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Tiffany Haddish has been making moves in a very non-subtle way and that's exactly why we love her and her outlandish spirit.

Last night at the New York Film Critics Circle dinner, Tiffany received an award for best supporting actress, and her speech was a beautifully crafted cocktail of the truths that we all needed to drink.


For those that don't know, Haddish has been doing stand up comedy since she was fifteen years old. Now at a youthful 38 - what are wrinkles? - Tiffany is finally beginning to gain her recognition. Her breakout role was in this past summer's blockbuster hit Girls Trip alongside Queen Latifah and Jada Pinkett-Smith. The success didn't come easy and it didn't come overnight.

Her near 20-minute speech touched on her process as a young Black woman in comedy and the amount of trials and tribulations she had to go through to get where she is today. Despite all of the hardships she had to go through Tiffany made it clear that she maintained her authenticity. In her monologue over a magical cocktail, the Girls Trip actress expressed her gratitude for the critics, good and bad, who had offered their feedback.

"I know some people in here gonna talk shit about me and it's OK. You know why it's OK? Because you care enough to say something. If you didn't say nothing, then you don't care. So, because you said something, thank you. I don't care if it's positive or negative, I appreciate you.I'm glad you see me because there's been so many years that nobody saw me. You know, when you're a little kid in the [foster care] system going through all the... you wonder, 'Does anyone see that I'm alive?' And to be able to be this example for so many youths, so many people like me that you guys have no idea about... but they're coming, because I kicked the f**king door open."

The way to kick the fucking door open, as we've seen with other women such as Cardi B and Amara La Negra, is to be your complete self, unapologetically.

There is no specific recipe for success but we know that a key ingredient in any variation is authenticity. Tiffany's appeal is rooted in her ability to be relatable, to be the friend that we all love because of their upbeat energy. The friend who keeps it real 1000% of the time. When we watched Girls Trip, we were not watching a role played by Tiffany Haddish but rather the woman that Tiffany Haddish is through and through.

"Stop holding back your truth. Be yourself. It's the healthiest way to be. Be who you are. If don't nobody like you, f**k it, there's ten other people that do. Somebody will like you, because there's somebody who is like you and they need to hear you."

When watching Tiffany in her element there is no telling that she has been through a life of struggle; she doesn't allow her pain to define her. Tiffany bloom on stage whilst giving an acceptance speech for her award is attestation for victory over your circumstances. Even two years shy of 40 and the actress carries no chip on her shoulder.

Let her moment of glory be a reminder that age does not define your path to success. It doesn't determine when your path begins or ends. As long as we are staying true to ourselves and maintaining our own authenticity, the path will come into alignment with everything we've ever asked for.

Watch the full speech below:

 

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