of fresh air. Saturn’s move out of Aquarius and into Pisces is major for you and changes the tone of your life altogether. The past few years have been especially challenging for Aquarius with Saturn in your sign since 2020, and you are finally ready to let it go. Saturn is now in your 2nd house of income, and you will be experiencing some financial shake-ups and growth here. This time is all about investing in yourself, investing wisely, creating a plan and structure in your life, and letting go of the excess. Be careful when it comes to spending and saving over the next few years, but overall, you are leaving a difficult time and entering a better one now, Aquarius.
Saturn enters your sign, and you are entering a time of major personal growth in your life. Saturn takes about 29 years to move through each sign, so this is a long time coming for you. Saturn being in your sign over the next few years brings up identity issues, and possible challenges with self-confidence, and overall will be helping you readdress some of your personal goals and life path. Saturn will be challenging you to find that confidence and self-love within, before seeking that validation from others. Plans may change, and by the end of this transit, who you see in the mirror may look very different. However, overall this is your time to break free, overcome, and truly live the life you have always dreamed of and be the person you want to be.
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7 Sex-Related Problems That Ruin Sex (And Possibly Your Relationship)
Not too long ago, while in an interview, someone asked me to define one of the main purposes of sex in a long-term relationship: “Probably the most intimate form of communication that we have is sex because it’s an act that connects one’s physical, mental and emotional state to another human being simultaneously — and communication doesn’t get much more profound than that.”
That’s part of the reason why the term “casual sex” irks me to the billionth degree (check out “We Should Really Rethink The Term 'Casual Sex'”); it’s because, even if you think that sex with someone is next-to-nothing, there is so much going on within you (oxytocin highs, if you’re unprotected, fluid bonding, chemical reactions in your brain, etc.) that doesn’t know if someone is “the one” (in your mind) or not. So, in many ways, it acts like they are (check out this YouTube video from a Catholic woman who studies some unexpected ways that sex affects us physically here; sex goes deep, y’all!).
Yeah, sex is so much more than a notion, and that’s why I’m a firm believer that it is such a barometer for long-term relationships overall — because, as I’ve shared before, I once read that, “Good sex in a relationship is 10 percent of the relationship while bad sex in a relationship is 90 percent of the relationship because sex tends to set the tone for what’s happening in the rest of the house.”
And that’s why I think that there are certain sex-related issues that can not only damage your sex life with your partner but could also end up ruining your relationship if you’re not careful (very careful). Let’s get into seven of them now.
1. Being Unaware of Your “Body Clock”Giphy
I can’t tell you how many clients I’ve had who’ve come to me in some serious trouble, in part due to their flailing (or partly nonexistent) sex life. When I ask them if they went to premarital counseling (if you’re engaged, please do; you have a 33 percent greater chance of avoiding divorce when counseling transpires), many say “no” and the ones who say “yes” usually say that it was no more than 3-5 sessions and the topic of sex barely came up (le sigh). Meanwhile, with my premarital meetings, I try and stick with intimacy for three months if I can because there is a lot to unpack, from what you learned as a child, to your first time (or if you are a virgin), to your needs and fantasies, to how you see it from a spiritual perspective — like I said, there is a lot to unpack there.
Take the mere practicality of sex, for example — and more specifically, your body clock. Do you prefer to have sex at night or in the daytime? A lot of couples struggle with intimacy because one prefers the former while the other likes the latter. Do you keep track of when you’re ovulating? It’s pure science why you are probably hornier during that time of the month (because your body is signaling that it’s time to conceive) vs. the fact that you might not be the most interested in sex when you’re PMS’ing. Are you premenopausal? Hormones shift a lot during that time, and here’s the thing — while menopause only lasts a year, the premenopausal stage (which typically starts between 45-55) can last between 7-14 years. Even paying attention to when you have more energy (some do in the day…morning sex, anyone? While others do early in the evening) can play a role.
So yeah, getting to know your body clock (and discussing your partner’s clock with them) can play a role in how much — or how little — sex you have…and that can add life or drain it from the relationship overall.
2. Comparing Your Present with Your PastGiphy
There is a wife of almost 20 years I know who, when I asked her if she thought that her husband was good in bed, she paused for a second, shrugged her shoulders, and simply said, “I was a virgin when I got married, so I have nothing to compare him to. I mean, he’s good to me.” On the flip side, there’s a now divorced couple who I also know (who almost made it to 20 years) who had multiple partners before each other while also having a deep interest in porn who once said to me, “Sometimes, there’s as much as 15 people in our bed because of all of the people from our past and the porn that we’ve seen that’s running through our heads.” Yeah, y’all can act like body counts don’t matter, but there is so much evidence out here that says otherwise — that couple just gave one that doesn’t get talked about as much as it should.
You know, one of my favorite throwback shows is King of Queens (Kevin James, Leah Remini). A few weeks ago, I watched a rerun where Doug and Carrie were talking about the images that come up in their minds, sometimes during sex. Neither was too happy about it, and I can totally see why. I mean, if sex was just about “getting off” (and it’s not), then whatever. However, AGAIN, it’s also about connecting with your partner on a mental and emotional level, and that’s hard to do if you’re there with them in the body while you’re fantasizing about a celebrity, a porn actor (porn is usually acting, don’t let it fool you) or an ex (check out “You Love Him. You Prefer Sex With Your Ex. What Should You Do?”).
And what if that is what’s going on? I once spoke with a sex therapist about this very thing. What she said is people should be less concerned about celebs (if it’s on occasion) and more concerned about that ex because rarely is sex with an ex…just about the sex.
And that’s why this point made the list. If you’re physically with your partner and mentally or emotionally with your ex at the same time, please don’t ignore that. There are definitely some unresolved issues there that you need to work through, whether it’s with a therapist, counselor, or coach, a trusted friend (who won’t add fuel to the literal fire), or even with your ex — although you might want to run that by your partner first because…I’m pretty sure you’d want him to do that with/for you. RIGHT?
3. Not Being Clear About Your Sexual NeedsGiphy
Question — if someone were to walk up to you right now and ask you what your top seven sexual needs are, along with what your top five sexual dealbreakers are, would you be able to answer? It really is kind of wild how many people get upset with their partner for not being able to sexually satisfy them when even they can’t articulate what they need/require in order for that to happen. Yeah, it’s another article for another time about how many people UNREALISTICALLY (and yes, I am yelling it) think that someone loving them well means that they should be able to read their mind. Nope.
It truly can’t be said enough that sex — especially good sex — is about communication. Hmph. It makes me think about a clip that I saw from Tonight’s Conversation podcast (can’t find it at the moment; sorry) where a woman asked how she should tell her partner that he hasn’t been pleasing her, I believe she said for years. My first thought was if he doesn’t know that, she must be faking orgasms (more on that in a bit) which is not only lying — well, it is —, but it’s also pretty counterproductive because while he thinks that he’s “getting the job done,” she’s not fulfilled and resentment is setting in.
Please don’t let rom-coms (fiction) and social media (which is oftentimes fictitious) have you out here thinking that a good lover is someone you automatically gel with who knows exactly what to do; sometimes that is the case, and oftentimes it isn’t.
So, if the sex-related issue that you’re having in your relationship is that your sexual needs aren’t being met, first do you (and your partner) a favor by doing some sex journaling (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”) so that you can tangibly see what those needs are and then plan time within the next week or so to pour a couple of glasses of wine, put on some 90s R&B and discuss with your partner what you need. Because actually, what a good lover is, is someone who listens and retains. This brings me to the next point.
4. Minimizing Your Partner’s Sexual NeedsGiphy
A husband once told that when he and his wife were in premarital counseling, something that he mentioned was a bona fide need was fellatio. According to him, his wife told both him and their counselor that she loved giving head. Fast forward to eight years of being in their union, and guess how many times that act went down? A measly four. FOUR TIMES (check out “Sooo...What If You HATE Oral?”).
It’s another message for another time, the amount of people who will “false advertise” during the dating stage in order to get to their goal of marriage. It’s also another message for another time how much that is a form of manipulation that tends to backfire in ways that the manipulator is oftentimes not prepared for.
For now, what I will say, is never think that just because something may not be a need for you that it isn’t a legitimate one for someone else. I mean, how would you feel if that’s how someone treated you? Yeah…exactly.
Yet that is just what happens in a lot of relationships, including when it comes to their bedroom. They will think that their needs should be met, hands down, yet when their partner comes with what’s important to them, all of a sudden, there is dismissiveness, nonchalance, and/or excuses — and how could that not rear its ugly head on so many levels?
Your partner’s sexual needs are essential, even if they are not your own. Never assume that you automatically know everything about them. Also, never assume that what worked two years ago is what will “scratch the itch” now. Hmph. Come to think of it, while you’re sipping on that wine and clearly articulating to him what turns you on, use that as an opportunity to ask him to return the favor. Listen with humility, receptiveness, and intent — the best kind of relationships process their partner’s needs with this kind of vibe…across the board.
5. Taking the “If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It” ApproachGiphy
Lazy lovers. When you hear that phrase, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? If it’s someone who is just lying there during sex, that would certainly qualify; however, I’m actually speaking of a different kind of laziness here. Believe it or not, some synonyms for lazy include words like apathetic, inattentive, tired, passive (cough, cough), procrastinating, neglectful, and slacking. So yeah, if you and/or your partner can use any of these words to define what sex is consistently like between the two of you — red flag, red flag…RED FREAKIN’ FLAG.
Speaking of being passive, another potentially serious sex-related problem is taking on the attitude that if something ain’t broke, you shouldn’t fix it. What I mean by that is, just because you know that getting on top and riding for exactly six-and-a-half minutes is what will get your partner off, that doesn’t mean that it should be your automatic go-to all of the damn time.
Why? Because. While a part of the fun of having sex is “reaching the peak,” another component that should never be underestimated is discovering new territory: trying new positions, creating a sex bucket list, taking (more) sexcations, playing sex-themed board games (put that phrase in Amazon or on Etsy’s site and go ham!)…you know, doing what will inspire creativity and deter either of you from becoming bored.
That said, a husband of 17 years once told me, “A man can be satisfied with the same woman. We just don’t want the same kind of sex with her.” Words to live by. Yes, indeed.
6. Using Sex as a Deflection or Coping MechanismGiphy
A few years ago, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Make-Up Sex Might Be Doing Your Relationship More Harm Than Good” — and with good cause. Words cannot express how many divorced (or soon-to-be divorced) women have told me that a part of what kept them in their marriage, for as long as they stayed in it, was the fact that the sex with their husband was beyond amazing…even though so much other stuff completely and totally sucked. Hey, good sex isn’t a bad thing (c’mon now); however, if it’s the only real thing that’s keeping you with someone, it can turn out to be a toxic deflector.
The reason why I say that is the purpose of sex isn’t to make love; it’s to celebrate it. And if all you’re doing with your partner is f — king and fighting or avoiding issues by stripping down or thinking that sex will “make it all better,” all the while not really knowing what the problem/issue is or what needs to be done to get down to the root of it, that is using sex as a pacifier and again, that’s not what sex is designed to be. Sex doesn’t deserve the pressure of being the end-all to “fixing” ish.
So, if what’s transpiring in your relationship lately is very little talking and a whole lot of sexing, and then once the sex is over, something still feels “off,” that’s a good indication that you’re misusing sex on some level. Get out of the bed, put on a robe, and do some talking (preferably in a room other than the bedroom; leave that space for sex and sleep only as much as possible). Because remember — as much as the wives that I mentioned said that their husbands once had them climbing the walls, those men are still ex-husbands now. Bottom line, sex is good, yet when it comes to keeping a relationship together, it will never be enough. Again, it was never designed to be.
7. Faking ItGiphy
I will never be a fan of faking orgasms. Maybe it’s because I’m a Gemini (we may be a lot of things, but “fake” isn’t really our style). Maybe it’s because I’m a very word-literal individual, and I know that fake means things like “prepare or make (something specious, deceptive, or fraudulent)” and “to conceal the defects of or make appear more attractive, interesting, valuable, etc., usually in order to deceive.” Or perhaps it’s because I don’t get how acting like you’re sexually fulfilled when you actually aren’t is doing anyone any good. Whatever it is, whenever a client (or someone in general because men fakealmost as much as women do) tells me that it’s something they do, I immediately find myself on a mission to shut that mess down (check out “Why You Should Stop Faking Orgasms ASAP”). ALL THE WAY DOWN.
The main reason is that, regardless of if the motive is to hurry things along, not hurt your partner’s feelings, or it’s something more cryptic than that (cough, cough, some form of manipulation tactic), there’s no way around the fact that fakeness is tied to deception and deception is a word that should never be connected to a healthy sexual dynamic.
Besides, one could argue that faking is a form of deflection as well because…wouldn’t it be better to just get it all out in the open WHY you are doing it than to keep pretending when life is too short and great sex is too good to not get the absolute most out of it, as much as possible?
Besides, again, chances are that if you’re faking that you’re sexually pleased, you’re probably faking something else in your relationship (or situation), and how could that possibly be good, right, or beneficial?
Yeah, when it comes to being satisfied across the board, please don’t fake it. State your case in the way that you’d like to hear something said to you, and let the chips fall where they may. If you’ve got a good man, he’s gonna — no pun — rise to the occasion. If his ego can’t handle it, well…that’s something that you should find out sooner than later — when it comes to the bedroom and outside of it? Right? #shoyouright
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