Pucker Up: Let's Make Your Lips Even More Kissable

Pucker Up: Let's Make Your Lips Even More Kissable

A few weeks ago, while penning a piece on dating pet peeves, a few people said the same thing. To quote one individual verbatim: “I hate kissing someone for the first time and their lips feel dry or really rough. As far as first impressions go, that one is hard to shake; especially if they’re a bad kisser on top of it.”

The poor kissing form? That’s something we’ll have to deal with at another time, chile. As far as the initial concerns, however, that is something that we can address quick, fast, and in a hurry. Because if there’s one thing that I think we all can get on the same page about, it’s the fact that the best kisses consist of two people who have a set of super soft ‘n smooth lips — and here are 12 ways to get ‘em.

How To Make Your Lips Soft

1. Consume Vitamin B3

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Vitamin B is an interesting type of nutrient because, actually, there are eight different forms of it. Anyway, vitamin B3 is also called niacin; it’s beneficial for you because it helps to keep your digestive and nervous systems in peak condition. Some other cool things about this particular B vitamin are it can help to lower your blood pressure, treat type 1 diabetes and it can keep your skin in great shape, in part, because it protects your skin from sun damage.

Some health professionals say that a niacin deficiency can result in dry and cracked lips, and that’s why this nutrient tops the list of things that you can do to keep your lips soft and healthy. Some foods that are high in vitamin B3 include bananas, brown rice, red meat, fish, poultry, fortified cereals, and green peas. Of course, you can always take a B-complex vitamin to get more of B3 into your system as well.

2. Avoid Certain Beauty Brand Ingredients

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If you lick your lips a lot, do everything in your power to try and break that bad habit. The reason why it can dry your lips out is due to the fact that your spit contains digestive enzymes that can actually weaken the skin that is on them. Know what else can dry your lips out? Certain popular ingredients that are found in various cosmetics, including lip products.

Some that top the list include camphor, menthol, salicylic acid, fragrance, and (believe it or not) lanolin. Yeah, it’s kind of wild that many dermatologists frown on such a popular emollient; however, it seems that this issue is it tends to be a skin allergen for many. So, just make sure to do a small skin patch test on yourself before going all in with it.

3. Apply Sunscreen to Your Lips

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Do you have some discoloration issues happening when it comes to your lips? It could be because you haven’t been proactive about shielding them from the damage that the sun can do. Yep, just like you need to protect your skin from UV rays, your lips need that same kind of proactive care. Otherwise, they can experience dark spots, dryness, and even fine lines and wrinkles around them. So, before you put any kind of lip color on your lips, apply a lip balm that has some SPF in it. Allure has a list of some great recommendations here.

Also, don’t assume that this tip is only for late spring and the summertime. According to the Skin Cancer Foundation, the sun can burn you any time of the year — even when it’s very cold outside.

4. Massage Your Lips with Some Sweet Almond Oil

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As far as skincare is concerned, I’m always and forever gonna be a huge fan of sweet almond oil. Aside from the fact that the nutrients in it can help to keep your skin hydrated, smooth, and glowing, there are studies that say it can reduce dandruff and help prevent hair loss too. The reason why it’s great for your lips, specifically, is it contains anti-inflammatory properties that help to soothe irritated lips.

Another bonus is that since many health professionals profess that sweet almond oil is a gentle exfoliator too, it can help to remove dead skin cells from your lips so that there’s less feathering and peeling. This brings me to my next tip.

5. DIY a Flavored Lip Scrub

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If you’ve ever kissed someone who has dry lips or lips with little bits of flaking skin on them, you get how uncomfortable that can make the entire experience, regardless of how good their overall kissing technique may be. To make sure that you’re not the one who makes someone else feel this way, it’s important that you exfoliate your lips, a couple of times per week.

There are lip scrubs that you can purchase; however, there are also ones that you can make yourself. For instance, a mixture of brown sugar and grapeseed oil can get the job done. Or, if you’d like to create a variety of lip scrubs to choose from, Healthline has several here and StyleCraze has many others here.

6. Don’t Underestimate the Power of Baking Soda

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If your child happened to come home one day with a busted lip, one of the best things that you could do is create a paste that uses baking soda as a base. The logic behind it all is that baking soda contains anti-inflammatory and antiseptic properties that can help speed up the healing process. This is why baking soda is also great for healing canker sores and even bringing relief to the itchiness that can sometimes come with herpes breakouts (on the lips). Just something to keep in mind if you want to take an at-home approach to semi-minor skin irritations.

7. Go Easy on the Super Hot Drinks

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Listen, I enjoy a hot drink just like the next gal. At the same time, it would make sense that if it’s not a good idea to bathe or shower in really hot water (because it has a tendency to dehydrate your skin) that the same temperature shouldn’t constantly hit your lips either. From what I’ve read and researched, super hot drinks can weaken the lipid barrier on your lips and that can lead to either really chapped ones or even burned lips. So, at the very least, if you’re about to go in for a big kiss after a date, drink something cool instead of some hot cocoa beforehand.

8. Tint Your Lips with an All-Natural Rose Paste

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The history of red lipstick is an interesting one; one that is kind of all over the place. Some say that it used to be a status symbol. Others say that it was a way to seduce men into marriage (and/or sex). Some stories state that was an act of rebellion (against male authority). And then there’s the, perhaps, most common take: red lips remind men of vaginal lips (hmm…).

Whatever the reason/motive/intention may be for you personally (even if it’s just because you look bomb in it, as most Black women do), since reportedly 81 percent of women wear lipstick on a daily basis, if you want to add a bit of color to your lips yet your partner hates it when lip product all over his mouth whenever you’re kissing him, something that you can do is make a rose paste for your lips.

You can do this by making a type that can sit on your lips for a few minutes (one recipe is here) or by creating a rose lip balm (recipe here). Either way, your lips will receive a good amount of vitamins, antioxidants, and minerals and the paste will add a hint of a rosy tint to them too.

9. Use Vitamin E As a “Primer”

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Aside from shea butter, another one of my favorite “lip primers” is vitamin E. It’s a fat-soluble vitamin that deeply moisturizes your lips. For some, it can even make your lips appear a bit fuller due to the way that this nutrient hydrates them. You can purchase some vitamin E oil in a bottle; however, what I do is just get the gel capsules, pierce them with a needle, and apply the oil that way.

Tip: If you want a glossier base, go with vitamin E. If you’re going to create a matte lip, shea butter is better; it’s less “greasy” yet it will still give your lips plenty of the vitamins and softness that they need.

10. Add Some Honey to Your Lip Gloss

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If you want a way to keep that man on your mouth for as long as possible, all you’ve got to do is add a dab of honey to your lip gloss. Not only will your lips taste absolutely delicious, because honey is a humectant (which means it pulls moisture from the air), but it will also deeply moisturize your lips. Not only that but it also can help to protect your lips from UV damage as well as keep your lips looking youthful (because, believe it or not, yes…lips do age).

11. Try a Combination of Hyaluronic Acid and Evening Primrose on Irritated Lips

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Something that I’ve been getting into, this year especially, is some hyaluronic acid (check out “Why Your Skin, Hair, And Nails Need Hyaluronic Acid Like...Yesterday”). I’ve been consistent with it when it comes to my skin (for the deep hydration), I’m making a transition into adding it to a particular hair product of mine (to give my tresses some extra moisture) and I’m going to tiptoe into applying it to my lips as well.

Since this type of acid is also considered to be a humectant, it will help to moisturize your lips as well as keep them super soft and smooth. Then, if you put a bit of evening primrose oil on top of a layer of the acid, the properties in it will add hydration and elasticity as it works overtime to prevent internal hydration from leaving your lips.

12. Add Some Ghee Butter to Them at Night

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If a part of you has always wondered what ghee butter is all about, the long short of it is, it’s a clarified butter that has all of the water removed from it. Since it’s high in fatty acids, vitamins B12, D, and E, and a host of other nutrients, both your skin and lips will literally drink it up since it helps to hydrate your skin, smooth out the appearance of discoloration, and get rid of cracking.

So, if you want to keep your lips in great shape throughout the night, apply a thin layer of ghee to them at night — and then possibly after washing your face and brushing your teeth on cold winter mornings because, another thing that it has a solid reputation for, is shielding your lips from the cold. Good thing to know!

Now hop off of this thing and apply these tips…so that you can take your future kisses to the very next level. You’re welcome. #wink

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