This is the era of bossing up unapologetically. From being our own body goals, to having dope women in our circle, and accomplishing our work and money goals - we're all about the glow up. However, one thing we all know about the glow up journey is that there are always things and people (and if we're honest, it's our own selves too) that get in the way.
When we're trying to make shit happen at work or in our business, sometimes we find ourselves on the struggle bus. If you're like me, sometimes you find it difficult to build relationships and work with others, and even more so, you fall short of understanding who you are and who you are becoming.
As a boss woman, it's important that you understand who you are, and how your thoughts and behaviors influence how you work. One easy way you can get started with this is with the Myers-Briggs test. The Myers-Briggs personality indicator test (MBTI) is your secret weapon to finding out what makes you unique and how it influences your way of working and productivity.
The MBTI uses four sets of opposite traits to analyze how you tend to interact with people and the world around you. Each of those traits are put together to create 1 of 16 unique combinations of personality types, based on these categories:
- Introvert (I) v. Extrovert (E)
- Intuitive (N) v. Sensory (S)
- Thinking (T) v. Feeling (F)
- Judging (J) v. Perceiving (P)
To quickly figure out your personality type for free, click here. Once you're done, get into the deets below to see what your type means and how it relates to you as a working woman.
Myers-Briggs Personality Test: The 16 Personality Types
1.ISTJ - The Extra Prepared Queen
(introversion, sensing, thinking, judgment)
- ISTJs are often in leadership roles at work. They are planners, very organized, detailed-oriented, responsible, and logical.
- As an ISTJ, you'll thrive by finding opportunities that have structure, are stable, but still allow you to work independently.
2.ISTP - The I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T. Queen
(introversion, sensing, thinking, perceiving)
- ISTPs love to work and think alone. They crave working at their own pace and are naturally very attentive, practical, and results-oriented. ISTPs prefer to focus on the present and often avoid making long-term commitments.
- As an ISTP, you should seek out work and opportunities that allow you to work independently, have flexibility, and where full transparency is supported.
3.ISFJ - The Humble, Hardworking Queen
(introversion, sensing, feeling, judging)
- ISFJs are bosses, but they make their moves in silence. They love being in small groups of people and are known to work really hard to get tasks done. People love them because they often prioritize the needs and emotions of others, and they are really considerate.
- As an ISFJ, you do well in environments where there is structure, are given personal space to recharge and regain focus, and have the opportunity to help others around you succeed.
4.ISFP - The Creative Queen
(introversion, sensing, feeling, perceiving)
- ISFPs are known to be very creative, spontaneous, love building relationships with other people, and still love their alone time.
- As an ISFP, finding work environments that allow flexibility, aligns with your passion, and allows you to help others is ideal for your career.
5.INFJ - The Altruistic Queen
(introversion, intuition, feeling, judging)
- INFJs tend to be determined, reserved, and altruistic in their behavior. They are idealists and are passionate about doing good work and making the world a better place.
- INFJs do well in environments that align with their beliefs and values, and that allows them to bring about positive change.
6.INFP - The Adaptable Queen
(introversion, intuition, feeling, perceiving)
- INFPs typically follow their gut instincts, are creative, and love spontaneity in their lives.
- As an INFP, finding opportunities that allow you to be flexible, creative, and establish new relationships are ideal.
7.INTJ - The Efficient Queen
(introversion, intuition, thinking, judging)
- INTJs are confident, analytical, and ambitious. They love to learn and handle things from a very logical perspective.
- INTJs tend to thrive in environments where they can see the fruits of their labor and where they can implement efficiency in spaces that are lacking it.
8.INTP - The Innovative Queen
(introversion, intuition, thinking, perceiving)
- INTPs tend to be extremely analytical, objective, and logical. They love learning and making new things to improve the workplace.
- INTPs thrive in roles where they can take as much time as wanted to produce work that's accurate and full of quality. They love solving dynamic, complex problems, and working hard.
9.ESTP - The Quick Thinking Queen
(extroversion, sensing, thinking, perceiving)
- ESTPs are known to be full of life, energetic, and bold in their behavior. They're able to think quick on their feet and do well in intense situations.
- ESTP thrive in positions that are high-energy and are a boss at leading teams. They can normally adapt well to any situation and are extremely detailed.
10. ESTJ - The Take Control Queen
(extroversion, sensing, thinking, judging)
- ESTJs are naturally very loyal, organized, responsible, and don't shy away from taking charge.
- Because they are natural-born leaders, ESTJs work best when they can lead, develop and motivate others, and can make projects more efficient.
11. ESFP - The Life of the Party Queen
(extroversion, sensing, feeling, perceiving)
- ESFPs are very friendly, outgoing, and love spontaneity in every area of their life.
- ESFPs work best in areas where they can entertain and motivate people. Obsessed with aesthetics, they love being in creative roles and always pay close attention to the details.
12. ESFJ - The Woo, Woo, Woo Queen
(extroversion, sensing, feeling, judging)
- ESFJs are naturally empathetic, genuine, and very supportive leaders. They can easily make new friends because they're always able to find a way to connect with others.
- ESFJs thrive in roles where they can help other people and build new relationships. They love working at companies that offer words of affirmation and that allow them to help improve the company culture.
13. ENFP - The Charismatic Queen
(extroversion, intuition, feeling, perceiving)
- ENFPs are easily loved by many because of their adaptable, easy-going attitude. They are naturally creative and do well when the spotlight is on them.
- ENFP do well in work environments where they can use their charisma and creativity to their advantage. They also do well in multitasking and facing difficult problems.
14. ENFJ - The Empathetic Queen
(extroversion, intuition, feeling, judging)
- ENFJs are very empathetic and love to work tirelessly to help others improve their lives.
- ENFJs work well in positions that allow them to relate and help others out. They love being in leadership roles and engage with their team.
15. ENTP - The Great Debater Queen
(extroversion, intuition, thinking, perceiving)
- ENTPs are very curious and love to express themselves and debate with others. They love sparking interesting conversations with friends and strangers too.
- ENTPs love being in roles where they can use their knowledge to inform and persuade others and lead. They are very hardworking and are typically really efficient at work.
16. ENTJ - The Visionary Queen
(extroversion, intuition, thinking, judging)
- ENTJs are naturally charismatic, direct, and love taking charge. They crave doing work that inspires them and evokes innovation.
- ENTJs are often in leadership roles, and they do well when they're able to motivate and inspire their peers. Naturally goal-getters, they independently seek out roles where they can accomplish their goals and avoid distractions.
Now that you know your personality type, what kind of boss woman are you? Tweet us and let us know!
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Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Relationship Timeline
Sterling K. Brown and Ryan Michelle Bathe are one of our favorite Hollywood couples. We can't get over their adorable moments together on the red carpet and on social media. While they're both from St. Louis, they didn't meet until college, which they both attended Stanford. And the rest is as they say, history. Read below as we dive into their decades-long relationship.
Mid to Late1990s: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Meet
Sterling and Ryan met as freshmen at Stanford University. "We were in the same dorm freshman year...that's kind of how we met," Ryan said in an interview with ET. "I was mesmerized," she said after watching him audition for the school play, Joe Turner's Come and Gone. Sterling revealed that The First Wives Club star was dating someone else, so they started off as friends.
"She got cast in the play as well, and we would ride bikes to rehearsal, and we would just talk. We found out that we were both from St. Louis. We didn't know that we were both from St. Louis, like, our parents went to rival high schools. We were born in the same hospital. Like, we were friends," he said.
The first few years of their relationship involved many breakups and makeups. However, they ended up graduating and attended NYU's Tisch Grad Acting Program together.
Early 2000s: Sterling K. Brown Tells Ryan Michelle Bathe She's 'The Love Of My Life'
The Paradise star opened up about telling Ryan that she was the one. "We broke up for three and a half years before we came back into each other's lives," he said. "She was on the treadmill working out, and I had this epiphany, 'I have to go tell this woman she's the love of my life.'"
"I go to her apartment, I tell her, and she's like, 'Well, I'm working out right now,' and I was like, 'No, I can see that—I'll just talk to you while you're on the treadmill,' and she's like, 'Well, I feel like going outside. So I'm gonna go on a run,'" he continued. "So I'm like dressed [in a suit], and she starts running through Koreatown, and I start running along with her. Brother had to work, but it was well worthwhile."
2006: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Tie The Knot
The St. Louis natives eloped in 2006 and a year later held a larger ceremony. According to the bride, the best part of their wedding was the food. "The best thing about it was the food," she told ET.
"Can I just say, sometimes you go to weddings, and you get the winner-winner chicken dinner and you're like, 'I pay. OK, it's fine.' But I wanted people to remember their experience -- their culinary experience. So I was happy about that. The food was good."
2011: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Welcome Their First Child
In 2011, Sterling and The Endgame actress welcomed their first son, Andrew. In a 2017 tweet, Sterling revealed they had a home birth. "An unexpected home delivery is something my wife and I went through ourselves with our first born, so this was round 2 for me!" he wrote while referring to a scene involving his character Randall, in This Is Us.
2012: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Appear On-screen Together
A year later, the couple acted together on the Lifetime series Army Wives.
2015: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Welcome Their Second Child
In 2015, Sterling and Ryan welcomed another son, Amaré. Sterling shared an Instagram post about their latest addition to the family. "1st post. 2nd child. All good! #imoninstagram," the Atlas star wrote.
2016: Ryan Michelle Bathe Joins Sterling K. Brown On 'This Is Us'
Ryan guest appears on her hubby's show, This Is Us.
Sterling K. Brown Reveals Ryan Michelle Bathe's Mother Didn't Like Him At First
During their sit-down interview for the Black Love series, Sterling revealed that Ryan's mother wasn't a fan of him, which caused friction in their relationship.
2024: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Explain How Jennifer Lopez Once Broke Them Up
While visiting The Jennifer Hudson Show, Sterling and Ryan share their hilarious Jennifer Lopez break-up story. "We had just gone out, we were living in New York City, we were in grad school, and we had gone to see a Broadway play and we came back to my place and my roommate was playing the ["Love Don't Cost A Thing"] video on MTV," Sterling said.
"Now I'm a fan of Jennifer Lopez's dancing, and I was watching the video and I knew my young...21, 22-year-old girlfriend was looking at me watch the video. And I know I'm not supposed to have a reaction. In trying NOT to have a reaction, what had happened was, my eyes began to water."
Ryan jumped in, "Otherwise known as, TEARS! I turn around and my boyfriend is weeping, tears like big fat [tears]. And I'm looking and she's just a shakin' and a shimming, and he's just crying. I said 'Oh no, I got to go.' "
2024: Sterling K. Brown & Ryan Michelle Bathe Launch Their Podcast, We Don't Always Agree
The couple launched their podcast, We Don't Always Agree, where they disclose more intimate details about their love story.
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