

If you come to check out our site on a semi-consistent basis, you might've caught an article I wrote, back when the weather was much warmer. It was entitled, "8 Summer-Themed Alcoholic Drinks That Can Boost Your Libido". Well, now that it's getting colder by the day, and also since the fall and winter seasons are apparently the best times to engage in some hot 'n steamy copulation (check out "Did You Know Fall & Winter Are The Best Times To Have Sex?"), it seemed only right that I share some warm drinks that can take your sex drive up a couple of notches too.
So, if you're ready to come in from the freezing weather, so that you can step into a warm room in order to participate in some of the best sex you've had yet, here are eight drinks that can get you to feeling like this truly is the most wonderful time of the year (if you catch my drift).
1. Cinnamon and Coconut Milk
If you're constantly on the hunt for milk alternatives, don't forget to put coconut milk on your list.
Not only is it loaded with antioxidants, it also has a good amount of protein, calcium and potassium in it as well. This is good to know because potassium plays a direct role in increasing male hormone production while regulating our thyroid. Cinnamon is awesome because it's got medicinal properties in it that can help to fight off bacterial and fungal infections. Not only that but, sex-wise, cinnamon is able to increase blood circulation, improve blood vessel dilation (both of those can intensify your orgasms) and increase one's sex drive.
Just add three teaspoons of freshly ground cinnamon to three cups of coconut milk, bring to a boil and then let cool down enough for you and your partner to sip. Feel free to add a little honey if you'd like your drink to taste, just a bit sweeter. This drink will help you to have great sex and some good sleep right after.
2. Blueberry Tea
If you like to snack on blueberries and there's rarely a time when you're not in the mood for sex, it may not be happenstance. The reality is blueberries are high in Vitamin B (which can give you more energy, stabilize your moods and make you more interested in coitus), Vitamin C (which is an antioxidant) and fiber to keep toxins out of your system. Also, when it comes to your libido, blueberries are awesome because they help your body to release the neurotransmitter dopamine, so that you're able to feel great while your partner is able to have longer and stronger erections during, well, you know. #wink
3. Warmed Up Kiwi Sangria
Sangria is a festive drink that hails from Spain and Portugal. While there are all kinds of variations of it, the "foundation" is almost always red wine, chopped fruit and spices of your choosing. Well, a particular fruit that's in season during this time of the year is kiwi. Kiwi contains vitamins C, E and K, as well as folate, potassium and fiber. Because Vitamin C has a great reputation for boosting one's libido and fertility, that's why I found it fitting that hot kiwi sangria would also go on this list. Click here to make your own white kiwi sangria, here to make some delicious strawberry kiwi sangria or here for a spicy sangria recipe. If you bring the ingredients in these recipes to a boil, let them simmer on warm heat and then serve them in a mug with some kiwi and/or orange garnish, you'll enjoy this drink, right down to the very last drop.
4. Hot Cocoa
I don't know a single soul who doesn't dig a cup of hot chocolate (if you're one of 'em, post a comment about why because…what in the world?). As if the taste of chocolate isn't a good enough reason to have some, at least a couple of times a week, during the fall and winter seasons, dark chocolate is pretty impressive when it comes to its health benefits too.
It's also packed with antioxidants as well as magnesium, iron, manganese, copper, potassium, zinc, phosphorus, fiber and selenium. Magnesium makes it easier for testosterone to hit our bloodstream. Zinc is good, when it comes to your sex drive, because it helps men to maintain their libido and, it can actually increase our testosterone levels which can, in turn, make us hornier too. Also, dark chocolate helps us to produce more serotonin (a brain chemical that's connected to sexual arousal) and phenylethylamine (a natural stimulant that actually causes people to feel like they're in love with each other).
All extra bonuses to having some hot cocoa tonight, don't you think?
(A recipe that intrigued me is one that contains vegan "sex dust". Check out the recipe here. Cop some of the all-natural sex dust to put in your cocoa here.)
5. Pumpkin Latte
Pumpkin contains quite a few goodies—protein, fiber, vitamins B2, C and E, potassium, copper and iron too. Where pumpkin is really off the charts is when it comes to Vitamin A; it's got around 245 percent of the Reference Daily Intake that your body needs. That's important to know because Vitamin A is what male and female sex hormones both need in order to remain healthy and strong. Another great thing about pumpkin is it's full of zinc. So, if you want to entice your partner with some homemade pumpkin spice latte, there's an easy to make recipe here.
6. Warm Canelazo
Whenever I pen a food or drink article, I try and throw in something that makes you say "what is that?", just to bring something new into the content. Today, it's a traditionally spicy hot drink from Ecuador called Canelazo. While the name might sound super exotic, this is a drink that's really easy to make. All you need is some sugar (preferably panela which is a form of organic raw cane sugar), some cinnamon sticks, some Aguardiente (which is anise-flavored liqueur) and some water. We already touched on what cinnamon does and if you add liquor to that? How can Canelazo not be a sex party in a mug? (Click here for an alcoholic and non-alcoholic recipe. To warm it up, apply the same tips that I offered in the sangria recipe).
7. Mulled Wine
If you've heard of mulled wine before but you're not exactly sure what it is, it's red wine that has spices in it. This alcoholic drink makes this particular list because you're able to serve it warm or cold (it really is very good when it's hot, by the way).
Red wine is a fan favorite on this platform because it contains antioxidants that are able to lower cholesterol levels, strengthen the heart, regulate blood sugar levels, reduce depression-related symptoms—all of which play a significant role in keeping our libidos intact. Plus, it's proven to be able to significantly increase our sex drive after just one glass.
All you need is some red wine, cinnamon and a few cloves (they are nerve stimulants that can also give you more energy) and you're all set (check out a great recipe for mulled wine here).
8. Coffee
I'm not sure if there will ever be a less controversial hot drink than coffee. The reason why I say that is because it comes with about as many risks as benefits. Today, let's just focus on the benefits, though. Reportedly, coffee is able to burn fat, increase energy levels, improve physical performance, fight depression-related symptoms and even reduce death risks by almost 30 percent (in women; 20 percent in men). As far as sex goes, there are solid studies citing that the caffeine in coffee not only provides us with stamina to have sex but it can make females specifically crave more coitus too. So, if java on a snowy day is your thing, make sure to make an extra cup tonight. Umm, you already know why, right? Exactly.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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A Black-Owned Mobile Spa Turned My Home Into A Luxury Retreat—Here’s My Experience
There’s nothing quite like a spa day, but what’s even better is when you can enjoy one right at home. I recently had my first at-home spa day with The Party Spa, a Black-owned mobile spa founded by Asher Wilkins.
Asher’s team of 25 professionals offers a wide range of services, including massages, facials, body scrubs, and more. Asher, a licensed massage therapist, stumbled upon a unique opportunity to combine massage services with the vibrant nightlife scene.
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"I noticed there was a need in the New York City night life, especially with the after work parties and I felt that I had that answer in regards to bringing what I did, because I'm a licensed massage therapist," he tells xoNecole. "So how could I incorporate this into what I like to do, which was socialize and network, and party.
"I went to some club owners and some promoters, and I told them about the idea. I said, let's include the chair massage along with what you have going on and it worked." At that time, the clientele was primarily women who needed a massage after a long night of dancing, especially in heels.
London getting a massage from Asher
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The Party Spa, having expanded its services to cater to a diverse clientele, including business professionals and celebrities like Mary J. Blige, has even graced music tours like the I Love the 90s tour. Their extensive travel across the country led them to my doorstep, where I eagerly awaited my pampering session.
Asher and Miss Jazz arrived at my home and began infusing the space with a relaxing spa vibe. They set up an essential oil diffuser and provided me with a cozy white robe for a comfortable change. While I had the option to choose my preferred music, I opted for the soothing melodies of traditional spa music.
Asher skillfully administered my massage, applying medium to deep pressure that perfectly suited my preferences. He effectively worked out the lingering pain in my lower back and hips, leaving me feeling rejuvenated and pampered. The delightful aroma of the massage oils intensified as he continued rubbing me down, enhancing the overall sensory experience.
London receiving a facial from Miss Jazz.
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Once Asher finished, it was time for my facial. Facials are rare for me, so this was a delightful treat. Miss Jazz began with a facial massage, a new experience for me that I thoroughly enjoyed.
It felt like a continuation of the body massage I had just received. From there, she applied various products to my face, including a scrub, cleanser, vitamin C serum, and cream. She also gave me a honey and sugar lip scrub, which I desperately needed.
The result was radiant, smooth skin. The Party Spa transformed my first at-home spa experience into a blissful one. I found myself in a tranquil state of mind and relaxed the rest of the day.
The Party Spa is expanding its footprint by launching a podcast, Confessions of a Celebrity Massage Therapist, and working with non-profits to donate beauty and wellness services to survivors of sex trafficking and abuse. To learn more, visit their website thepartyspa.com, or follow them on Instagram @thepartyspa.
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