Many times, at the end of a relationship, all we're left with is tears and memories. A break-up doesn't necessarily constitute as the death of the bond between two people, so often, one or both partners are left to grieve what once was, and that grief manifests as an open wound.
Emotional wounds are much like physical wounds, but aren't seen that way by most people. Imagine someone you love came up and stabbed you in your arm, and in an angry fit, you stabbed them back. "I'm sorry" will never be enough to instantaneously heal the pain that you caused for one another, but with time, your body will rebuild and you will heal. Yet, after a break-up, your loved ones encourage you to "move on" and "let go" in their time and not your own, symbolically sprinkling salt into this open wound that won't seem to heal.
We often don't get the closure we need and have to find the strength to rehabilitate despite this fact. But ever so often, we luck up and get the answers that we need that will catalyze our recovery.
Recently, famed basketball player, Kyrie Irving posted on Instagram to take accountability and apologize for the wounds that he caused in one famous singer's life that nearly led her to commit suicide. He posted on Instagram:
"@kehlani I'm sorry, i know this is long over due. I have to speak on this simply because I owe it to you and you deserve the world to see you for you and how beautiful you are inside and out, and not for the attachment to an emotional moment in time where we both had to grow up and learn about our hearts and our souls in a world that judges and adds on fictitious pressure, SN: And also add that we are public figures now on this social media monster of a platform. I do not want anymore negative energy towards her in any way."
Kyrie Irving finally set the record straight about the untrue rumors of infidelity, which prompted a number of online trolls to attack his former girlfriend and songstress, Kehlani, with hateful messages that led to Kehlani's attempted suicide and hospitalization in 2016. She captioned in a since deleted Instagram post:
"I wanted to leave this Earth. Being completely selfish for once. Never thought I'd get to such a low point."
Later, she told The Cruz Show that despite her heartbreaking experience, she was a survivor. Not a victim. She said:
"I wasn't a victim, you know what I mean. I'm never a victim, I refuse to be a victim—I'm not. It was really recovering from so many things at once…on the flip side, there's not too much that can hurt me now."
Shortly after Kehlani's hospitalization, Irving did send out a series of tweets that confirmed that Kehlani had not cheated, but still after two years, Kehlani is still bearing the weight of the untrue narrative.
The 26-year-old athlete posted on Instagram last night to clear up the matter once and for all.
Kyrie apologized publicly for not doing more to clear her name, and condemned his so-called "fans" that relentlessly come for Kehlani with no merit. He posted:
"She did not cheat or intentionally hurt me, she actually did something extremely noble & respectful, but the fact that it's still a lingering narrative is really outdated at this point and as I'm hearing about what people are doing to try and intentionally hurt her on my behalf is bullshit. The lack of understanding of what we went through has bred a lot of unwarranted things happening and I want my supporters to really let her be the great soul I know she is whole heartedly. I'm hearing people are showing up to shows and being disruptive while she performs and when it starts affecting real life progress, the shit has to stop."
He continued on to say that he has a responsibility as a friend and a leader to assume accountability for how his silence has affected the life of a woman that he was once very close to. He finished the post with some hashtags that confirmed that they're not together, and still best friends.
"I am responsible as a leader to guide the young males who follow me in a positive way, & this is long overdue. We only try our hardest to be great humans and the fact that I can love her for how beautiful she is a privilege in its own right, I'm grateful. I want to see her and all individuals be who they truthfully are, unapologetically. #WeAreNotDating #Besties #BeenBesties #NeverStoppedNeverWell"
Kehlani, who says that she has since healed from the traumatic experience, replied in a comment that thanked him for his honesty and affirmed that their love for each other would be forever, even if not romantically.
The exchange between the former lovers was refreshing to see because it reassures me that closure isn't unrealistic, even if it doesn't come exactly when I want it to. The tears and memories that I've acquired from my former lovers left open wounds that will heal with or without their accountability, but Kehlani and Kyrie prove that time can heal all things.
Featured image via Kyrie Irving/Instagram