As a part of our Friday Nights, Saturday Mornings feature, we're talking to some of our favorite boss ladies about their weekends, their way. How do they relax, recharge and refuel? As we all know, life shouldn't be all about work. It's what we do beyond business and career that help keep us motivated and able to dominate for the week ahead.
Meet newly married Denequa Williams Clarke - founder of Lit Brooklyn - a luxury fragrance company specializing in candles. Here's how Denequa finds balance on the weekends.
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Denequa’s biggest challenge running LIT Brooklyn:
"I don't think you'll ever find a balance in anything. It's more about finding harmony in your personal and professional life. Sometimes asking for help and being vulnerable enough to ask for help can also be tough."
The perfect way to spend a Friday Night:
"I love a glass of wine and catching up on TV. Right now I'm watching This Is Us and starting from season one of Game of Thrones. I also enjoy hanging out with my friends."
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How Denequa powers up on Saturday Mornings:
"I always start my mornings with prayer. How you start your day goes to show how your day and the rest of the week will go. Then, I drink a cup of tea and check my emails. I've been starting to exercise at least for 20-25 minutes. Working out in the mornings and helps me refuel myself for the rest of the day."
The ideal way to spend a Girls' Night:
"I like to catch up with stuff that's going on with us personally that has nothing to do with work. As millennials and entrepreneurs, it's so easy to get caught up in our work life. Sometimes we forget to ask our friends how their personal life is going."
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Why finding balance is important:
"We only have one life to live. We are multifaceted beings that are great at doing numerous things. When you only focus on doing one thing, you're neglecting other parts of yourself who make you who you are. Finding time for everything you love is super important. We're more than just what we do as entrepreneurs. We have other things going for us and other things that make us smile and our hearts flutter. Relationships are also important. I often hear a lot of my friends who are entrepreneurs say that something suffers - whether it's the person you're in a relationship with or friendships. You should find time for everything."
How Denequa likes to recharge:
"How I like to recharge is to look on vacation planning sites and find a cheap flight or getaway. I love the sun, beach, and water. It might be because I'm a Pisces but something about going away and coming back fuels your creativity. That's how your business flourishes. The more ideas you come up with, the more innovative your business becomes. Your business will feel it. If you're not creatively fueled, your business is going to suffer. I believe that wholeheartedly."
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By the time she turned 40, she had encountered her breaking point and spiraled so deeply that she saw no way out for herself aside from death. She went on to say that she heard voices in her head telling her to end her life and that told her of her unworthiness, pulling her deeper into her depression. "I started looking for places, cliffs where I could have an accident because I didn't want my kids to think that their mother had committed suicide.”
Jada credited friends of her son Jaden for putting her on to ayahuasca, a powerful and traditional plant-based brew used for shamanic and healing rituals known for its psychoactive properties. She said partaking in ayahuasca changed her profoundly and "the suicidal thoughts completely went away."
"Ayahuasca helped me, it gave me a new intimate relationship with myself that I had never had before," she told the outlet about her first time taking the psychedelic. Keep reading for more key takeaways from Jada's PEOPLE exclusive.
Jada Pinkett Smith on the status of her marriage to Will Smith:
In what might have been a shocking revelation to most, Jada revealed to the world that she and Will have actually been separated for the past six years, going on seven years. She explained the status of their 26-year marriage to PEOPLE:
“We’re still figuring it out. We’ve been doing some really heavy-duty work together. We just got deep love for each other and we are going to figure out what that looks like for us.”
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Jada on how her relationship with Will Smith caused her to abandon her mental health:
As her star in Hollywood was rising thanks to starring roles in projects like A Different World, Jason's Lyric, and Set It Off, Jada revealed that she was taking Prozac and being treated for depression and suicidal ideation. Meeting Will would cause her to develop a false sense of not needing to take care of her mental health.
"Once I met Will, I completely abandoned my mental health. I was so intoxicated by him and our dynamic. I really felt like I'm cured," she said to PEOPLE. "He became the drug."
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Jada Pinkett Smith on the self-acceptance her kids have taught her:
"My children, they’re little gurus," she told the mag of her kids, bonus son Trey, 30, Jaden, 25, and Willow, 22. "They’ve taught me a deep sense of self-acceptance.”
“They love every part of me. The level of love, unconditional love that they have for me and their dad. And it's one thing to want to be the person that gives that unconditional love. And then there's, to be the recipient of that.”
For the full cover story and photos, head over to PEOPLE here.
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