What Is A Super Orgasm & How Can I Have One?

1. A Boost of Oxytocin

When it comes to super orgasms, one thing that several scientists discovered was the women who had them had a heightened level of oxytocin in their system. Oxytocin is simply a hormone and neurotransmitter in our body that naturally produces good feelings and makes us want to get closer to our partner. It can be triggered while cuddling, kissing and definitely during sex. Although the women in the study naturally had more oxytocin running through their veins, there are actually things you can do to give your oxytocin levels a boost. You can get more of the vitamins C, D and magnesium into your system. You can drink a little more java (yep, caffeine increases oxytocin). If coffee ain't your thing, you can drink some chamomile tea. You can also apply some jasmine or clary sage essential oil to your pressure points. All of these are proven ways to give yourself a natural oxytocin boost.

2. A Yoga Class

You can read articles on our site like "Energize Your Mornings With These Simple Yoga Poses", "8 Yoga Tips Every Beginner Yogi Should Know" and "The Unexpected Lessons Yoga Taught Me About Life" to see that we are pretty big fans of yoga. That's because it does things like reduce stress, increase flexibility, improve muscle tone, teach the correct way to deep breathe and strengthen the heart. But did you also know that there are some sexual perks that come from this form of exercise and meditation too? In fact, there was once a study conducted on 40 women who vouched for the fact that a 12-week yoga class significantly improved their sex life, including their sexual satisfaction. That's because yoga also teaches you how to listen to your body and be present in the moment as it heightens your sense of awareness. Poses like the Cat Pose (which relaxes your spine), the Bridge Pose (which strengthens your pelvic floor), and the One-Legged Pigeon (which stretches and opens up your hips) are just some of the ways that you can get your mind and body prepared for your very first super orgasm. Give it a try. Report in the comments if any of these intensified things for you.

3. A Relaxed State of Mind

It's kind of crazy how many of us are chronic overthinkers, when I can't think of one single area where being in that mindset is beneficial; this includes when it comes to bedroom action. If you're someone who doesn't orgasm nearly as much as you'd like to, it very well be because you are thinking too much about it—both before and during the act.

Instead, ask your partner to give you a massage. Turn on some soft music. Dim the lights. Have some wine. CHILL OUT. Remember, your brain is the biggest sexual organ that you have. This means that the more relaxed it is, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.

4. A Ton of Foreplay

While once reading an article on WebMD's website about the benefits of foreplay, there are two things the writer said that I totally agree with, especially when it comes to women. One, foreplay prepares our mind and body for sex. Two, foreplay makes sex a much more comfortable experience for us ladies. That's because, the more aroused we are, the wetter we become, and the easier it is to be penetrated—deeply and often. From what I've read, in order to achieve a super orgasm, it's important to take the marathon route when it comes to foreplay. Meaning, while a woman, on average, needs somewhere between 15-20 minutes in order to have an orgasm, foreplay needs to be extended to around 30 minutes or so in order for a super orgasm to occur. The key is to do whatever gets you all hot 'n bothered without allowing yourself to climax in the process. It's basically like edging without the penetration. I get it, it might seem like long sessions of "fun torture" at first, but once the orgasms get going, it will be well worth the wait and self-discipline.

5. A Partner with a Long Penis

OK, sooo—when it comes to this one, sometimes you've got to work with what you've got; and sometimes what you've got is not a man with a long penis. The good news is, since most of our most sensitive nerve endings are two inches from the entry of our vagina, a dude who is "packin'" is not required in order to be sexually satisfied. Still, that doesn't change the fact that researchers did discover that the deeper penetration a woman receives, the more likely that she'll be able to have a super orgasm. And the fastest way to make that happen is with a man who has a long penis. If your guy doesn't exactly fit this bill, y'all can always fake it until you make it by trying some of the sex positions for the "less longer" that I found here and here.

6. Quality Time

The last tip for achieving a super orgasm is something that could've easily gone on the top of the list—you need to spend some quality time with your partner. I don't mean the foreplay moments that transpire right before gettin' it in. I mean—going on dates, talking throughout the day, doing things that make you both feel loved, seen, heard and safe.

When two individuals are in this kind of head space, that makes it easier for them to trust one another. And when the combination of desire and trust are present, the sky truly is the limit! You are pretty much down to do whatever in order to make one another feel as mind-blown and satisfied as possible.

Is this all that you need in order to climax a series of times? That's what my research said. And you know what? All of this has brought me to the conclusion that having a super orgasm is not really about mastering a particular technique. It's about being in a tranquil state, thoroughly enjoying your partner and remaining in each and every sexual moment until you transition into the next one. Shoot, if you do those three things, how could you not have some really intense orgasms—or at least a helluva lot of fun tryin' to?

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