One of my favorite things about the beauty industry is that there are no rules. There just aren't. There's always a hundred ways to do something, and then a better way to do those hundred ways too. Makeup looks are subjective per person, and you can have as much fun as you want to have to live your best creatively expressed life. Because of this, the internet is filled with experiments or new hacks to keep our juices flowing.
And listen, I recently came across one that made me question everything I ever knew about applying makeup, pull up a chair, let me explain.
It all started when I came across beauty influencer Yasmin Buachie's IG page, where she often shows off her beauty content to her followers. In a video, she was applying her beat for the day and testing out a hack that she learned from another influencer. In the end, after she finishes her makeup, in the oxymoron move of the century, she dunks her face in water to give herself a matte look. Yes, water. Again, to set her makeup, she dunked her full face in water. Science gods, make it make sense!
The video was captioned:
"So I was sent this makeup hack by one of my friends which was done by @makeupbyalissiac and I had to try it. First things first this actually made my skin look flawless no cap like I am shook but also I don't think I'm going to dunk my head in water every time I do my make up haha maybe for a long day out or something. MC was complimenting my makeup all day tho so haha who knows."
And ladies listen, her makeup was beautifully in place when all was said and done.
In fact, the trick has been around for years, hailing from South Korea. It's called 'Jamsu' and it's made its way from South Korea to, well, everywhere else, popping up on TikTok, IG, and even getting mentioned by celebs. Jamsu has been a "thing" since 2017, but has re-emerged this year, thanks to social media discovering the technique and ultimately the pandemic making us bored enough to try whatever we need to do for flawless skin.
The instructions were simple: following base application (foundation, concealer, and powder), dunk your head in cold water three times for about ten seconds. Make sure to use a bowl big enough that you can move your face around in. And as to why it works, Maree Kinder, founder of Beauty & Seoul says:
"The water repels the powder and presses it to set on your skin, which is why powder is the critical step."
And by now, if you're like me, your jaw is on the floor and you're questioning everything you ever thought you knew about makeup application. Yasmine's comment section was amazed as well.
From those that were mind blown:
To those who fell in line to give it a try:
Yasmin hasn't said if this is a practice that she still does after completing her look, but sis, if we need to add water to the regimen, then just say that.
Ladies, would you try this hack?
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From Monogamy To Polyamory: 'I'm In An Asexual Poly Marriage With My Husband Of 7 Years'
Have you ever wondered what it's like to be asexual and in an open marriage? Relationship Coach Mikki Bey shared her first-hand experience with us as well as answered some of our burning questions.
Like a lot of people, Mikki met her now husband, Raheem Ali, online. As soon as they met, they instantly fell in love and got engaged on their first date. Just 90 days after they met, the couple tied the knot and have now been married for seven years. Raheem and Mikki aren’t your typical married couple, and despite being married for almost a decade, their marriage is anything but traditional. Mikki and Raheem have what she calls an "asexual polyamorous marriage."
Defining Her Sexuality
It wasn't until last summer that Mikki found the language to define her sexuality. "I didn't have the language for it until last summer," she explained to xoNecole. "Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing.”
Mikki always thought she was broken because she had no interest in sex. Mikki noticed after her friends came to visit and started discussing their sexual fantasies that she realized something was different about her. “At that point, I knew something was definitely different about me since I do not have sexual fantasies at all. It was truly news to me that people are at work thinking about sex! That was not my experience.” This led to Mikki researching asexuality, which she soon realized fit her to a T. “It felt like breathing new air when I was able to call it by name," said Mikki.
"Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing it."
Asexuality refers to people who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience attraction without acting on it sexually, or experience sexual attraction differently based on other factors. Like most things, asexuality falls on a spectrum and encompasses many other identities. It's important to remember, however, that attraction and action are not always synonymous: some asexuals may reject the idea of sexual contact, but others may be sex-neutral and engage in sexual activity.
It's possible that some asexuals will have sex with someone else despite not having a libido or masturbating, but others will have sex with a partner because it brings a sense of connection.
From a Traditional Marriage to Kitchen Table Polyamory
Although Mikki never really had a high sex drive, it wasn’t until after the birth of her son, that she noticed her sex drive took a real nosedive. “I never had a high sex drive, but about a year after my son was born, I realized I had zero desire. My husband has a high sex drive, and I knew that it would not be sustainable to not have sex in our marriage at that time.”
She was determined to find an alternative to divorce and stumbled upon a polyamory conversation on Clubhouse. Upon doing her own research, she brought up the idea to their husband, who was receptive. “It’s so interesting to me that people weigh sex so heavily in relationships when even if you are having a ton of sex, it’s still a very small percentage of the relationship activity," Mikki shared.
They chose polyamory because Mikki still wanted to be married, but she also wanted to make sure that Raheem was getting his individual needs and desires met, even if that meant meeting them with someone else. “I think that we have been programmed to think that our spouses need to be our 'everything.' We do not operate like that. There is no one way that fits all when it comes to relationships, despite what society may try to tell you. Their path to doing this thing called life together may be different from yours, but they found what works for them. We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us,” Mikki explained.
"We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us. We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sex partners to lifetime partners if it should go there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it."
She continued, “We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sexual partners to lifetime partners if it should get there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it. Our dynamic is parallel with kitchen table poly aspirations.”
Kitchen table polyamory (KTP) is a polyamorous relationship in which all participants are on friendly terms enough to share a meal at the kitchen table. Basically, it means you have some form of relationship with your partner’s other partner, whether as a group or individually. A lot of times, KTP relationships are highly personal and rooted in mutual respect, communication, and friendship.
Intimacy in an Asexual Polyamorous Marriage
Mikki says she and her husband, Raheem, still share intimate moments despite being in a polyamorous marriage. “Our intimacy is emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical, although non-sexual. We are intentional about date nights weekly, surprising and delighting each other daily, and most of all, we communicate our needs regularly. In my opinion, our intimacy is top-tier! I give my husband full-body massages, mani-pedis and make sure I am giving him small physical touches/kisses throughout the day. He is also very intentional about showing me his love and affection.”
Raheem and Mikki now use their lives as examples for others. On their website, thepolycouplenextdoor.com, they coach people interested in learning how to be consensually non-monogamous. “We are both relationship coaches. I specialized in emotional regulation, and Raheem specializes in communication and conflict resolution. The same tools we use in our marriage help our clients succeed in polyamory."
Mikki advises people who may be asexual or seeking non-monogamy to communicate their needs openly and to consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Building a strong relationship with a non-sexual partner requires both empathy and compassion.
For more of Mikki, follow her on Instagram @getmikkibey. Follow the couple's platform on Instagram @thepolycouplenextdoor.
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