
Get It Together: How These Organizational Tips Can Get Your Life Back On Track

Adulting comes with many responsibilities and one of the most essential yet sometimes hard to do, is to be properly organized so that your life runs as smoothly as possible.
Whether you are someone who has always struggled with getting your life organized, or your hectic lifestyle has made the organizational process a challenge, it may seem that fixing your issues is more trouble than it's worth.
You can take a deep breath because, luckily for you, there are a few tips that can get you back on track in no time and we've compiled them into a handy list. By following these helpful tips, your current chaotic lifestyle will hopefully be a thing of the past.
1.Write Things Down
This tip is so simple yet with technology in the palm of our hands, courtesy of smartphones and computers, writing things down has almost become something of a dated practice. If you can't recall the last time you actually wrote something down, you should definitely start. Think of writing things down as an extra insurance policy in the event that you lose/damage your phone or your computer crashes. Having a written backup of things you need to do and other important information, can save you a lot of hassle and headache when things get too crazy.
2.Resist Procrastination
Repeatedly putting off things in your life that need to be done won't help them go away. In fact, procrastinating just makes things even worse. There may be valid reasons why you procrastinate about things, such as needing more rest, something else taking priority, or an emergency occuring. However, if you have a habit of putting things off just because it's too much on your plate, that's exactly the reason why you shouldn't do it. Instead, write down a list of what you need to do and check off each task in order as they are completed.
3.Commit to Scheduling/Planning
Spontaneity is great, but it rarely serves useful if you're trying to get your life together. Not sticking to a schedule is arguably one of the worst things you can do if your life is spiraling out of control. By committing to a schedule and planning out your day, you ensure that the essential and important things that need to be done are successfully completed on time. These days, there is no excuse for not scheduling your days because every smartphone has the ability to basically do it for you.
4.Know When To Delegate
Sure, you may pride yourself on your ability to do it all, but that is the fastest way to burnout. As hard as it may be to believe, learning when to delegate things in your life to others who can help you is actually as sign of strength. Many of us are so used to taking care of everything ourselves, that we often forget that there is no shame in asking for help. Whether you need help at home or at work, simply delegating some of your daily tasks to someone else can save you a lot of unnecessary stress.
5.Learn to Say “No”
The people pleasers of the world will likely have trouble with this one. If you find it hard to say "no" to things, then you are setting yourself up for a steep crash and burn. Saying "no" can be viewed as a negative, but that couldn't be further from the truth. It takes a lot of wisdom and courage to know yourself well enough to be able to firmly and confidently say "no" to something that you just don't have the time for. It doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you human and your self-care is the most important aspect of living a stress-free life.
6.Prioritize What’s Important
The things in your life that are the most important should come first, no questions asked. Work commitments and family obligations should always take precedence over anything else. By focusing your time and energy only on the things that are of the utmost importance in your life eliminates you from taking on too much at once and instead concentrating on what matters most.
7.Embrace Your Passions
Unfortunately, not all of us are lucky enough to do what we are passionate about for a living, but that's okay because you can still make time for it in leisure. Do you love to write, design clothes, dance, sing, body-build, or DIY? Whatever your passions are, try to find some time in your life to indulge in them. Perhaps starting off with one day during the week, such as Sunday, to do the things that you love to do. This gives you a break from the monotony of the daily grind and keeps your mind clear enough to embrace things that bring you joy and fulfillment.
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
Watch the full episode below:
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
Want more real talk from xoMAN? Catch the full audio episodes every Tuesday on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and don’t miss the full video drops every Wednesday on YouTube. Hit follow, subscribe, and stay tapped in.
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6 Tabletop Sex Positions That'll Unlock You & Bae's Most Primal Desires
Something I will never tire of is finding new ways to bring new layers to intimacy. A wall you use as momentum, a bathroom sink to help you keep your balance as he worships you on his knees, a shower that is usually for cleansing but evolves into a sacred ritual of shared intimacy.
My favorite kind of sex is the kind of sex that prioritizes pleasure and connection. So, technically and thankfully, I can say most of my sex life has been quite pleasurable throughout the years. But the memorable encounters for sure take the cake. One such encounter actually took place on a kitchen counter, and with it unleashed inhibitions in ways I never anticipated while unlocking levels to top-tier sex. And that, that involved a kitchen counter.
Why Kitchen Counter Sex Just Hits Different
What is it about having your hips pressed into the edge of a kitchen counter that lets out something so primal in you? The cool-to-the-touch feel of the countertop against exposed skin as you rise to meet him again and again. The urgency in every movement. The playfulness of repurposing an everyday space for something far more erotic. If you’re looking to bring that energy into your own sex life, keep reading for positions and tips to explore.
1. The Bounce House
They don’t call it Bounce House for nothing. In this position, the penetrating partner lies flat on their back on a sturdy table or counter while the receiving partner straddles them, knees bent and facing away. With their hands gripping the edge of the surface for support, the receiving partner slides or bounces at their own pace, owning the rhythm, the motion, and the view.
According to sex therapist Michael Aaron, Ph.D., who spoke with Women’s Health, the receiving partner placing their legs between their partner’s creates a tighter sensation, while staying fully astride allows for more bounce and range of motion. Either way, this one puts the receiver in full control, and you know we love a good woman on top position. Pleasure and power? Say less.
2. The Bicycle
Well, you know what they say about riding a bike. In the case of this table top position, it's the receiving partner who is the rider...but not in the way you think. While lying back on a sturdy surface or a table, the receiver will bring their knees toward their chest, bending them as if in a cycling motion. The penetrating partner stands at the edge of the surface, grabbing the receiver's ankles, and guides themselves inside, slowly so as to savor the moment. This angle puts everything on display for the penetrating partner while allowing for deep, connected thrusting for the receiver.
To take things up a notch , the receiving partner can touch themselves or flex their thighs to control the depth or the rhythm. Because, who says only one person gets to have control?
3. Counter Offer
How could we be at the table and not use it to eat? Enter: Counter Offer. In this oral-focused sex position, the receiving partner perches on the edge of a counter or table, lying back or sitting upright with legs parted or bent for comfort. The penetrating partner kneels or stands between their thighs, depending on the setup and the kind of attention they’re ready to give. No doubt, this one’s all about access and intention.
With the vulva front and center, the height makes it easier to maintain eye contact, use hands freely for things like breast play or incorporating toys, and take their time with every moan-inducing taste. And that’s on five, six, seven, ATE.
4. Standing Doggy
Standing Doggy is what happens when a classic like doggy style gets an upgrade. Instead of being on all fours on a bed, the receiving partner bends over a hard surface like a table or counter, keeping their hips aligned at its edge. The penetrating partner stands behind and enters from the back, using the angle to go deeper and create a strong, steady rhythm. This one offers maximum control and visual appeal, especially if the penetrating partner reaches around for a little extra clitoral stimulation throughout thrusting.
This angle can get intense quickly, so bonus points if the receiving partner engages their pelvic floor muscles or shifts their weight to adjust how the pressure hits, especially if your goal is to hit that G-spot sweet spot.
5. Top Shelf
Men's Healthcalls this one "Yourself on the Shelf," but we like to call it "Top Shelf" because it's giving full view, full grip, and climax potential that's hard to top. The receiving partner sits on the edge of a sturdy table or counter while the penetrating partner stands in front of them and slowly slides in, thrusting while keeping them in position. From there, legs can wrap around their waist, arms can encircle their back, and the closeness at peak ecstasy? Chef's kiss.
If you have the core strength, add lifting to the menu for the final strokes leading to orgasm. Otherwise, allow the surface to the heavy lifting and enjoy the pleasure.
6. The Thumper
What better way to remind yourself that you're both the snack and the entrée than with a little tableside service courtesy of The Thumper? This position has the receiving partner kneeling on a sturdy table or counter (keyword: sturdy), hands gripping the edge or braced in front for support. The penetrating partner can then either kneel behind them (if there's room for two), or stay anchored on the ground with both feet planted on the floor (similar to the previously mentioned Standing Doggy). It all depends on the mood.
Kneeling on the table offers just the right amount of leverage for deep, steady strokes. The receiving partner can play with tightness by either keeping their knees closer together for a snug grip, or open their knees wider to invite more access, depth, and stretch. The Thumper is versatile that way, and the most important thing? The receiver gets to be the main course. Yum.
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