Why Rooting For Everybody Black Includes Mo'Nique
The first time I heard about the "Mo'Nique Boycotting Netflix" issue was in the car on the way to work. Charlamagne Thagod from The Breakfast Club was giving her Donkey of the Day.
In typical Charlamagne fashion, he wasn't just talking about the situation, he went in. He pretty much called Mo'Nique a joke. Even going as far to pull in clips from her Sway in the Morning interview. He called her delusional for saying that she was the most decorated comedian alive, ending it by saying that you're only as valuable as your current market value.
What Charlamagne failed to point out is that Mo'Nique is the only female comedian that has have similar careers like our legendary male comedians, i.e. Steve Harvey, Martin Lawrence, and Kevin Hart. Mo'Nique has had a hit sitcom on the UPN, a hit talk show on BET, movies, and many successful comedy tours.
When I got in the office, the first thing I did was listen to the Sway in the Morning interview. In the interview, Mo'Nique walks us through the timeline and details with Netflix. She explained how Netflix reached out to her and asked if their representatives could come see her show. Three representatives saw the show and all of them loved it. Netflix then came to her with an offer of $500.000.
Now, I don't pretend to know anything about comedian pay days, but coming from Netflix, $500,000 seemed extremely low. Especially after the offers of $40 million for Chris Rock, $60 million for Dave Chappelle, $100 million for Jerry Seinfeld, and $11 million for Amy Schumer. Taken aback by the offer, Mo'Nique and her husband went back to Netflix to show them proof of her international reach. Still, Netflix didn't budge on the offer and instead gave her a ridiculous excuse that they didn't go off resumes. Instead, they based their offers based on anticipation.
I'm just going to put it out there that I damn sure wasn't looking for a Jerry Seinfeld or Amy Schumer special.
Anyway, with her back against the wall, she brought up Amy Schumer and her $11 million payout. It's no secret that Amy Schumer pushed back on Netflix and demanded a larger salary. She did this simply on the strength of how much Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock was offered. The gag of it all is the special turned out to be trash and not worth the investment.
Later that night, I'm strolling up Twitter. I run across a video of Mo'Nique in front of her award case. (She has receipts.) She breaks down the box office numbers from Amy Schumer's budget for Snatch, which was $42 Million and grossed $45 million, making a mere $3 million profit. Whereas her film Precious had abudget of $10 million and grossed $47 million, making a profit of $37 million. The film was also nominated for six Academy Awards in which Mo'Nique won Best Supporting Actress.
See, I grew up with The Parkers on television. Being a heavier girl with a dream of acting, it was seeing Mo'Nique and Countess on the screen that gave me hope. It was Mo'Nique who gave me confidence in my body. She made it cool to say, "skinny bitches are evil." And even if you're not a fan of the fat girl jokes, Mo'Nique still has done things to push our culture forward.
Instead of rallying behind someone who has given their career to us, we laugh. We say that she should be humble and change her approach.
It seems every time someone attempts to take up for us, we say "Sit Your Ass Down." Yet, we complain about companies saying racist sh*t and just apologizing. Black Twitter will go in an uproar for a week. Then move on to the next topic. We are the only race with the greatest buying power but refuse to use it when it counts. Aren't you tired of this cycle of blatant racism being covered up with a half ass apology?
I would like to think this is just a Mo'Nique issue, but it's not.
In fact, we quickly dismiss anyone who questions the norm.
When Jay-Z announced Tidal, people was talking about how expensive it was, yet we spend hours searching the internet for free content from Tidal.
When Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith called for a boycott of the Oscars for lack of representation everyone said they was only doing it because Will didn't get a nomination that year. Yet, we will watch the Oscars and tweet #OscarsSoWhite.
When Kanye was ranting about how racist the fashion industry was, we told him he had "rich n*gga problems" and to stick to rapping. Yet, we will buy the knockoff Yeezy clothes from Zara and H&M.
At what point is enough going to be enough? When are we going to demand that the industry respect us and our legends? When will we realize that change doesn't come with convenience?
That same energy we have towards Black Panther should be for anybody who's pushing our culture forward. If we don't change the norm now, what happens if Issa pisses off the wrong person? Or Tiffany Haddish? Are we saying it's okay to strip them of everything they have done because they aren't "hot" right now? Nah, f*ck that! If we can root for Shonda Rhimes and Ellen Pompeo to get their money, why can't we stand behind Mo'Nique and demand that Netflix run her money? Or would that be too much like right?
We're at a very pivotal time in our country.
Obama may not be in office but that doesn't mean we can't keep his spirit of change alive. We can continue to push our culture forward, but it has to start from the inside. We must be like Issa Rae and root for everybody black, including Mo'Nique and any other celebrity that dares to question the status quo. It's time we get behind our legends.
We can easily make our presence known and felt. And not just on the Internet as a trending topic. We can hit them where it hurts: their pockets. It's going to be uncomfortable. We may not be able to watch our favorite shows or go to our favorite cheap clothing stores. But that's the price we pay to ensure we're not having this same conversation again in 10 years.
Real change doesn't come with convenience.
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DJ 9AM: DJ & Curator
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "On My Mama" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Nia Long
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon, Pisces Rising
Favoring open-format, multi-genre mixes, this DJ has created a winning reputation for rocking a crowd with seamless transitions and selections, always representing Southwest musical and cultural influences.
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Tiffany James, Founder, Modern BLK Girl
Representing:Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Lucky Girl" by Carlina
Favorite OG It Girl:Naomi Campbell
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Virgo Rising
Modern BLK Girl is one of the leading investment groups among women of color, and the founder serves as an avid investor, community builder, and advocate. Tiffany James is also a mentor, utilizing her unique combination of financial and fashion expertise.
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Kat Mateo, Casting Director
Representing: New Jersey
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Princess Going Digital" by Amaarae
Favorite OG It Girl: Kelis, Eve, Lil Kim
Zodiac Big Three: Aries Sun, Cancer Moon, Cancer Rising
Thriving as a casting director and stylist, Kat Mateo offers a unique point of view that has shaped New York Fashion Week shows, ad campaigns, and editorials. She has also been a major contributor to cultural conversations related to fashion and inclusivity.
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Denise Stephanie Hewitt, Photographer
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Experience" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Hannah Montana
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Rising
This Gordon Parks Foundation scholar is a full-time student who has been working to expand her freelance career in photography. Denise is also been featured among Essence'sinaugural list of "Top 10 Creators Under 30," for her unique aesthetics and perceptions through her art.
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Nayamka Roberts-Smith, Aesthetician
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Tomorrow 2" by GloRilla & Cardi B
Favorite OG It Girl: Meagan Good
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Capricorn Rising
Nayamka Roberts-Smith is an award-winning professional in the skincare industry and serves as an educator, offering knowledge on beauty culture. She also is a well-sought-after speaker on beauty and women’s issues, with a following of more than 1 million on social.
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Desiree L. Talley, Esq., Vice President, Legal & Business Affairs, Revolt TV
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice" by The Carters
Favorite OG It Girl: Issa Rae
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Cancer Rising
An attorney and storyteller, Desiree L. Talley meshes relatability with her legal smarts for the culture. She advocates for cultural advancement and societal change through her POPLAW Podcast while balancing her executive duties at Revolt TV.
Marley Rae
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Marley Rae, Organizer, WalkGood
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice For What" by Drake
Favorite OG It Girl: Mariah Carey
Zodiac Big Three: Capricorn Sun, Taurus Moon, Leo Rising
Marley Rae is a Nike Athlete, certified yoga instructor, COO, and Director of Health and Wellness for WalkGood LA, a family-founded non-profit organization. She is dedicated to fostering understanding and care in local and global communities.
MIDWEST
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Shawnee Dez
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "FreeBody Freestyle" by Shawnee Dez
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Morrison
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon, Cancer Rising
Shawnee Dez is an artist who's all about captivating her audience through encouragement and empowerment. Her music features fluid harmonic layering, live instrumentation fused with digital production, and her unique multi-talented voice in an alto melodic tone.
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Bianca Pastel, Visual Artist
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: Anything by Whitney Houston
Favorite OG It Girl: Grace Jones
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising
Bianca Pastel's artistic portfolio includes fine art, illustrations, and animation, and she's worked with clients including Disney Pixar, and the NFL, to name a few. Her focus is "empowering the experience of being a Black child and dealing with mental health issues."
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Donyale Walton, Founder, Hoop Mobb
Representing: Detroit
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Yeah I Said It" by Rihanna
Favorite OG It Girl: Aaliyah
Zodiac Big Three: Virgo Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Rising
Donyale Walton's brand Hoop Mobb, celebrates the Black and Brown fashion and cultural impact and presence of hoop earrings. It's grown to earn more than seven figures in annual revenue and a nationwide community of loyal consumers.
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Ticara Devone, Content Creator
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "She's a Bitch" by Missy Elliott
Favorite OG It Girl: Ananda Lewis
The Zodiac Big Three: Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Virgo Rising
A trusted sneaker enthusiast and content creator, Ticara Devone uses dynamic storytelling to hold space for others with a passion for sneakers. A published writer, she’s worked with brands including Nike and Footlocker and inspires us all by ensuring women are vocal and seen in the multi-billion dollar shoe space.
SOUTH
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AllyiahsFace, Content Creator
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Go Off" Doja Cat
Favorite OG It Girl: Gabrielle Union and Halle Berry
Zodiac Big Three: Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Scorpio Rising
AllyiahsFace's YouTube channel has more than 830,000 subscribers, and she's been hitting the ground running since 2015. Her content creation, which centers on beauty, fashion, and lifestyle, has led to a lucrative career and drawn a close-knit social and real-life community to view and be inspired.
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Jaycina, Executive Director, Tender
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "All I Got" by Amel Larrieux
Favorite OG It Girl:Tracee Ellis Ross
Zodiac Big Three: Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Sagittarius Rising
Jaycina is a signed model with a nonprofit that works to provide support and community for single mothers in Atlanta. She's also appeared in campaigns for brands including Fenty and GAP as well as features in all your favorite magazines and on billboards across the country.
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Asha Christian, Founder, Coily App
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "It's My Life" by Mariah Carey
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Childs (Girlfriends)
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Leo Rising
Asha Christian created Coily to provide beauty recommendations utilizing social data. It offers a more personalized, AI-driven experience for users and part of her mission is to provide solutions related to diversity and put the focus back on the consumer. Meshing tech and culture, Christian is innovating with options that exemplify the Black girl magic needed in tech.
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