Kid Cudi Wants You To Know That You Can't Love Someone Else Until You Love Yourself

Hindsight is 20/20.

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A relationship hit different when you love yourself, and rap artist Scott Ramon Seguro Mescudi, popularly known as Kid Cudi, recently revealed that it took him more than three decades to learn this the hard way. The artist made his debut into the mainstream music industry ten years ago and taught us all that the "Pursuit of Happiness" is not for the faint of heart, but now after a gripping battle with anxiety, depression, and addiction, the Man On The Moon rapper is on a mission to make amends.

The rapper took to Twitter last month to make a public apology to the women he's wronged in the past due to his lack of self-awareness. He began the series of tweets with a message that hit home for many of us in the self-love struggle. He explained:

"U can't be in love w someone until u love yourself. It took me years to learn that."

Hindsight is 20/20 and sadly, it does no good to the people we hurt while we were hurting. People only treat you as good or as badly as they treat themselves, and Cudi says this is especially true for his romantic relationships. With this in mind, the rapper still found it necessary to apologize to the women that were unwilling accomplices in his downward spiral:

"I apologize to all my girlfriends in my 20s and early 30s I let down and treated like shit because I wasn't right. All of my relationships didnt work out because of me. I had to accept that and find peace and be better."

Earlier this year, the artist was featured on Jada Pinkett Smith's Red Table Talk where he opened up about his struggles with mental health and subsequently checking himself into rehab in 2016. He told the hosts:

"For a long time, I was not happy when I woke up in the morning. I thought maybe it was stress. At that point, I was doing an album every year so I thought I was just overdoing it and I needed to take a break. It took me a minute to realize that there was something going wrong with me."

Although for years, the now 35-year-old artist suffered in silence because he was ashamed of his battle with mental illness, he now understands that he's better for the experience and has dedicated himself to healing for the sake of his sanity and his 9-year-old daughter, Vada.

"Now, im 35 and the past 3 years Ive [fallen] back in love w Scott. It feels great!! To anyone whos still dealin w things, know that u will be ok and u will find a way to the light. I thought id never find a way out of my madness. So silly of me."

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