When it comes to aging, you better trust and believe that Black does crack.
I know when you read that sentence you probably laughed. Hard. Because Taraji Henson, Gabrielle Union, Nia Long, and Sanaa Lathan don’t look a day over 30. It’s true, each of the women I have just named, and more, are very gorgeous women of color who have aged beautifully. But when they are out of the spotlight, they’ve at the least thought about what their aging skin would look like.
Most all women struggle with trying to maintain a youthful look no matter what their race is. It’s not even shocking anymore when women in Hollywood talk about the cosmetic procedures they’ve undergone. And now, many women who aren’t in the limelight are looking to get a little nip and tuck as well as a few fillers to maintain their youthful appearance.
I've heard of my fair share of procedures, but when I discovered Vampire Facials and Vampire Facelifts --two different cosmetic procedures that entails taking blood from one’s own body and injecting or brushing it on their faces --I just knew that cosmetic surgery had gone to Hell wearing gasoline panties.
But I was curious, and wanted to know if this was some kind of farce, or if it was a legitimate means of maintaining younger, healthier looking skin.
I started my research by Googling “WTF is a Vampire Facial or Vampire Facelift,” and saw a lot of scientific mumbo jumbo that makes the procedure sound scarier than what it actually is. Fortunately, I was able to speak with Dr. Robert Bowen, a West Virginia-based doctor who specializes in cosmetic medicine and body contouring. He confirmed that the procedure isn’t as bad as it sounds.
The differences between a Vampire Facial and the Vampire Facelift are many, but they share one main similarity--they’re both anti-aging cosmetic procedures.
When you get a Vampire Facial, the doctor will take about four tablespoons of your blood - sort of like what happens when you get lab test - and will then put it in a machine for about 10 minutes. That machine’s job is to isolate the Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP) from your blood for about 10 minutes.
PRP is as important as nectar is in a mango. Among other uses, medical doctors have been using PRP for years as a clinical tool to treat nerve injury, tendonitis, osteoarthritis, bone repair, alopecia, and sports injuries.
Dr. Bowen says that after the PRP is separated, a micro-needle device is used to create thousands of tiny micro-punctures in the skin, driving the isolated PRP growth factors into the skin, and creating stimulus for tightening and rejuvenating collagen in the face. After that, the doctor paints something on your face. But that’s the kicker--it’s the part of your blood that regenerates new cellular growth.
Dr. Bowen says that what the doctor is doing is painting growth factors onto the micro-punctures, so the growth factors soak into the tissue for further stimulation of tightening and skin rejuvenation.
It doesn't seem that bad, and it’s actually the same procedure that Kim Kardashian had done in one episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians. Yes, she ugly cried when she got her procedure done, which is weird to me because one of the first steps in the process involves numbing your face.
What I can tell you is that the results are astounding, and the reviews for it are very positive. From what I can tell, women with grayish looking skin have improved color, natural rosy cheeks, and the best part is that they don't have to wear foundation if they don't want to, because their skin looks almost flawless.
ReallyRee, a Beauty Vlogger from the UK, said that she was impressed with the results, but it should be noted that this is not a permanent solution. She also said that doctors suggest two to three treatments per year, and then annually to maintain your look.
"I really loved the results of the PRP - it really improved the texture of my skin, I think my pores were less visible and my skin seemed firmer. It was also really clear and radiant – especially after about 4-6 weeks post treatment."
With the Vampire Facelift, your blood is drawn like you’re about to get a lab test, and then the doctor spins it in a machine called a centrifuge that separates the PRP. Afterward, the doctor injects it into parts of your face. It’s like kind of a natural version of Botox.
It may sound a little gimmicky, especially because of the name, but Dr. Bowen says there’s no gimmicks about the procedure, and the results speaks for itself.
“This is a technique that we use for wound healing,” Dr. Bowen said. “Those tissues are no different than the ones on our skin. The only thing gimmicky thing about it is the name, but not the procedure itself.”
Knowing this made me think that this is a procedure that Black women would never do, because we age so gracefully, however, Dr. Bowen said that a lot of Black women got the procedure done.
“The Vampire Facelift is something that could benefit everybody, from fair skin to dark skin.”
The bomb had been dropped when he said that.
I immediately wanted to know why a Black woman would put her blood back into their face. When I searched for some proof, I found a video of a Black woman who swears by them. Her name is Khanyi Mbau, and she is a South African television personality, actress and socialite, who took South African entertainment show Star Gist behind the scenes during her procedure.
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Dr. Charles Runels, who has been credited as the father of Vampire Facelifts, says he's studied this procedure for years, and that he's committed to creating better ways to improve the procedure. He said in a blog post,
I’ve conducted many research trials and worked as a research chemist before medical school—my job is to find the best materials and the best methods and keep working to make the service better.
If you're sold on the procedures, the Vampire Facial will set you back about $500 to $600 dollars, and the Vampire Facelift will run you between $1600 and $1800 dollars (depending on where you live). In comparison, Botox is a little cheaper, and averages about $250-$500 per treatment, depending on the physician, location, units purchased, promotions, etc.
In the end, people will always be searching for a fountain of youth. Until then, Vampire Facelifts or Facials are definitely natural alternatives for a more youthful look, and the procedures are sure to evolve in the years ahead.
Have you ever had a Vampire Facelift or Facial, and what did you think about it? If not, would you get one?
Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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Feature image by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
