Meagan Good Gets Real About Freezing Her Eggs While Deciding If She Wants Kids
Egg freezing, also known as mature oocyte cryopreservation, is a method used to save women's ability to get pregnant in the future. Eggs harvested from your ovaries are frozen unfertilized and stored for later use. A frozen egg can be thawed, combined with sperm in a lab and implanted in your uterus via IVF, or in vitro fertilization.
Think of it as an insurance policy that's there to catch you in the event that when life calms down, you decide to move forward with having a family. Freezing eggs has become more and more popular over the years, as science has normalized the process thus making it less taboo.
Meagan Good was in her late 30's when she decided to take the plunge and freeze her eggs.
And now, with turning 40 years old this year, she is taking the time to determine if kids are in her immediate future. She tells Romper:
"When you say you're not sure you want to be a mom, people look at you like you're a bad person. As if something's wrong with you. But I was never really that girl who said, 'I can't wait to get married,' 'I can't wait to be a mother.' I was very much a tomboy, and I started my career so young that I'd always been very business-oriented."
In fact, Good says, it wasn't until she got married to husband DeVon Franklin, who she wed in 2012, that Meagan even gave having children a second thought.
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"It wasn't until I got married that I even considered having a family. My husband and I talked in the beginning, like, 'Do you want kids down the road?' And I said, 'I think I do.' But it was never 'right now' or 'soon.' I think we both knew that we wanted to wait a few years and really grow as a couple first, solidify the marriage. He started getting the itch way before me, definitely, but it was a very open conversation, which I loved and appreciated. Even though he was ready, he didn't pressure me or make me feel bad because I wasn't there yet."
And with the times and expectations of women in motherhood evolving, data shows that Good isn't the only one who has moved forward with the process. In fact, more women have frozen their eggs during the pandemic than have ever in the past, a number expected to grow 25 percent annually for the next few years.
As far as how the process was for her, Good says, "it wasn't a nightmare at all."
"I froze my eggs three years ago. I think everyone's different, but for me, it wasn't a nightmare at all. The process gave me peace of mind, 100%. I have my faith, and freezing my eggs, to be proactive instead of reactive, is me putting in work with my faith. You'll never regret doing it, but you might really regret not doing it."
Ultimately, our girl is on track to becoming a mommy.
"I want to be a mom and I want a family and I'm just now to a place where I think it's about that time. We were looking to start this year, but then the pandemic happened. But I'm excited! Because I can't wait to get to it now. That's a very new thing for me. It's a really cool feeling."
We're sending all the love as you embark on your journey to motherhood, Meagan!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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Crystal Renay Is Prioritizing Healing, Her Kids, And Her Coins Amid Divorce
Crystal Renay is reclaiming her time and her identity after dealing with heartbreak. The model was married to Ne-Yo for seven years and they share three young children together. However, after a cheating scandal that resulted in a baby outside of their relationship, Crystal decided to end her marriage to the “So Sick” singer. Now, she is focusing on her bag and her kids. She is co-owner of Johnny’s Chicken and Waffles, launching a lip kit line, and is back on TV starring in the new WE TV reality series Bold & Bougie.
But it wasn’t an easy road, especially with reality TV. From the beginning, Crystal and her castmates bumped heads due to misconceptions and alliances with her ex-husband’s former partner, Monyetta Shaw. However, the mother of three exclusively tells xoNecole that she doesn’t regret her decision to join the show.
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“Honestly, being in that space, we had a– you know, when you're first getting to know people, sometimes it can be smooth, and sometimes it can be rocky,” she says. “In our case, it was a little bit rocky and just getting to know each other, and I like to call it growing pains. And I felt like we had a couple of moments, but all in all, like the experience was really good for me, and I would do it over again.”
Crystal describes herself as “career-oriented” and says she is in her selfish season because she is now prioritizing herself first. But she admits that she is still healing from her divorce. The reality TV star shares some tips for others who may be going through the same thing.
“I would definitely say pray, pray as much as you can. Try to take your emotions out of your reactions to things because it’s always going to be something that you don't like in the situation,” she says. “But we can't move off of emotion because 10 times out of 10, a few months later, you're not going to feel like that. So, I'm a firm believer in not doing things that I will regret later. So I would just say be patient with yourself and stay positive.”
While there may be an opportunity to find love again, that’s not Crystal’s focus at the moment. She is in the rebuilding phase of her life, emphasizing the importance of self-care, personal growth, and finding her own happiness. She has had her share of challenges, including dealing with negative emotions and the public's perception of her, but her priorities involve spending quality time with her children and running lucrative businesses.
“I would definitely say pray, pray as much as you can. Try to take your emotions out of your reactions to things because it’s always going to be something that you don't like in the situation.”
“With my kids, I'm very hands-on. I’m team mother with soccer kids, and they don't really make no goals because they like five years old, but I'm there cheering them on every week,” she jokes. “I want to travel, especially this summer, with my kids and take them somewhere internationally because they're at the age where they can handle a long flight. So, me just spending more time and more new experiences with my kids is my main focus with them and showing them all the love that I could possibly give them.”
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