Does Your Dating Past Matter? Tiffany Haddish Says She Once Turned Down Common Because Of His
Ladies, have we ever dated an acquaintance's ex? A friend's ex? And ex's friend? With the dating pool being as shallow as a kiddie section of the water park, from time to time, we may find ourselves unintentionally falling for someone that may have a little stain on their resume. But should we take this into consideration before dating? When it comes to someone you're interested in, at what point does their dating history matter to what you're trying to build?
Well, according to Tiffany Haddish, our favorite unproblematic couple, almost didn't happen. On a recent visit to Stephen Colbert, Haddish said of Common:
"He was, like, tryna holler, and I was like…'Um…no, I'm not really interested. I'm good. My eyes are set on other things. I'm interested in somebody else. I'm sorry. But you seem like a nice person.'"
But her reasonings, had little to do with who he was, and more about her knowing his exes in their overlapping circle of friends.
"'I know too many people that dated you, let's be honest.' I didn't say that, though. You know. You know."
And although she never named names, yes sis, we know.
Ultimately minds were changed and they entered a steady relationship, swiping Common off the market as her boyfriend, a term she corrected Colbert on, immediately.
"He's not my boyfriend, he is my man. I don't date boys no more."
Whew, write it down, take a picture, tattoo it on my forehead, alladat. I feel you sis.
And apparently, Haddish has the juice because she managed to do the impossible, and got "The Light" rapper to participate with her in a hot af video for the recent 'Silhouette Challenge.'
"It was quite a negotiation, let me tell you. So, I'm like, I want to shoot this video, I need you to be in it with me. And he was like, 'No, that's not really my style, I'm not known for that, that's really not my thing.'"
Which is when the bribery came into play. Eventually, he gave into love and decided to participate. Eighteen takes later, we got the video that shook the internet (because he got into it and wanted it to be perfect).
A tribute to a great boyfriend--excuse me, man--which she has always sung praises of him, once telling, People:
"What I love about him is I can be silly. We laugh together, and we can have really deep conversations. And we do argue, but it's not like mean words being tossed at each other, or trying to tear each other's character down. It's more like grown-ups. And I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where, if I have an argument with somebody, they are not calling me out on my name or trying to belittle me.
"This is my first time being in a relationship with somebody who's not trying to make me turn my light out. [He's] trying to get me to make my light shine even bigger and motivate me. That is very different for me: supportive, encouraging. It's refreshing."
Jesus Christ, Buddha, Mary, Jah, Allah...I see what you have done for others...
Would you consider dating someone despite their dating history?
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Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Sheila Rashid's Androgynous Approach To Unisex Clothing Is A Lesson In Embracing Individuality
The ItGirl 100 List is a celebration of 100 Black women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table.
For Sheila Rashid, it all started with some free-hand drawings and a few strokes of paint.
The Chicago-based clothing designer and creative director of Sheila Rashid Brand recalls using her spare time in high school to hand paint designs on t-shirts and distressed hoodies, distributing them to classmates as walking billboards for her art.
Rashid sought to pursue fashion design at Columbia College in Chicago but eventually took the self-taught route to build upon her knack for crafting one-of-a-kind, androgynous pieces.
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Thanks to the mentorship of local designers taking her under their wings, Rashid was able to gain valuable experience in putting together collections and creating patterns; equipping her with them with the necessary skills to pursue her own collections.
After two years of living in New York, Rashid returned home to the Chi and uncovered the unique flair she could offer the city. “I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world,” she tells xoNecole. “That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
For the Midwest native, inspiration comes from her time around creative peers and the city’s notorious winters — known to be a main character in many Chicagoans stories. “It's a different perspective and mindset when I'm making stuff because of the weather here,” she explains. “When we get summer, it’s ‘Summertime Chi’ — it's amazing. It's beautiful. Still, I find myself always making clothes that cater to the winter.”
"I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world. That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
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Many designers have a signature aesthetic or theme in their creations. In Rashid’s design story, dancing between the lines of femininity and masculinity is how she’s been able to distinguish herself within the industry. Her androgynous clothing has garnered the eye of celebrities like Zendaya, Chance the Rapper, WNBA star Sydney Colson, and more — showing her range and approach to designs with inclusivity in mind.
“I think I do reflect my own style,” she says. “When I do make pieces, I'm very tomboyish, androgynous. My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes.” From denim to overalls, and color-drenched outerwear, Rashid has mastered the structure of statement pieces that tell a story.
“Each collection, I never know what's going to be the thing I'm going to focus on. I try to reflect my own style and have fun with the storytelling,” she shares. “I look at it more like it's my art in this small way of expressing myself, so it's not that calculated.”
"My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes."
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Still, if you were able to add up all the moments within Rashid’s 20-year career in design, one theme that has multiplied her into becoming an “ItGirl” is her confidence to take up space within the fashion industry as a queer, Black woman. “Being an ItGirl is about being yourself, loving what you do, finding your niche, and mastering that,” she says.
No matter where you are on your ItGirl journey, Rashid says to always remain persistent and never hesitate to share your art with the world. “Don’t give up. Even if it's something small, finish it and don't be afraid to put it out,” she says, “It's about tackling your own fear of feeling like you have to please everybody, but just please yourself, and that's good enough.”
To learn more about the ItGirl 100 List, view the full list here.
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