Gabrielle Union Reflects On The 'Trauma And Pain' She Wants To Leave Behind In 2021
Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union Reflects On The 'Trauma And Pain' She Wants To Leave Behind In 2021

The New Year is often used as a time to reflect on the previous year and celebrate what’s to come. Gabrielle Union took time out to participate in the tradition and shared with her fans the plans she has for 2022 after dealing with “pain” and “trauma” in 2021. The veteran actress and her family have been spending the holidays in Hawai’i and during that time they have also posted alluring images of themselves enjoying the beautiful island of Maui.

Wearing a gorgeous flowy dress from Ndigo Studio, the stunning beauty posted images from what looked like a photoshoot. But while the photos were bright and bubbly, the caption focused on what the actress has been going through.

“New Year, Still Healing. Still working on myself and releasing what no longer serves me,” she wrote. "Embracing personal evolution, accountability and improved communication. Being crystal clear about my boundaries and continuing to ask for help.”

“I felt like I turned to dust in 2021 and I was circling the drain with a smile and a wave. I couldn’t continue to compartmentalize (is this a word 🤷🏾♀️) all of my trauma and pain. Time to face the beast. Me. To everyone slaying dragons seen and unseen while trying to be everything to everyone, I see you. Choose you 1st. Love and light good people.”

While she didn’t go into specifics, 2021 saw the actress be more transparent about parenting and her relationship with Dwyane Wade which she opened up about in her second memoir You Got Anything Stronger?

Back in December, the Bring It On star revealed that she experiences mom guilt, pointing out a particular time where she had to miss her daughter Kaavia James Union Wade’s holiday program due to work. She later shared with Yahoo!’s “So Mini Ways” that her mom guilt causes her to sometimes give in to Kaavia’s demands due to the little time she does have with her.

“Well, I don't wanna spend the little bit of time I have disciplining her and her being upset with me,” she said. But the actress concluded that that is something she is working on.

As far as her memoir goes, the 49-year-old relived some of the most difficult moments in her life, including finding out about Dwyane fathering another child.

She wrote, “The me of today would not have stayed with him, but would I be who I am now without that pain? That fiery explosion that created life and light? The advice I would give myself now would be to leave. ‘You don’t have to do this. You don’t think you have an option, but you do. Save yourself.’”

Sometimes reliving the past is painful and so we hope that the actress gets the healing that she needs in 2022.

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