Everything We Know About 'Insecure' Season 3 So Far
Screenwriter and actress Issa Rae began filming for the new season of Insecure a few days ago and we already have our popcorn and wine ready.
Last August, HBO confirmed that they would be picking up a third season of Issa's debut television series Insecure and it was music to the ears of all the twenty- and thirty-somethings out there that flock to the show that seems to capture LA black culture to a T. Issa hasn't revealed any major spoilers about the new season but we do know that it will be a breath of fresh air.
Issa explained that she would not address Trump, or the #MeToo and #TimesUp movement, but is more focused on portraying how these movements affect us as black women. She told Bustle:
"I see that just in our everyday life that things happen to us and especially us black people. In the life sentence of being black, racism is like a comma — you pause and then you keep pushing, because you don't have to be like, 'Oh, this is a very special moment' or 'This moment affected me in this way.' It's about what those moments make you do afterward. Seeing these moments play out in the way that we sometimes brush these feelings off because we feel like we don't have time to address them."
Though her character on Insecure may not, Issa tackles these social issues and the value of representation head-on:
"Being in the entertainment industry is a year-round thing and so even in certain interviews when we're promoting our shows, there's always an opportunity to talk about the changes that we're making in our own respective fields. As long as we're championing women and we continue to keep women at the forefront — and I, personally, am prioritizing women of color especially — we can keep on facilitating that kind of change in our own movements then I feel like the conversation won't die."
Issa's been up to a lot since we saw her mindf*ck us all in the season 2 finale.
The self-proclaimed Awkward Black Girl made us fall in love with the depiction of a three-dimensional black woman in 2011, and seven years later, she's still challenging the boundaries of mainstream entertainment.
She recently teamed up with Empire's Jussie Smollet to create a YouTube series that tackles issues that affect black millennials like sexuality, mental illness, and barriers to entrepreneurship.
As the leader of the new school in the current cultural renaissance, there is no mountain this woman can't climb. Issa also acts as executive producer of two new shows on HBO and was recently chosen to host one of the biggest nights in fashion; this force of nature has no plans of slowing down anytime soon. In an interview with Fast Company, she said:
"It feels like we're taking the reins and we're not letting go. We're realizing how powerful our voices are."
Issa said that the aggressively passive and bold edge we witness in her art is rooted solely in truth. Issa calls bullsh*t on industry professionals that claim that it's hard to find qualified minority professionals and developed The Color Creative, dedicated to helping minorities get their foot in the game.
Insecure season two garnered a total of more than 1.1 million views; so yeah, we're pretty hype to see what Issa has up her sleeve this year. As for an official season 3 premiere date, we're not so sure.
But know that it's coming to snatch all of our wigs. So, where are we having the viewing party? I'll bring the Moscato.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LISTÂ HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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