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Lizzo Schools Us On How Identify A F*ckboy At First Sight
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Lizzo Schools Us On How Identify A F*ckboy At First Sight

Lizzo

Webster's Dictionary lacks a definition for the type of man that we as women, as well as our mothers and grandmothers, have encountered for years.


This is the type of man who will waste your time with no remorse, attempt to swindle you out of your house and home, and make his epic getaway in YOUR car. Unfortunately, we have all met this kind of man at least once in our lives and some of us may even know him well. The guy that I'm referencing is who we know as the grade-A, certified f*ckboy, and according to Lizzo, with summer baecation rapidly approaching, it's important that you know the characteristics of this species of man before you get got.

Recently, the body-positive singer went on The Breakfast Cluband spilled the tea on how to avoid this sleazebag archetype of a man and taught us a few things about the power of self-love in the process. Songs like "Cuz I Love You" and "Truth Hurts" prove that Lizzo has had her fair share of experiences with men who didn't deserve her time, and she says that she quickly identified a few qualities about herself that make her a bonafide f*ckboy magnet.

"F*ckboys like me. I'm thick, I travel a lot and I got money."

But, ladies, let's be clear. The problem with dealing with a f*ckboy isn't the man himself, but the damage that you allow that man to do to your self-esteem. The "Juice" singer may be confident, fearless, and f*ckboy-free today but in the past, things haven't always been this way. She told Teen Vogue:

"When I was in high school, I was a big girl with a cute face. So dudes liked me secretly, but they didn't like me publicly. I never had a boyfriend because they didn't want to claim me. So now in this industry, I'm a big girl with a cute face and some cute music and I'm still being liked secretly and not claimed publicly."

She revealed that many years and about 80 pounds ago, she had an encounter with an ex-boyfriend that was the true definition of f*ckboy-ism and showed her exactly what she didn't want in a man:

"I didn't have any money and I wasn't eating, and I was also trying to be thin. I was working out a lot. And I remember I was with this guy, and we were laying down, and he was like, 'I'm just so relaxed when I'm with you.' And then he's like, 'So I showed your picture to my friends, and they said that your face is great but your body needs work.' I was like, 'WHAT!' Who says that to somebody? And I was the smallest I had ever been in my entire life."

Lizzo explained that she was only able to rid herself of the bad energy brought into her life by a number of undeserving suitors once she got honest about her negative self-image.

Although trusting others and committing to self-love is still a battle that the singer fights every day, Lizzo says that If a man doesn't love the way you love yourself or better, it's time to kick him to the curb, sis; and after you tell that man to call Tyrone, she has the perfect playlist to help you heal from that heartbreak. Her new album Cuz I Love You is sure to revive your confidence and allow you to relish in your juice like the sexy MF that you are. She explained:

"You know how many people say, I wish I was going through a breakup so I could listen to this album? And I'm like, guys, no. But yeah you know it's empowering, self-empowering album. And I think that's when people need to empower themselves the most, or when we think we should, is when we're breaking up with somebody. We want to be like, how do I get myself back on top? How do I get myself back to who I was? And then you listen to my songs and you're like, 'I'm 100% that bitch' and you get yourself back."

According to Lizzo, she's able to so perfectly create the soundtracks for our lives because she's lived it. She told Rolling Stone:

"I'm jumping straight into a scenario [now] on certain songs where I'm literally sitting in a car with someone crying and I'm like, 'Pull this car over, I need to get this off my chest. Or when I'm literally sending a text to a fuckboy [saying] 'Take yo' ass home. Stop texting me.' There's literal specifics here. You're in the scene of a movie: my movie, my life."

Take it from Lizzo, the key to a having fabulously fuckboy-free season in your life is choosing self-love, sis.

Watch Lizzo's full interview with The Breakfast Club below!:

Lizzo Shares Her F-ckboy Stories, Talks Self-Love, Confidence, New Music + Morewww.youtube.com

Featured image by Erika Goldring/WireImage

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