Can't Get Out Of Town This Summer? Plan A Staycation
Many people are gearing up for summer vacations, but some of us may have to stay put Summer 19'. Whether you're taking summer courses, saving up for your first home, paying off student loans, having little ones, or whatever it is adulting throws at us, it doesn't mean you can't get away. Say hello to the staycation.
Now, I know this may not seem like the most relaxing option, but I promise if done right, you WILL feel recharged after a two-day staycation.
Here are a few ways you can plan your first (or next) staycation in the comfort of your city, no flight required.
1.Change Your Scenery
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Staycations don't mean you can't bring experience something new. Is there a new hotel you've been wanting to try? Or are you longing for a big tub to take a bubble bath in with a bottle of your favorite red wine? If you're nodding your head yes, book that hotel room or Airbnb. The hotel you've been eyeing might be a bit of a splurge, but you're worth it. Not to mention, since you don't have to account for airfare into your budget, you'll have a few extra coins to spend there.
2.Turn Off The Notifications
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Put the phone down. Turn it on do not disturb. Oh, and don't forget to turn off your emails, social media push notifications, and anything else that will take away from your ability to kick back, relax, and pretend you're living your best life in another city. For those of you with little ones and significant others, this may be a challenge. But if you can, try to refrain from checking in too often.
3.Make Reservations
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I just talked about experiencing something new, and food is a great way to see your hometown in a new light. I suggest finding a few places where you can make reservations, so you can skip the day-to-day tasks of waiting in lines or eating on the run. Apps like OpenTable and Resy make it easy to reserve your table and find out which restaurants are worth trying.
4.Do Things You Wouldn't Normally Do That You Enjoy
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Getting lost in a new city does make the world around you feel fresh, and depending on the size of your town, there is always something new to explore. If you're an art lover, purchase a ticket in the middle of the day and wander around your local art museum. Do you enjoy cooking? Book a cooking class at Sur La Table or a pottery class from a local artisan through Airbnb Experiences.
5.SPLURGE
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At the start of this article, I talked about all of the reasons you might not be able to plan a vacation someplace else due to budgeting. But, I'm going to encourage you to prepare for at least one splurge on your staycation. Check in on your monthly budget and see where you have wiggle room. It doesn't have to be an exorbitant amount. Spending the night or two at a swanky hotel with excellent service is my idea of a splurge, but for you, that might be purchasing tickets to see your favorite artist, booking a day at the spa, or buying a couple of new outfits to wear while you take in the city. Don't bust your budget, but make sure you make a little room to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
I know we all have our financial responsibilities, but we should always make time to disconnect and recharge even if we can't fly away.
What's your ideal staycation? Tell us in the comments!
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Bianca Lambert is a proud Atlanta native soaking up the Los Angeles sun. She is the founder of Mae B: a stationery company for women of color and a digital content creator on a mission to elevate the voices of women of color everywhere.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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