
Whether going international or just to another state, traveling alone can feel a bit intimidating at first.
While my solo traveling journey was a bit unexpected, those of us who have taken this venture even once, know that it's super easy to become addicted to traveling solo. It's real easy to be on some Dr. Seuss oh the places you'll go type ish. Even though I'm definitely here for the couples and crews across my Instagram feed who take trips together, there's something about being an independent woman who can go at it alone unapologetically.
Whether she's married, single, or in a situationship, going on any #eatpraylove journey via traveling can renew so much within us and make us discover and find things about ourselves we never knew were there. If you still need a little convincing, check out a few reasons every woman needs to travel the road at least once.
That Freedom Though
You know those vacations that make you feel like you need another vacation by the time you get home? I think one of the things that brings us into that state of mind is traveling with other people. Going with a group of people, you most likely have to stick to a schedule, and have to accommodate other people who might want to go sightseeing and take in all that the area has to offer, while you're perfectly fine having a staycation in the hotel room. In the end, you realize that you didn't get close to the amount of rest you really needed that made you book the vacay in the first place. Even if you just go on a solo trip just once, there's nothing like experiencing the freedom of having your own schedule in a new place you can discover at your own pace.
You Can Make New Friends
Even though one of the benefits of traveling by yourself is being able to clear your space and mind without the interference or interruption from other people, you also have a better chance of meeting other people you might not have if you were on vacation with your clique. When we travel with friends, it's typical that we don't get that far outside of the comfort zone of familiar faces. But traveling solo almost forces you to start up a conversation with someone at breakfast or get to know the story and life of someone at the swim up bar in the pool. Even if you're a proud introvert like me, you can still get comfortable talking with people you don't know, because you know good and well if it goes bad, you won't see them again anyway. But if it goes better than expected, you have a new friend to experience unique adventures with.
Clear Out Your Mental Space
When you're traveling solo, it's easier to set aside a day, or two, or ten, to just intentionally free your mind and empty your mental space. You're not bogged down by the opinions of other people, but instead can take as much time as you need to really regroup. You can seriously do whatever you need to indulge in as much self-care as possible before you head back to the realities of life. While this can easily be done at home with an amazing staycation in place, doing it in a brand new area can cause for your mental space to not only be cleared, but for that space to be filled with a refreshed and exciting lease on life.
Discover Who You Really Are
There's nothing like a good uninterrupted moment of self-reflection on the beach. Let's be clear, I live for a good girls' trip or even couples vacation, but when I travel by myself, I really find time to go on this self-proclaimed #eatpraylove journey that forces me to find out things about myself that I never realized. And honey, some of these things could've been kept covered in cobwebs. But the bonus is that it doesn't have to be all serious stuff. It could be trying a new type of food or getting all the way out of character and sparking up a conversation with a complete stranger. Being alone on a trip gives you a rare chance to find out what you love about you and encourage you to take action with the things you want to improve on.
You’ll Feel Empowered & Confident
It's a little difficult to explain but doing any adventurous journey alone can be so fulfilling. There's this feeling of independence that while it's absolutely amazing to have friends and family to see the world with, sometimes you just need to do it alone. It might seem like everything from getting on the plane to checking in to the hotel room is something small, but it's a really big deal. It takes bravery to experience something brand new and by yourself, especially when you're used to doing it with your girls or your man. While it can be scary when you think about all of the seemingly endless things that could happen to you, when you do your research and are careful of your surroundings, the sky's the limit, and you'll want to do it again as you realize the freedom in being comfortable in your skin and unafraid to see the world through your eyes and your eyes alone.
You’ll Appreciate Your Home Life
Even when you're in the most beautiful place in the world, eventually, you'll be ready to go home. But you won't have the same outlook on your reality as you did when you left. You'll come back stronger, braver, and with the realization of your strength and power. Of course, you'll miss your days taking a walk through the most popular area, or enjoying the quiet sounds of the nature around you, but when it's time for you to go back home, you'll be ready. And it won't take you long to start planning your next adventure.
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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There is a very specific reason why I decided to write this article before the holiday season officially gets underway. It’s because I once read a study that said it’s quite common for most Americans to double the amount of alcohol that they consume between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day.
It makes sense when you stop to think about all of the holiday parties, time off, and moments spent with loved ones that transpire around this time of year. And while there is certainly nothing wrong with enjoying some mulled wine, real-deal eggnog, or peppermint martinis, because your health is something that never “takes a vacation,” I thought it was important to share with you some of the benefits (pros) and challenges (cons) that can arise from alcohol consumption.
My main motive? Mostly, I hope that it will serve as a solid reminder to embrace all of the things that you adore about this time of year, so long as you do it in moderation and you weigh the costs.
Especially as far as drinking alcohol is concerned.
PRO: Manages Blood Sugar Levels
GiphyHere’s something that you may have never seen coming. Were you aware of the fact that alcohol can actually help to stabilize your blood sugar? Yep, according to the American Diabetes Association, so long as you leave it to no more than 1-2 cocktails a day, alcohol may be able to lower your A1C levels. Pretty cool, right?
CON: It’s a Carcinogen
GiphyAlcohol is a carcinogen. The reason why this should somewhat alarm you is because carcinogens are things (like tobacco, UV rays, processed meats, etc.) that can increase your chances of being diagnosed with cancer (especially mouth, throat, esophagus, stomach and breast cancer). There are various ways this happens including the fact that alcohol, specifically, can hinder your body from breaking down certain nutrients, it can cause your estrogen levels to spike and alcohol can also cause certain toxins to damage your DNA and certain bodily proteins over time.
PRO: Cultivates Euphoric Feelings
GiphyIf you find yourself feeling more euphoric while you’re enjoying a drink, it’s not all up in your head. Although, for the more part, alcohol is considered to be a depressant, when consumed in small amounts, it can provide a stimulant effect. This happens due to the fact that when you first start to consume alcohol, it causes the production of the feel-good hormone known as dopamine to increase — and since dopamine makes us all feel more relaxed and confident while heightening our senses of pleasure too…well, there you have it.
CON: May Increase Anxiety/Depression
GiphyAs they say, “what goes up, most come down” at some point — and that is what you have to be careful of when it comes to alcohol consumption. For instance, when you drink alcohol, although it tends to initially cause your dopamine levels to uptick, because it is a temporary bodily response, sometimes the dips are lower than the rises…and that is when anxiety starts to kick in. A similar point is made with depression because oftentimes, people with depression-related symptoms, will use alcohol as a way to deflect from what’s really going on with them — and that can make them feel even worse than ever once the buzz of alcohol starts to wear off.
PRO: Has Some Heart-Related Benefits
GiphyWhen it comes to your heart, there are interesting findings surrounding its relationship to alcohol. For instance, some research states that, so long as the consumption is moderate, alcohol can actually help to increase the good cholesterol in your system while also breaking down proteins that can potentially lead to blood clots; both of these factors alone can reduce your chances of dying from heart disease.
CON: Packs on Pounds
GiphyIt’s no secret that alcohol tends to contain quite a few calories. That’s why, it’s not uncommon for people who’ve lost weight to mention “I’ve stopped drinking” as one of the causes for the shed pounds. That’s not to say that there aren’t some alcoholic beverages that have less calories than others including vodka (133 calories per serving), white wine (148 calories per serving) and tequila (99 calories per shot). Just keep in mind that the more you drink, the more calories get into your system and the more weight you stand to gain.
PRO: Lowers Inhibitions
GiphyAlthough you really should only be uninhibited around people who you absolutely trust, if that person is your partner and you’re looking to have a pretty — eh hem — active evening, alcohol can certainly help to make that happen. The science of it all is the prefrontal cortex of your brain is what regulates your inhibitions and levels of self-control. Meanwhile, alcohol suppresses your inhibitions which can cause you to be more spontaneous and open to trying things that you might not immediately do if you were sober. And with the right individual, that can be sexually beneficial (emphasis on “right person”).
CON: Makes It Harder to Orgasm
GiphyOn the other hand, as odd as it may seem (in light of what I just said), if you have too much alcohol in your system, it could make climaxing difficult. That’s because orgasms happen, in part, due to your nervous system being stimulated — and since alcohol is technically a depressant…well, it could reduce nerve sensitivity (especially as far as your clitoris goes) for you while making it challenging for your partner to remain erect or have consistent stamina. And yeah, that sucks.
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‘Tis the season. And with that, if some wassails or hot buttered rums are in your immediate future — hey, don’t let me stop you — not even a lil’ bit.
All I’m saying is now that you know what alcoholic drinks have to offer (both ways), you can know exactly how to incorporate them into your holiday plans. Enjoy!
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