Self-affirmations is the act of affirming one's own worthiness and value and when done consistently they become your reality. You have the power to speak what you desire into existence. One of the songs my mama used to sing all the time said, "Sometimes you have to encourage yourself. Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test." Speaking over your life helps you to determine who you are, who you want to be and it attracts the things your heart craves. Who are we not to participate in the illustration of our blessings?
Fear and anxiety are natural reactions to the the woes of the world but it doesn't require us to succumb those feelings. It does require us to stand flat-footed in our faith, speak from our hearts and summon the light within. Here are some affirmations to stay ignited in the most profound form.
"We are never alone in our struggles -- and right now, we need each other more than ever." - Alex Elle
Isolating yourself from family and friends automatically triggers feelings of loneliness. Declare that loneliness will not prevail knowing that you have multiple ways to connect with your loved ones. Honestly, this pandemic couldn't have happened at a better time because we are equipped with so many platforms to mind the gap during our social distancing.
When taking deep breaths, breathe in all of the people in your support system and breathe out all negative feelings towards isolation and solitude. No longer will you allow loneliness distract you from the blessing that is your life.
"I am always finding reasons to be happy with the life I have. Good things are unfolding for me because I am grateful for every blessing, big and small. The more I am thankful for in the now, the more I can create for my future." - Commanding Life
It may be hard to find hope in the darkness right now but it has never been so important. When you say this affirmation aloud, follow it up by writing down five things you are grateful for. It pushes you to find the beauty in everything. You were given your life and your circumstances to show others what's possible.
When you live in a space of gratitude, you show the universe that you are ready for new blessings. Gratitude equals abundance. One of the greatest quotes ever says, "Plant yourself so deeply in gratitude that even the greatest of landslides cannot shake your peace."
"I am worthy and my heart is open to receiving love."
Feeling worthy starts with self. Embracing love starts with self.
You have to believe you are worthy so that you can attract a partner that believes you are worthy. And if you aren't in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be in love with you? The law of attraction says that our thoughts and feelings shape our reality. For this reason, you have to hold yourself in the highest regard and begin to speak the life you desire into existence.
"I can't control what I can't control. I will do my best with what is in my control."
Letting go of control has to be one of the hardest things to do. As women, we especially want to help by fixing things but the hard truth is that we can't fix everything and everyone. Our superpowers don't extend that far.
Saying this affirmation aloud consistently will help you release unrealistic expectations and the need for perfection which opens you up for spiritual growth. The objective: to be untethered from unwanted emotional possessions and obligations. Relinquishing control makes us free from hindrances.
"I am grateful for another day to shine."
With the intention that every day is a new beginning, start your morning knowing that you are destined to shine bright like a diamond. This specific intention is great for the start of the day and sets the one for everything you do in that 24 hours. We are currently experiencing something that none of us could have possibly imagined. That uncertainty can create a lack of motivation but manifesting success can easily transform those feelings.
"I affirm: I'm not going to rush anything. I'm not going to stress out or worry about how things will work out or worry about how things will work out for me. Instead of overthinking, I will align my faith with divine timing and trust that everything that belongs in my life is making its way towards me right now." - Idil Ahmed
Idil Ahmed gets me together daily on Instagram with her affirmations. When I read this one, it hit different. Mostly because women have this thing with thinking that there are deadlines for things like getting married, having children and having a successful career. I have to constantly remind myself of Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD. "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." In other words, God's got us.
"April is going to be a month of massive evolution."
March was full of challenges but we are proclaiming that April is already planting seeds of peace in our minds. We are what we think so this month we will use our thoughts to launch us on a positive path.
The good sis, Dani Simone, tells us to be careful with our words this month in her monthly horoscope, it read, "Mercury's transit in Aries reminds us to think before we speak but also grants us with the conviction needed to speak up for ourselves when needed."
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Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Serena Williams Hits Back At Skin-Bleaching Accusations: 'I’m A Dark, Black Woman, And I Love Who I Am'
Serena Williams is clapping back at skin-bleaching accusations. During a makeup tutorial for her beauty brand, Wyn Beauty, the tennis legend took the opportunity to address the "haters."
“And then I put just that neutral color, that is actually my skin color, and no, for you haters out there, I do not bleach my skin,” she said. “There is a thing called sunlight, and in that sunlight, you get different colors.”
The rumors started after the mom of two posted a video of herself and her husband, Alexis Ohanian, at their daughter's school play. In the video, she appeared to look a few shades lighter. During her response, she revealed that she was volunteering at the play and wore stage makeup.
“Yes, I’m calling you out on this because it is ridiculous that everyone’s like, ‘Oh, she bleached her skin,’" she said. "I’m a dark, Black woman, and I love who I am, and I love how I look and that's just not my thing.”
The 23-time Grand Slam champion also said that she doesn't judge anyone who bleaches their skin as she "stays in my lane."
Serena has always had style on and off the court, and even collaborated with Nike with her own collection Serena Williams Design Crew. However, the tennis champ has now pivoted into beauty.
Wyn Beauty was launched in April 2024 with at 10-piece collection of lip, eye, and complexion products. The brand was inspired by Serena's time on the court and the packaging is reminiscent of a tennis ball due to its chartreuse color.
“Throughout my career, I was always searching for makeup that looked good after hours on the court, mixing products myself and creating my own formulas while traveling the world,” she said in a statement. As she continues to make a name for herself in the beauty industry, I'm sure we will see a lot more looks from the tennis star.
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