Lizzo Schools Us On How Identify A F*ckboy At First Sight
Webster's Dictionary lacks a definition for the type of man that we as women, as well as our mothers and grandmothers, have encountered for years.
This is the type of man who will waste your time with no remorse, attempt to swindle you out of your house and home, and make his epic getaway in YOUR car. Unfortunately, we have all met this kind of man at least once in our lives and some of us may even know him well. The guy that I'm referencing is who we know as the grade-A, certified f*ckboy, and according to Lizzo, with summer baecation rapidly approaching, it's important that you know the characteristics of this species of man before you get got.
Recently, the body-positive singer went on The Breakfast Cluband spilled the tea on how to avoid this sleazebag archetype of a man and taught us a few things about the power of self-love in the process. Songs like "Cuz I Love You" and "Truth Hurts" prove that Lizzo has had her fair share of experiences with men who didn't deserve her time, and she says that she quickly identified a few qualities about herself that make her a bonafide f*ckboy magnet.
"F*ckboys like me. I'm thick, I travel a lot and I got money."
But, ladies, let's be clear. The problem with dealing with a f*ckboy isn't the man himself, but the damage that you allow that man to do to your self-esteem. The "Juice" singer may be confident, fearless, and f*ckboy-free today but in the past, things haven't always been this way. She told Teen Vogue:
"When I was in high school, I was a big girl with a cute face. So dudes liked me secretly, but they didn't like me publicly. I never had a boyfriend because they didn't want to claim me. So now in this industry, I'm a big girl with a cute face and some cute music and I'm still being liked secretly and not claimed publicly."
She revealed that many years and about 80 pounds ago, she had an encounter with an ex-boyfriend that was the true definition of f*ckboy-ism and showed her exactly what she didn't want in a man:
"I didn't have any money and I wasn't eating, and I was also trying to be thin. I was working out a lot. And I remember I was with this guy, and we were laying down, and he was like, 'I'm just so relaxed when I'm with you.' And then he's like, 'So I showed your picture to my friends, and they said that your face is great but your body needs work.' I was like, 'WHAT!' Who says that to somebody? And I was the smallest I had ever been in my entire life."
Lizzo explained that she was only able to rid herself of the bad energy brought into her life by a number of undeserving suitors once she got honest about her negative self-image.
Although trusting others and committing to self-love is still a battle that the singer fights every day, Lizzo says that If a man doesn't love the way you love yourself or better, it's time to kick him to the curb, sis; and after you tell that man to call Tyrone, she has the perfect playlist to help you heal from that heartbreak. Her new album Cuz I Love You is sure to revive your confidence and allow you to relish in your juice like the sexy MF that you are. She explained:
"You know how many people say, I wish I was going through a breakup so I could listen to this album? And I'm like, guys, no. But yeah you know it's empowering, self-empowering album. And I think that's when people need to empower themselves the most, or when we think we should, is when we're breaking up with somebody. We want to be like, how do I get myself back on top? How do I get myself back to who I was? And then you listen to my songs and you're like, 'I'm 100% that bitch' and you get yourself back."
According to Lizzo, she's able to so perfectly create the soundtracks for our lives because she's lived it. She told Rolling Stone:
"I'm jumping straight into a scenario [now] on certain songs where I'm literally sitting in a car with someone crying and I'm like, 'Pull this car over, I need to get this off my chest. Or when I'm literally sending a text to a fuckboy [saying] 'Take yo' ass home. Stop texting me.' There's literal specifics here. You're in the scene of a movie: my movie, my life."
Take it from Lizzo, the key to a having fabulously fuckboy-free season in your life is choosing self-love, sis.
Watch Lizzo's full interview with The Breakfast Club below!:
Lizzo Shares Her F-ckboy Stories, Talks Self-Love, Confidence, New Music + Morewww.youtube.com
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
"I don't know what God wants, but I would go for more than two. I would try for my girl,” she adds. “But of course, if it's another boy, it's another boy."
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