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10 Ways To Fall In Love With Valentine’s Day If You’re Single
It never fails. Every year, I personally know women who claim that they couldn't care less about Valentine's Day. But then, right around the day before it, they are either complaining about not having a date or they're offering up some "thou doth protest too much" speech about how it's a commercialized holiday that isn't worth the hype.
Me? I promise you I can't tell you the last time I was in a relationship or went out on Valentine's Day. As a marriage life coach, I actually dig the background story about St. Valentine being a man who was martyred for marrying couples when it was against the law (it's kind of a long story but you can read more about it here). And as far as not getting any roses or candy, honestly, I'm cool.
I think it's because I have found ways to celebrate the love I have for myself — not just on February 14 but all year long. After all, Buddha was so on point when he said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Indeed I do. You do too.
So whether Valentine's Day has a tendency to send you into a space of mild hysteria or you try your best to not give it any energy at all, I've got a different recommended approach. See it as an opportunity to love on yourself in an extra special way by doing one or all 10 of the following suggestions. That way, should someone special come along in the future, he'll just be joining in on the love party that you've already been throwing for yourself — all along!
10 Ways To Celebrate Valentine's Day If You're Single
1.Have Your Own Spa Day
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Whether you decide to take a personal day on Valentine's Day or you'd prefer to wait until the following weekend rolls around, you can never go wrong with treating yourself to a spa day. If money is tight, hop onto sites like Groupon and RetailMeNot for promo codes that can earn you some pretty impressive discounts.
By the way, did you know there are even some spas/resorts that have earned the reputation for especially catering to singles? Some of them include The Broadmoor at Colorado Springs (Colorado Springs, CO), The Ballantyne Hotel & Lodge (Charlotte, NC) and The Mirror Lake Inn Resort Spa (Lake Placid, NY).
2.Do A “Secret Cupid” Gift Exchange With Your Girlfriends
Who said that Secret Santa is the only one who pops up with random anonymous presents? Add your own spin to it by convincing some of your girlfriends to give out some Secret Cupid gifts instead. Put a price cap of no more than $20-25 and give the gift-giving a theme like "How to Get Over Your Ex" or "Something to Make You Feel Sexy". It's super thoughtful and can also be a lot of fun too!
3.Go On A Bestie Date With A Guy Friend
Let's see how much of a throwback R&B fan you are. Although most people think of "Just Got Paid" when they think of Johnny Kemp, one of my favorite songs was "One Thing Led to Another". A part of the hook says, "The best of friends can be lovers after all."
I ain't tryin' to get nothin' started but if you and your male bestie are both single this year, you're probably gonna be on the phone most of the night anyway. Why not take each other out to dinner instead? At the very least, it'll be a nice distraction. At the most, the ambiance and candlelight just might cause the two of you to see things…umm…differently.
4.Buy Yourself Some New Lingerie
OK, so guess how often you should replace your bras and panties. You ready? Every six months! Be honest, you know you've got some underwear that has been with you for at least a couple of years at this point. Even if you don't exactly have a man to show off a new teddy for, that doesn't mean you shouldn't adorn yourself with some new pieces.
Victoria's Secret is cool but honestly, some of the best lines are Black-owned. Nubian Skin, Being U, Beautifully Undressed, Suzy Black Lingerie and dbleudazzled all have items that are super sexy for every skin tone.
5.Make Your Own Wine Or Champagne
If every Valentine's Day, all you can think about is taking a few shots and going to sleep, at least make it the kind of drink that will put a smile on your face. Believe it or not, it's pretty easy to make your own wine and champagne. For wine, all you need is some water, Brewer's yeast, frozen juice, a big jug and a plastic tube (click here for a few easy recipes). But if you really want to get fancy, try this Elderflower Champagne recipe instead.
(By the way, you can get some pretty affordable empty wine bottles on Amazon.)
6.DIY Some Dark Chocolate Beauty Products
Dark chocolate and Valentine's Day go hand in hand whether you're booed up or not. It's loaded with antioxidants; it also lowers your blood pressure, protects your skin from UV rays and has a good amount of fiber, iron, copper, magnesium, and zinc in it as well.
While women in relationships may end up with a box of chocolates, I can one-up them on that.
Make some DIY dark chocolate beauty products from the comfort of your own home. Click here to make your own chocolate chip lip gloss, here for an exfoliating scrub, here for some face masks, here for a souffle body butter and (one of my personal favorites) here for a chocolate milk bath.
7.Invest In A Chef For A Night
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If you'd like nothing more than to enjoy a full course meal at a high-end restaurant but you don't want to sit in the midst of a sea of couples blowing kisses at each other or men proposing to their beloved, skip the dining traffic and eat in.
Whether it's by yourself or with a couple of single friends, hire a chef to come and cook at your home. You can dress up and light some candles or put on comfy clothing and watch your favorite rom-coms while you eat the food that's been especially prepared for you.
8.Get Yourself A Piece Of Jewelry
It seems like there is always a new trend buzzing. Right now, it's single women who are opting to wear what they are calling the anti-engagement ring. It's basically a gemstone ring that's worn on the pinky finger that represents self-love.
If this piques your curiosity but you'd prefer to wear anything but a diamond, Etsy features jewelry in just about any kind of gemstone you can think of! Just to get you started — apatite awakens your sense of clarity, red jasper represents healing and security, calcite releases negativity and grief, labradorite elevates your sense of consciousness and celestite supports the urge to reconcile with a lost love or broken friendship.
9.Sign Up For A Single’s Box
Subscription boxes are currently all the rage. One that I particularly like is offered on Izzy & Liv's site (it's called the Brown Sugar Box). Another that's pretty popular is the Single Swag box. For around $40 a month, you can receive 6-7 different items (like treats, jewelry, and organic products) delivered directly to your front door.
10. Treat Yourself To A Bed and Breakfast
Something that I'm super fond of is a good bed and breakfast. So many of them have such a personalized touch (and great food) that I'd choose them over a lot of standard hotels any day! If you've never been to one before, there's no time like the present to book your first reservation. If you feel a little weird about going alone, don't. Many bed and breakfasts are so accommodating to us singles that they customize discounts so that we can keep a few dollars in our pockets.
Happy Valentine's Day, sis!
Happy Valentine's Day, sis!
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Different puzzle pieces are creating bigger pictures these days. 2024 will mark a milestone on a few different levels, including the release of my third book next June (yay!).
I am also a Professional Certified Coach. My main mission for attaining that particular goal is to use my formal credentials to help people navigate through the sometimes tumultuous waters, both on and offline, when it comes to information about marriage, sex and relationships that is oftentimes misinformation (because "coach" is a word that gets thrown around a lot, oftentimes quite poorly).
I am also still super devoted to helping to bring life into this world as a doula, marriage life coaching will always be my first love (next to writing, of course), a platform that advocates for good Black men is currently in the works and my keystrokes continue to be devoted to HEALTHY over HAPPY in the areas of holistic intimacy, spiritual evolution, purpose manifestation and self-love...because maturity teaches that it's impossible to be happy all of the time when it comes to reaching goals yet healthy is a choice that can be made on a daily basis (amen?).
If you have any PERSONAL QUESTIONS (please do not contact me with any story pitches; that is an *editorial* need), feel free to reach out at missnosipho@gmail.com. A sistah will certainly do what she can. ;)
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
UnPrisoned | Season 2 Trailer | Hulu
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Blair Underwood Initially Turned Down 'Sex And The City' Because 'It Was About How Samantha Was Fascinated By Dating A Black Man’
Actor and heartthrob Blair Underwood is opening up about why he turned down Sex and the City the first time he was offered a role. Many fans of the HBO series may recall Blair's time on the show in which his character was dating Miranda (Cynthia Nixon). However, he was previously offered another role where his character would date Samantha (Kim Cattrall).
During his interview with AV Club, the Set It Off star revealed that he was uncomfortable with the initial offer due to the character's fascination with him being a Black man.
“I actually did say ‘no’ the first time,” he said. “The first time they had offered the role, to be honest with you, it was about how Samantha was fascinated by dating a Black man and wanted to know if, uh, all of the rumors were true about our anatomy! And I said, ‘Listen, I’m honored, thank you, but I just don’t want to play a character based on race, on curiosity about a Black man.'”
But that didn't stop them from reaching out again. This time he was offered to play Dr. Robert Leeds, the love interest to Miranda and he decided to go for it. "So they were nice enough to call about a year later, and I said, 'Well, is it gonna be about race?' And they said, 'No, no, no, we’re not even gonna mention race!' And I think it really did only come up maybe once," he recalled.
"It did five episodes, and I think Samantha mentioned it once, saying something about 'a Black doctor' that Miranda was dating. And that’s really been a consistent thing in my career: not wanting to be boxed as 'the Black guy.'
"I’ve had that conversation with many producers along the way, and they were so great. They said, 'No, he’s just a doctor who Miranda meets in the elevator, and they have a nice little fling.' And it was amazing."
Blair has had a wide-ranging career playing everything from a lawyer on L.A. Law to playing Madame CJ Walker's husband on Self Made: Inspired by the Life of Madame CJ Walker. And during his interview, he revealed another role that he initially turned down, Set It Off. The movie, which is considered a classic in Black culture, stars Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett Smith, Vivica A. Fox, and Kimberly Elise. Blair's character, Keith, played a banker and love interest to Jada's character, Stony.
He explained why he said no at first and eventually accepted the offer. "I had initially said “no” to that. Because I was playing this historic, iconic African-American historical figure in Jackie Robinson, and the time, y’know, there was Boyz N The Hood, and Menace II Society was out there, and I’d finished playing this noble Negro… [Laughs]," he said.
"And I’m reading the script, and there’s a scene where Jada Pinkett’s character—Jada Pinkett-Smith now—was going to sell her body so she could make some money to send her brother to college. And I remember, honestly, I threw the script across the room. I was, like, “I don’t want to do this. I want to do something uplifting for the Black culture and Black characters, and I don’t know if I want to see this.”
After a conversation with the movie's director F. Gary Gray and the actor's manager encouraging him to finish reading the script, Blair had a change of heart. What he first thought about the movie turned out to be totally different.
"So I finished the script, and I saw that the character they were asking me to play was really the love story in the midst of all of this turmoil of all of these characters, the four ladies: Queen Latifah, Vivica Fox, Kimberly Elise, and Jada," he explained.
"It was so well-written, it was such a great platform for them. And to be able to play the love story and the storyline that gave Jada’s character a leg up and a way out of this world, something to hope for, to wish for, someone to love her… I said, 'You know what? I’d like to be a part of that.'
"And I’m so glad I did, because that film resonates to this day. People all the time come up to me and say that they love that movie. So I’m glad that I did it."