

I think that we can all agree that international travel is one of the things we miss the most ever since COVID-19 forced us to experience a new normal. Traveling internationally can still be a bit tricky as several countries are still giving the US and its citizens the side-eye due to the current number of COVID-19 cases here. Besides, travel bans, entry, and re-entry requirements seem to be changing by the day which adds another element to consider when traveling outside of the US.
The Centers for Disease Control provides a country-by-country risk assessment if you still plan to travel to another country, however, if you still aren't ready to leave the United States, it doesn't mean that you can't indulge in some travel this year. There are plenty of places right here in the US that will be sure to satisfy the wanderlust that I'm sure we're all experiencing right about now.
Check them out below.
1.Napa Valley, California
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One word: Wine. Do I really need to say more? Napa Valley, home to over three hundred wineries is one of the most famous wine regions. For most of the year, the weather is pretty close to perfect so there isn't really a bad time to go. So, whether you want to plan a romantic getaway with your boo or a fun girls' trip, Napa Valley has you covered with five-star restaurants, beautiful hotels, and spas.
2.Key West, Florida
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Want to experience a Caribbean-like vacation without leaving the US? Well, look no further than Key West. One look at all of the beautiful conch-style architecture, stunning beaches, and rich history, you'll swear you're no longer in the US. Key West is not only beautiful to look at but there's tons to do from dolphin watching, to snorkeling, to kayaking, to sailing. No worries, if you're not the adventurous type because you can drink by the pool and eat deliciously fresh seafood all day too.
3.Martha’s Vineyard, Massachusetts
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It may take a bit of work to get there but that hasn't stopped people from flocking to Martha's Vineyard for a summer getaway and that is not expected to change in 2021. Martha's Vineyard is known for its laid-back vibe, beautiful beaches, great food, and most of all for its worst kept secret: being a hideaway for the rich and famous.
4.Chena Hot Springs Resort, Fairbanks, Alaska
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Chena Hot Springs Resort is probably one of the most popular and accessible natural hot springs in the state. Visiting the Chena Hot Springs Resort will for sure give you a touch of the Blue Lagoon, Iceland feels. The resort is also home to a campground, a restaurant, and an ice museum. You can even catch a view of the Northern Lights if you visit in the winter. The resort also allows day trips if you have other plans for accommodations.
5.Aspen, Colorado
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Put your Ivy Park, Icy Park collection to good use and visit Aspen. You are certainly welcome to visit Aspen any time of the year but there is something to be said about visiting in the winter and experiencing one of the city's four ski resorts. If skiing (or other outdoor activities) isn't really your thing, Aspen is a literal shopping hub with stores like Prada and Gucci. You can also relax at one of their many spas after a long day of shopping.
6.Santa Fe, New Mexico
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History. Culture. Art. Architecture. Healing. Those are just some of the things you can expect when you visit Santa Fe. Santa Fe literally has something for everyone. Home to a plethora of museums and art galleries, delicious fresh cuisine, hot springs, hiking trails, and spas.
7.Kauai, Hawaii
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Kauai, Hawaii's fourth-largest island may not be the first island that comes to mind when you think of Hawaii but that doesn't make it any less beautiful than the others. The island is laid back but also offers tourists tons to do from kayaking, to ziplining, to snorkeling. An additional perk is that Kauai is often not as crowded as the other islands.
8.Palm Springs, California
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In search of a vacation where you can just sit by the pool and drink cocktails all day? Well, look no further than Palm Springs. Palm Springs, known for its eclectic food and drink scene and luxurious hotels can certainly give you all of that and more. If you can manage to pull yourself from the pool, Palm Springs has plenty of other activities for you to indulge in like hiking, shopping, spas, and museums. Palm Springs is also only a two-hour drive from LA if you find that you want to venture there for a fun day trip.
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
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My personal relationship with birth control pills is a bit of an odd one. Back when I first became sexually active (I started having sex with my first boyfriend a couple of months shy of 19), I took them for a couple of months, didn’t like how they made me feel, and so I quit using them altogether (and got pregnant almost immediately after). The rest of my adult life, I stayed off of the pill and pretty much only used condoms (and even then, not consistently — SMDH).
And yet here I am, now, all these years later, back on them again: surprise, surprise.
These days, it's for a completely different purpose, though. Now that I am in the hopefully latter stages of perimenopause (I’m not sure because my mother had a full hysterectomy at 29, her mother died at 53 and I don’t deal with my paternal grandmother because…chile… ) — although I have always had relatively easy cycles and I could definitely set my watch to them, about two years ago, my periods started to show up whenever they felt like it and it was damn near a crime scene once they did.
It was driving me crazy, and so, my nurse practitioner recommended that I take progestin-only pills to shorten, if not completely stop, my cycle: “After a year or so, we can wean off and see if you are entering into menopause on your own.” (Whew, perimenopause, chile.)
Although the first five months of being on this particular pill made me wonder if it was worth it to take this approach, I actually re-upped for another 12-month cycle because the extra progestin (a synthetic form of progesterone) has benefitted me in other areas as well because I am sleeping more soundly and my weight is more stabilized (by the way, when these things are “off,” they are signs of low progesterone levels). However, I did ask my nurse practitioner if, once I do decide to wean off of the pill, would there be any issues.
Her response is what inspired me to write this article because, until she said “post-birth control syndrome” to me, I had no idea there was such a thing. Anyway, if you give me a sec, I’ll explain to you what it is and why you should care if hormone-related birth control is currently a part of your life.
Yes, Post-Birth Control Syndrome Is a Very Real Thing
Okay, so it’s important to always remember that the way that birth control works is it “manipulates” your hormones so that you can significantly reduce your chances of conceiving. This means that taking them could result in some side effects including nausea; weight gain; headaches; irregular periods and/or spotting; increased stress; depression; blurry vision; breast tenderness, and/or a lowered libido.
That said, even though birth control pills are basically 99 percent effective (when taken correctly and consistently), if the side effects that you are experiencing are making you close to miserable, you should absolutely share that with your healthcare provider because…what’s the sense in preventing pregnancy when you don’t even feel up to having sex because you don’t feel good or your sex drive is shot? More times than not, your provider can find you another pill brand or option that will help you to feel more like yourself.
With that out of the way, think about it — if going on the pill can produce side effects, why would going off of it…not? And this is where post-birth control syndrome comes in.
For the most part, it’s what can happen to your body once you decide to come off of birth control. Typically, the symptoms will last anywhere between 4-6 months and, although the symptoms seem to present themselves most intensely as it relates to going off of the pill, any hormone-related birth control (like IUDs, injections, patches, the ring or implants) could produce similar outcomes.
Outcomes like what?
- Irregular cycles
- Breakouts
- Excessive gas and/or bloating
- Weight gain
- Anxiety and/or depression
- Fertility issues
- Migraines and/or headaches
- Shifts in your libido
- Sleeplessness/restlessness
- Hair loss
Whoa, right? And if a part of you is wondering, “Okay, if this is indeed the case, why have I not heard of this syndrome before?” It’s because it’s not a term that conventional method uses nearly as much as alternative medicine does. Still, it makes all of the sense in the world that if your body has to adjust to an uptick in hormonal intake, it would also need to adjust to removing those extra doses of hormones from your system as well. COMMON. DAMN. SENSE.
Anyway, if you were thinking about taking a break from birth control and taking all of this in has you feeling a bit…let’s go with the word “trepidatious” about doing so, I totally get it. There are some things that you can do to make experiencing post-birth control syndrome either a non-issue or a far more bearable one, though.
7 Home Remedies That Can Make Coping with Post-Birth Control Syndrome Easier
1. Take a multivitamin.Something that’s fascinating about what going off of birth control can do is it sometimes has the ability to lower your nutrition levels as it relates to certain vitamins and minerals; this is especially the case when it comes to vitamins B, C, E and minerals like magnesium, selenium and zinc. So, if you don’t currently take a multivitamin, now would be the time to start (along with consuming foods that are particularly high in those nutrients as well).
2. Up your vitamin D intake. Speaking of nutrient levels, a vitamin level that commonly drops after going off of birth control isvitamin D. This is hella critical to keep in mind as a Black woman since many of us tend to be naturally deficient in the vitamin as-is and vitamin D is important when it comes to fighting off diseases, regulating weight and keeping your moods stabilized (for starters). So, make sure that your multivitamin has vitamin D in it. Also make sure to consume vitamin D-enriched foods like fatty fish, eggs, mushrooms, yogurt and fortified orange juice.
3. Drink herbal teas. Since going off of birth control will cause your hormones to be all over the place for a season, consider drinking some herbal teas that will help to stabilize them. Black cohosh contains phytoestrogen properties, Chasteberry can help to level out your prolactin levels and green tea can help your hormones out by helping to balance out your insulin (which can sometimes directly affect them).
4. Keep some ibuprofen nearby. The headaches and migraines? Until those subside, you and ibuprofen are probably going to become really good friends; although I will add that ginger tea and inhaling essential oils like chamomile and lavender can help to ease migraine-related symptoms too.
5. Do some meditating. Waiting for your hormones to get back on track can be stressful as all get out. That said, something that can get your cortisol (stress hormone) levels to chill out is to meditate. If meditation is new for you, check out “7 Meditation Hacks (For People Who Can't Seem To Do It).”
6. Get massages. As if you needed an excuse to get a massage, right (check out “12 Different Massage Types. How To Know Which Is Right For You.”)? However, there is some evidence to back the fact that regular massages (somewhere around once a month) can help to lower your stress, boost your dopamine, increase blood flow and drain your lymphatic system so that you will have more energy.
7. Sleep/rest more. There is plenty of scientific research out here which says that sleep deprivation can throw your hormones out of whack — and since your hormones are already trying to stabilize themselves, you definitely need to get 6-8 hours of sleep and not feel the least bit guilty about taking naps sometimes too.
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Post-birth control syndrome may not be the most pleasant thing about getting off of birth control yet it is manageable. So, now that you know all about it, you can feel more confident about taking a birth control break (or getting off altogether) — without the surprises that can come with doing it. Give thanks.
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