

Whether going international or just to another state, traveling alone can feel a bit intimidating at first.
While my solo traveling journey was a bit unexpected, those of us who have taken this venture even once, know that it's super easy to become addicted to traveling solo. It's real easy to be on some Dr. Seuss oh the places you'll go type ish. Even though I'm definitely here for the couples and crews across my Instagram feed who take trips together, there's something about being an independent woman who can go at it alone unapologetically.
Whether she's married, single, or in a situationship, going on any #eatpraylove journey via traveling can renew so much within us and make us discover and find things about ourselves we never knew were there. If you still need a little convincing, check out a few reasons every woman needs to travel the road at least once.
That Freedom Though
You know those vacations that make you feel like you need another vacation by the time you get home? I think one of the things that brings us into that state of mind is traveling with other people. Going with a group of people, you most likely have to stick to a schedule, and have to accommodate other people who might want to go sightseeing and take in all that the area has to offer, while you're perfectly fine having a staycation in the hotel room. In the end, you realize that you didn't get close to the amount of rest you really needed that made you book the vacay in the first place. Even if you just go on a solo trip just once, there's nothing like experiencing the freedom of having your own schedule in a new place you can discover at your own pace.
You Can Make New Friends
Even though one of the benefits of traveling by yourself is being able to clear your space and mind without the interference or interruption from other people, you also have a better chance of meeting other people you might not have if you were on vacation with your clique. When we travel with friends, it's typical that we don't get that far outside of the comfort zone of familiar faces. But traveling solo almost forces you to start up a conversation with someone at breakfast or get to know the story and life of someone at the swim up bar in the pool. Even if you're a proud introvert like me, you can still get comfortable talking with people you don't know, because you know good and well if it goes bad, you won't see them again anyway. But if it goes better than expected, you have a new friend to experience unique adventures with.
Clear Out Your Mental Space
When you're traveling solo, it's easier to set aside a day, or two, or ten, to just intentionally free your mind and empty your mental space. You're not bogged down by the opinions of other people, but instead can take as much time as you need to really regroup. You can seriously do whatever you need to indulge in as much self-care as possible before you head back to the realities of life. While this can easily be done at home with an amazing staycation in place, doing it in a brand new area can cause for your mental space to not only be cleared, but for that space to be filled with a refreshed and exciting lease on life.
Discover Who You Really Are
There's nothing like a good uninterrupted moment of self-reflection on the beach. Let's be clear, I live for a good girls' trip or even couples vacation, but when I travel by myself, I really find time to go on this self-proclaimed #eatpraylove journey that forces me to find out things about myself that I never realized. And honey, some of these things could've been kept covered in cobwebs. But the bonus is that it doesn't have to be all serious stuff. It could be trying a new type of food or getting all the way out of character and sparking up a conversation with a complete stranger. Being alone on a trip gives you a rare chance to find out what you love about you and encourage you to take action with the things you want to improve on.
You’ll Feel Empowered & Confident
It's a little difficult to explain but doing any adventurous journey alone can be so fulfilling. There's this feeling of independence that while it's absolutely amazing to have friends and family to see the world with, sometimes you just need to do it alone. It might seem like everything from getting on the plane to checking in to the hotel room is something small, but it's a really big deal. It takes bravery to experience something brand new and by yourself, especially when you're used to doing it with your girls or your man. While it can be scary when you think about all of the seemingly endless things that could happen to you, when you do your research and are careful of your surroundings, the sky's the limit, and you'll want to do it again as you realize the freedom in being comfortable in your skin and unafraid to see the world through your eyes and your eyes alone.
You’ll Appreciate Your Home Life
Even when you're in the most beautiful place in the world, eventually, you'll be ready to go home. But you won't have the same outlook on your reality as you did when you left. You'll come back stronger, braver, and with the realization of your strength and power. Of course, you'll miss your days taking a walk through the most popular area, or enjoying the quiet sounds of the nature around you, but when it's time for you to go back home, you'll be ready. And it won't take you long to start planning your next adventure.
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Charmaine Patterson is a journalist, lifestyle blogger, and a lover of all things pop culture. While she has much experience in covering top entertainment news stories, she aims to share her everyday life experiences, old and new, with other women who can relate, laugh, and love along with her. Follow Char on Twitter @charjpatterson, Instagram @charpatterson, and keep up with her journey at CharJPatterson.com .
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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I’ve gotta say that, for the most part, my friends are pretty damn chill. There is one (major) exception, though — and it’s an odd one. Even after all these years and countless times of me giving them the same answer, if there is a time when they think they are my mama, it’s when they see an email come through at an odd hour of the night. Then, all of a sudden, here they come asking me when do I get sleep if I’m emailing at (say) three in the morning.
Again, the answer never changes because, if there is one thing that Shellie Reneé Warren is gonna get, it’s 6-8 (sometimes nine) hours of sleep. However, since my chronotype (check out “Ever Wonder What Personality Traits Make Someone A 'Morning Person'?”) means that I like/prefer to write in the wee hours of the morning, sometimes I will sleep for the night for five hours and take a nap in the day. And y’all, that is just fine with me because I am well aware of the fact that napping does everything from give me more energy, heighten my alertness and even make me more creative to decrease stress levels, strengthen immunity, and reduce my chances of experiencing a heart attack or stroke.
My problem is I will oftentimes go “overboard” with my daytime zzz’s. What I mean by that is, in order to get the most out of a nap, they say thatyou shouldn’t sleep for longer than 25 minutes or so; otherwise, you could wake up feeling sluggish (I don’t but…). Also, it can make resting, soundly, at night a bit of a struggle.
So, what are you saying, Shellie? We should get quickies in? Yeah. And it’s funny that the word “quickie” would come up because just like a sex quickie can do wonders for you (and it can — check out “12 Super Solid Reasons To Have A Quickie Every Single Day”), it’s a full-circle moment when I say that something that can improve the quality of your sex life is to have a power nap (a nap that lasts between 10-30 minutes).
Wanna know how the two things correlate? Honestly, it’s no secret that sleep and sex work together to optimize both (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”). Today, though, we’re going to tap into how a nap, specifically, can have you partaking in some of the best sex that you’ve experienced in a minute. I’ll explain.
Naps Reduce Stress
If you’re feeling super stressed out right now, you are not alone. There is plenty of data out here that says that most of us are stressed for at least a couple of reasons at a time — and that can impact your sexual health on a few levels. For one thing, it can bring about feelings of depression and/or anxiety. Stress can also throw your hormone levels off (including your cycle) which can weaken your libido. Stress can make you want to put distance between you and your partner (yes, literally).
Stress can also make it challenging to get aroused or to have an orgasm. And just what can help to decrease stress? Taking a nap. Since sleep has a way of helping you to “get off of the clock” and relax a bit, that can lower your stress levels and “reset” your body so that you are calmer — and that, in turn, can do wonders for your sex drive and ultimately your sex life.
Naps Improve Your Mood
There is one person in my life, and fairly 80 percent of the time, she’s in a super good mood. Oh, but let that girl go without sleep, and…who is this woman? LOL. There’s research behind why this happens. When a person is sleep-deprived, it messes with their brain chemicals, and that can amplify emotions like anger, restlessness and sadness. In fact, one study revealed that people who had their sleep disrupted throughout the night, they ended up having their positive outlook on life reduced by about 30 percent.
And geeze, who wants to have sex when they’re not feeling very good? Anyway, since serotonin is a neurotransmitter that helps to regulate your moods, your sleep patterns, and your libido and sleep is what helps to keep it in balance — by taking a nap, not only can it help you to feel better, it can also increase your desire for sex (it can also build up your endurance which is also…sexually beneficial).
Naps Increase Your Focus and Concentration
Something that some of my clients bring up is how, when it comes to having sex, sometimes the flesh is willing while the spirit is weak because, although the desire for intimacy is there, so much is going on that they aren’t able to get still enough to focus on experiencing copulation with their partner. This also tracks because, when you don’t have enough rest, your brain finds itself not working in harmony and that can make it hard to do everything from approaching life with a sense of flexibility to making necessary decisions.
Certain data also reveal that a lack of rest can cause you to have a really poor attention span and not process things in context (the more you know). So, if you really want to get some yet it’s hard for you to focus long enough to make it happen, ask your bae to lie down with you and take a nap. Between the sleep and the snuggling (check out “Fall's Coming: 8 Wonderful Health Benefits Of Cuddling”) — you may wake up with your mind and body totally on the same page. #wink
Naps Can Make You Feel Better About Your Body
Even if, overall, you feel really good about your body, I think that we all have moments when we feel less attractive than others — and who wants to have sex when they don’t really feel…very sexy? Well, something else that sleep, in general, can do is increase your confidence in your body.
For one thing, if you want to lose a few pounds, sleep can actually make that happen by helping your body metabolize the glucose (sugar) that’s in it so that you can better manage your appetite. Other studies go on to share that since sleep deprivation can impact one’s mental health and emotional stability in a negative way, of course, getting enough rest would increase body positivity.
Shoot, science even goes so far as to say that insomnia can cause people to have an elevated level of dissatisfaction when it comes to their body image. Don’t take their word for it, though. Look in the mirror before a nap. Then look in a mirror after waking up from me. Do you feel better? I’d be surprised if you don’t.
Makes Your Brain Bigger…Which Could Make Your Orgasms Better
I saved the best for last by design. Now if you’re wondering how in the world a nap can improve (and possibly increase) your orgasms — oh, there is a method to the madness…trust. For starters, the saying that your biggest sex organ is your brain? That isn’t a myth. Long story less long, the brain is what houses your central nervous system and that is what controls how men and women sexually function (yes, literally).
And since the brain also releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin during sex and brain activity significantly increases in women during sexual activity (especially right before she orgasms) — well, would it trip you out to know that when you take a nap, your brain actually expands? A bigger brain (that’s healthy) can potentially intensify your sexual experiences (and your climaxes) — and who doesn’t want that to go down?
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Like I said earlier, I never have to be convinced to get a nap in. However, if your sex life has been a bit stagnant lately, you’ve been feeling a little sluggish and you’re not sure what to do — I’m hoping that a nap can get you right.
There’s enough science to prove that it can. All you need to do is give it a shot.
Now where’s your pillow and sleep mask, chile?
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