

Get Into These Style Influencers' Post-Quarantine OOTDs
With every day being uncertain during this COVID-19 crisis, our minds are beginning to fantasize about once again enjoying the daily aspects of what was once normal life. From restaurants to shopping malls, we can only reminisce on the good times we had outdoors. For the last two months, we've been cooking our own meals and FaceTime-ing our loved ones which was fun for a while but getting back to in-person interactions sounds like heaven on earth. While we've been stuck inside daydreaming of what life will soon be, we've also had the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we'd like to conquer the world moving forward.
We asked seven of our favorite stylish ladies what they plan to wear on their first day out of lockdown and what they've learned about themselves during their downtime. Finally getting dressed with somewhere to go, get into these looks for major post-quarantine inspiration.
Aniya Morinia, @aniyahmorinia
Photo courtesy of Aniya Morinia
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
I spent quarantine in the off-campus apartment in my college town, Gainesville, FL. My lease is up in August so I've been living here until I move back to my hometown, Kissimmee, FL with my family.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
The first place I'm getting dressed for is brunch! I love the ambiance of a restaurant that serves brunch and can't wait to wear an outfit to match the vibes. At this point, I have cooked everything that I know how to cook a million times and I'm getting tired of eating my own meals every single day. I'm looking forward to someone setting a delicious meal in front of me at a restaurant.
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
I discovered that I am much more creative than I give myself credit for. I've been working with what I have at home to create content for Instagram and it's been so fun! I've also been trying to personalize and curate my living space now that I am spending more time here. Instagram and magazines have been my main source of inspiration during this time and I can't wait to keep creating and see the transformations I make.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
I am looking forward to starting a new lifestyle post-quarantine. Staying inside has opened my eyes to how unexpected life can be and I want to start saying "yes" to more life experiences! My college experience ended prematurely so I am looking forward to reuniting with my friends and potentially traveling with them.
Kandace Banks, @_kandace
Photo courtesy of Kandace Banks
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
I quarantined back home in Indiana because New York's population is just too dense for me. There's tons of space here and it's very peaceful.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
The first place I'm getting dressed for is a meet up with friends. I know we're going to plan something; a brunch, dinner, drinks, going to someone's party, literally anything. I just want to show some skin and wear an actual dress. Something I haven't had a reason to wear in months.
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
Being back home, I've had some time to read my old journals from college. It made me realize I'm on the path I've wanted to be on all along, I've just lost some of the hunger. So I definitely plan on being more focused when things open back up. If my younger self could give myself any advice now, it would be to have no fear.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
I really look forward to moving freely once things open back up. My soul is craving travel, being in water, eating exotic food in the sun, drinking something delicious, listening to a live band. I really can't wait to travel whenever I want. I've been listening to music in foreign languages to give me that vibe until then.
Chinyere Adogu, @the_real_chi
Photo courtesy of Chinyere Adogu
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
I spent most of my time during quarantine at home. I took walks around the neighborhood ever so often for fresh air and went to the grocery store weekly. I did spend a significant amount of time on Amazon as well.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
The first place I'm getting dressed for is for brunch on a rooftop. I need a massive amount of food in front of me with the sun shining down on me. Brunching has always been a happy place for me, it involves two of my favorite things, which are dressing up and eating food. I definitely miss it!
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
I've discovered that I have to plan out daily activities, big or small, that will bring me some sort of joy. This is a great way for me to maintain a positive and happy energy around myself during this downtime.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
Honestly, traveling! I've canceled so many planned trips within these last few months. I'm someone who loves to constantly move around, so I cannot wait to be able to freely do that again.
Avry Joiner, @thenxcvintage
Photo courtesy of Avry
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
My quarantine time was spent at my home in Charlotte, NC. I spent so much time here, I did a little redecorating to brighten it up. I'm really pleased with how it all came out.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
Oh, man! I'll probably just get cute to go to the thrift store because I miss it so much and I have an online vintage shop that needs new vintage pieces. My Saturday routine was brunch then thrift, and I miss it so much!
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
I'm not sure I discovered anything new about myself but I will say I've enjoyed this downtime SO much! I am constantly on the go. It felt good to spend all day watching Netflix or playing dress up for hours and not rushing from one place to another. My life is always hectic and I'm always on the go. This period of downtime was just what I needed for my creative juices to flow.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
I think I've mentioned this already but THRIFTING! Also, seeing my entire family. We've missed birthdays and holidays so we have so much to make up for.
Raven Smith, @ravey_baby
Photo courtesy of Raven
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
I've been in New Orleans staying at my mom's.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
Brunch! Bottomless mimosas and hookah with the girls!
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
That I'm the only person holding myself back. Having this extra time to focus on things that I put off was me only being in my own head. Go for it!
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
Celebrating my 30th birthday, the proper way!
Lauren Nicole Campbell, @laurennicolefk
Photo courtesy of Lauren Nicole Campbell
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
I'm spending my time at home with my mother. It's just the two of us.
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
I've found getting dressed puts me in the mindset to get on with whatever I've got planned for the day. So, I'm either getting dressed to go into my office or to work from the dining table.
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
I loved the hustle and bustle of London life more than I thought. Albeit, I'm sure when everything resumes, I'll miss the quietness of being home, there's a thrill that comes with rush hour, running from one meeting on one side of London to the next meeting on the other side of it. Who knew I could miss that as much as I am?! But most of all, I've learnt I'm rather content with my own company.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
Laughing with friends, going to bottomless brunches, being able to hug my family and fly back home to Barbados, whenever I want. I will never take those things for granted again.
Tyla-Lauren Gilmore, @tylauren
Photo courtesy of Tyla-Lauren
Where are you spending your time during quarantine?
My new apartment in NJ!
What's the first place you're getting dressed for and why?
A potluck get-together to see all my best friends at my new place!
What's one thing you've discovered about yourself during this downtime?
I'm super self-motivating; it was so hard to stay positive and productive but I managed to do a lot more than I thought during quarantine.
What do you look forward to the most, post-quarantine?
Enjoying the weather, going to the gym, seeing my friends and family whenever I want and going out to eat!
Featured image courtesy of Lauren Nicole Campbell
Exclusive: KJ Smith Talks Viral Wedding With Skyh Black: ‘We Did What We Wanted To Do’
Whether it was your group chat, social media feed, or your favorite media outlet covering the spectacle, I’m pretty sure you’ve come across the viral Black wedding between actress KJ Smith (Sistas, Raising Kanan) and actor Skyh Black (All the Queen’s Men, Sistas). From their grand entrance to Jay-Z, Kayne West, and Beyoncé’s song “Lift Off” to KJ’s standout dance routine and the endless celebrity appearances, it’s an addictive TikTok scroll you can’t help but delve into.
But what many people would be surprised to know is that the couple’s original wedding plan was nothing like what it grew to be. What started as her simply scrolling through posts to get ideas eventually transformed into what the internet knows now as #TheBlackExperience. In an exclusive conversation with xoNecole, KJ walked us through her planning process, the morning of her wedding, and what she thinks of the online response.
Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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Feature image by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
New Music Monday: SZA & Justin Bieber "Snooze" While Diddy & The Weeknd Drop "Another Side Of Me"
It seems reasonable to assume that new music will slow down in tempo to coincide with the fall season that quickly approaches. However, musicians, ever the unreasonable, are constantly showing us that they have different ideas. They have chosen to keep releasing club hits rather than slow tunes to get us ready for cuffing season, letting people know that while summer may be coming to an end, it may last as long as they want it to.
We are waving goodbye to summer with the new music from last week, but we might also be welcoming another week of tunes designed only for dancing. And honestly, who can complain about that? Here's this week's new music to make you move at every tempo.
"Another One of Me" - Diddy ft. The Weeknd, 21 Savage, & French Montana
Since its original recording in 2016, this song has undergone a great deal of alterations. The Weeknd previewed the new version of the song on his recent European tour, though it was originally scheduled to be released in 2020 and again in 2022. Nevertheless, with the release of this song, The Weeknd also declared that this would be his final "guest" appearance for some time, if ever. Therefore, the Weeknd sings about how there will "never be another one of [him]" again in this unique, enticing, and bold farewell. Thus, we must value him and the rest of his crew--French Montana and 21 Savage--while we still have the chance.
The musicians deliver vocal bars and complimentary rhymes on the song, which is accompanied by a drum sample from what seems like Phil Collins' "In the Air Tonight," as they consider their timeliness and what Diddy has done for the hip-hop/R&B community over the past few decades and on newly released The Love Album.
"Slime You Out" - Drake ft. SZA
On my first listen, it took everything I had in me not to abruptly end this song. However, by the time Drake begins to sing—heavily using auto-tune—and the beat begins to drop, there is enough of an allure to keep me listening. "Slime You Out" which features SZA is the lead single to Drake's highly anticipated eighth studio album, For All The Dogs. In the song, both musicians talk about being exploited by their ex-lovers and share their own emotional experiences.
They also disclose their malice towards their exes, as "sliming" someone out refers to using them for sex. The single and its meaning works perfectly for the duo, especially after it was revealed on Twitter (RIP) that Drake and SZA used to date back in '08--or was it '09? Regardless, this song allows the exes to focus on past relationships, even their own, as they take turns talking about ex-lovers and finally putting their years of subtle back and forth to rest.
"Lexicon" - Vagabon
Vagabon, also known as Laetitia Tamko, debuted her new album Sorry I Haven't Called on Friday, September 15, as well as her most recent single "Lexicon." Sorry I Haven't Called is a loving and tenacious album about enjoying the exhilarating moments wherever you can by understanding how you love and grieve. The album was formed out of sadness when her closest friend passed away in 2021.
It's an LP that draws inspiration from both group dance floor revelations and the enlightening calm of isolation; it represents both a creative and emotional resurrection. She claims that the record was made to include every feeling she had at the time, even when there was none. In "Lexicon," Vagabon invites the listener to let go of words and the meaning of things, as she repeatedly sings atop a bed of rhythmic noises in "Lexicon" to communicate her longing for oblivion.
"You Wish" - Flyana Boss
Last week, I had the pleasure of watching Flyana Boss open for Janelle Monáe. During their introduction, they discussed being best friends and explained that this foundation allowed them to become the artists that they desired to be. Within moments, the chemistry between the duo was fathomable as they easily played off one another and allowed room for each other to easily shine.
Though it's not a new single, the official video for the song dropped last week. In it, Flyana Boss mocks those who refer to them as "industry plants," while the song brings attention to their infamous "Hello Christ, I am about to sin again," challenge that TikTok sparked to life these last couple of months. They are strange, but in the coolest of ways, mainly because they don't wish to be like anyone else. However, it is clear that with their success others might.
"SKED" - Denzel Curry
Denzel Curry starts his song, which is almost an interlude, by outlining the reasons why he does not feel the need to trust others. He then goes on to tell people that because of their treatment and actions, he is unwilling to find a reason to comprehend those in positions of power and how they utilize their influence. He comes to the conclusion that these actions are the result of fear, and he merely declares that his adversaries are afraid before leaving it at just that. This brand-new song and its accompanying video leave the audience wanting more in less than two minutes. However, as he has stated, he's said all that he has needed to say.
"FAN" - Offset
This song is not long, and if you aren't paying attention, you won't be sure that the first minute is the same as the first 0:00 to 0:50 seconds. Regardless, when it kicks off, boy does it run and it takes off with Offset's insistence on shouting "f**k everybody" kicks in. Offset creates an entertaining video that draws inspiration from his admiration for Michael Jackson and his showmanship to demonstrate the necessity to destroy every bridge he has built since everyone is deserving of a sharp and clear "FU."
This video definitely shows how he has grown as an artist over the last couple of years, and after the grief he has faced from his cousin Takeoff's death, it only makes sense why he doesn't give a damn or two about turning his back on everyone.
"Balut" - Doja Cat
I've said it before and I'll say it again: I hate how much I love Doja Cat's music. I don't want to, I've actively been resisting it. However, I must say that since her "MOO[ing]" days, she has developed into a dynamic artist, and this has only led to the creation of vibes, bops, and songs that are worth listening to. Consider her most recent song, "Balut." It is a total vibe. She boasts about her ability to create hits and her distinctive artistic range in her most recent song.
In fact, she thinks that her artistic ability is as simple as "taking candy from a baby." She is correct that it is that simple; or at least for her it is. It is difficult to believe otherwise while listening to her mid-tempo, brag-tinged tune with its smooth flow. Her newest LP Scarlet drops this Friday, and like a moth to a flame, Doja knows we will all be anxiously awaiting its arrival.
"Snooze (Acoustic)" - SZA ft. Justin Bieber
I would not have wagered a single penny that this collaboration would truly take place. But now that it has, many question whether it ought to have. Lyrically, there is nothing fresh to concentrate on. SZA continues to explain why she would be prepared to break the law and compromise her values for the person she loves, but they are still hesitant to meet her halfway. The only thing that has changed is that we now have Justin Beiber's face to place her pleas upon. When Justin Beiber and SZA join in on the acoustic version of "Snooze," they produce a silky, smooth duet that is harmonized flawlessly with daunting echoes and heavenly vocals that coo over one another smoothly.
"Peaches & Eggplants" - Young Nudy ft. Latto & Sexyy Red (Remix)
I'll give you a second to consider what the song "Peaches and Eggplants" by Young Nudy feat. Latto & Sexxy Red could be about. Yes, now that you've experienced that moment. You are correct, that is what it is about. It is all about sex—and more sex—and, well, you get the idea. Even though the song's basic structure is straightforward, it nonetheless provides a fun finish to the summer. The song's production features synthesizers, "pounding" percussion, and Young Nudy's gunshot emulation in the background.
However, the remix now has a more feminine, more confident (if that could have been possible) edge to it thanks to Latto and Sexyy Redd. No one holds back on this song, but then again, the title never implied that they would.
"Swing" - EARTHGANG ft. Benji
And when we ask them when they been at, EARTHGANG will simply say they've been over here. On the right side of things, where they have always belonged. Fresh on the release track of their newest single "Swing" for Marvel's Spider-Man 2 video game soundtrack, EARTHGANG has returned to make us move like they always have. Joined by Benji, the song is loud, with a guitar rift that sounds like Imagine Dragons' "I'm So Sorry," and simultaneously lowers the tempo to make the perfect illustration of a song fusing several genres.
The song shouldn't make sense, much as when Imagine Dragons and Kendrick Lamar collaborated at the VMAs, yet the seamless genre-hopping makes the song engaging and ideal for the video game platform it advertises.
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