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I Fulfilled My Trois Fantasy...And This Is What I Learned

"What woman doesn't dream about two men focusing solely on her in the bedroom?"

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For a long time I thought that the threesome stories I thought about would stay hidden away in my mind forever as mere fantasies that get me off at night. Because to put it frankly, black guys aren't typically jumping at the chance at having threesomes with their girl and another man, even if women are willing to partake in a little girl on girl action with them. Thus, in past situations I would keep both fantasies under lock and key. If I couldn't get my simultaneous d*ck action with two guys at a time, why should you get what you're lusting after? But I've met my sexual soulmate in my current partner, and he has opened my world, senses, capacity for intimacy, and body up to so many different experiences. So now ladies, I am singing a different tune.

In our relationship I've learned a lot about confidence. Those gnawing, once impossible to vanquish insecurities are no longer as rampant, and instead are brief passerby as opposed to the uninvited guests that once lingered.

We had a conversation about our fantasies early on in our courtship, but the strength and consistency of it now made me leap in enthusiasm at the chance of having sex with our mutual friend—a man who never was quiet about how much he wanted to be in our bedroom. During the wild and raunchy hours one night, texts with bae turned into him vocalizing how he wanted me, followed by the fact that our favorite mutual friend was also with him. It sounded like an invitation. My attention was piqued.

"What woman doesn't dream about two men focusing solely on her in the bedroom?"

Tasting her, feeding her…mmm…Well, he was intent upon giving it to me. That's one of his turn-ons—making the object of his affection's desires come to life. Those Aquarians and their kinks. He's an exciting individual.

I was thrilled, but also nervous as hell. I like being his. Did this endanger our connection? No. If he did this for me, would I have to put my money where my mouth is and watch him have sex with another chick? Probably. It didn't bother me at the time, though, because I was interested in the thickness of our friend. He was quite built and both of them were very…gifted.

Out of fear that this is sounding sexy, I need to disappoint you in this moment and tell you ladies that there was very little sexiness about it in reality. It was nothing like I imagined it would be lol. It was not a graceful, fluid thing. It was more like me and bae in the shower together and him giving me a pep talk because I sure as hell wanted to talk myself out of it after enthusiastically obliging an hour earlier. But I had a shot of something brown and started feeling myself a little more. I shut my brain off and listened to my body and what she wanted.

Even still, it was a lot of balancing with me continuously at the center of their movements. I sucked our friend, bae ate me—I was in heaven. I stayed there until penetration became a thing, because it was difficult managing a mouthful while also being filled. It was clumsy, especially when it was time to switch roles. Bae had to tap out a couple of times. He had gotten too drunk or something. It made me feel a little self-conscious to have our friend concentrating on pleasuring me while bae hydrated himself. I felt a little dry and irritated from the constant friction of condoms. Hot. Mess.

I loved certain aspects of it, but it was nothing like what porn suggested it could be. Perhaps because there are emotions involved between bae and I, I think that sort of thing can either make or break a partnership, and it was a thought in the back of my mind while this other guy entered my body again and again while he watched me. It was hot, but it was also a mess.

Perhaps there was too much alcohol involved. Or perhaps while in daylight hours, our three could very much be company. But in the wild hours of the night, it just felt so crowded. Truthfully, as beautiful as I found our friend both fully clothed and naked, the only peen I wanted was bae's.

Ah well, it was an experience for the books. A fantasy fulfilled. And now, it's his turn to have his fantasies unlocked. I get to pick the girl. Wish us luck. ;)

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