6 Easy Ways To Spring Clean Your Digital Space
Naturally, when we think of spring cleaning, thoughts of decluttering forgotten cabinet spaces, organizing storage, and letting go of things that we’ve outgrown immediately come to mind. Releasing things that no longer serve a purpose or take up space can help us cleanse our corners of stale energy when we’re looking to let in what’s new. But when it comes to taking part in the seasonal routine of spring cleaning, it’s not just our living quarters that could use the extra attention.
Much like our places of dwelling, we can’t forget our digital spaces as we refresh, reorganize, and declutter for the season ahead.
For many of us, our phones, laptops, and social media apps are an extension of our daily lives and habits. We use them to connect, unplug, store memories, and document the most important moment of our lives as they unfold. The average person spends up to 147 minutes per day on social media worldwide, which means that there’s a high chance that what we store in the digital world can outweigh that of our material and personal spaces. In other words, it might be time to do a sweep of your digital spaces and tidy some things up.
From emails and unread group chat texts, to forgotten subscriptions and unfollowing social media accounts that no longer serve you, spring is the perfect time to take your deep cleaning digital. By taking the time to spring to clean your digital space, you can create a more organized and efficient home for yourself online; to get you started, we’ve put together some tips to get your cleaning spree off on the right foot.
1.Get Your Inbox Down to Zero
Depending on the day, our inbox can go from zero to 100+ real quick. And while it may be the goal for some to keep our inboxes down to the single digits, random promotions, newsletter updates, and accidental reply-all messages may keep us from maintaining that goal. Catch up on all those missed emails, delete your spam folder, and if you're receiving newsletters or emails that you no longer want, take the time to unsubscribe from them.
2.Subscriptions and Streaming Services, Canceled.
Speaking of canceling, have you checked on those free trials you signed up for lately? If you haven’t already, there’s no better time than now to avoid unwanted charges to your account by canceling your trial periods and letting go of streaming services you’re not utilizing. We’re saving our coins this year, so no need to have them take your money if you’re not even using their services.
3.It’s Okay To Hit the ‘Unfollow’ Button
In recent times, social media has evolved beyond being a mere platform for sharing aesthetically pleasing images. With apps like TikTok and Instagram, we now have access to a constant stream of content that can impact our mental well-being and shape our self-perception. While certain accounts may have been enjoyable in the past, it is perfectly acceptable to move on from topics and conversations that no longer align with our personal growth. Deciding to unfollow accounts does not always indicate a personal grudge, but rather a positive decision to maintain a social circle that is free from negativity.
4.Update Your Link in Bio
If you have a business, portfolio, or creative platform that’s worth sharing, it’s important to have the link in your bio on lock. In most cases, this is the first touch point that potential clients or brands have to find you and connect for future opportunities, so make it easy for them to find everything they need to reach out. Sites like Norby and Squarespace make it super easy (and free) to set up a landing page that’s engaging and has all your important details in one, easy-to-locate spot.
5.Free Up Some Space on Your Phone
There’s always an app or two that we downloaded with the best of intentions to use but just never got around to — and it’s okay to let those go. Dedicate an hour to deleting old apps, storage-eating videos, and screenshots that you can let go of. While you’re at it, take a moment to give your computer that update you’ve been putting off. Go ahead, we’re not judging.
6.Give Your Desktop a Scrub
We spend a lot of time on our laptops, so much so that we might not even recognize just how much we’ve let pile up on our desktops and let loose downloads go untamed. If our digital space is any reflection of our mental space, then our home screens should be well-maintained with important documents in their proper home. Consider creating folders for different types of files, such as documents, photos, and music, and move all relevant files into their appropriate folders. Clear out your old bookmark tabs. Delete old downloads that are taking up valuable space, and for a little extra razzle-dazzle, choose a new wallpaper that fits your spring vibe.
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Aley Arion is a writer and digital storyteller from the South, currently living in sunny Los Angeles. Her site, yagirlaley.com, serves as a digital diary to document personal essays, cultural commentary, and her insights into the Black Millennial experience. Follow her at @yagirlaley on all platforms!
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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