Feeling Yourself Is The Vital Step To Finding The Love Of Your Life

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When are you going to start loving yourself unconditionally?


Six months from now when you lose that weight and your waist is snatched? After bulking up your slim figure and doing squats for booty gains? After contouring your nose for the gawds? After getting that perfect angle while damn near breaking your neck?

Girl stop with that nonsense!

If not now, then when?

If not you, then who ?

To my surprise, I ran across an interview from recording artist Tweet revealing that her hit song "Oops" was not about giving herself an orgasm but the gift of self-love:

"It was empowering for me to write the song because I felt like I didn't love myself. I came from a time where my skin — being a dark-skinned woman — it wasn't really 'in'. I would always be teased for my skin color. I would always be called different names for my skin color, so I was empowering myself in writing the song."

The time is now for you to look in the mirror and love what you see. This cannot wait until tomorrow next month or next year! It takes practice, and requires you to (surprise) start to like the not so pretty parts of yourself little by little until you fall in love with yourself. Read on to check out the 5 steps to loving what you see in the mirror.

1. Tear yourself apart.

Put it all on the table by writing it down. What are some of your perceived physical flaws? You think you have a big nose, a five-head, a fupa? Get it all out of system, be brutally honest as you can, and read that list out loud in the mirror. Start each insecurity on the list with, "I don't love myself because_________."

The most important part of this step is to let these insecurities leave the darkness of your mind's negative self-talk off onto your lips so you can hear how ridiculous you sound. I want you to really grasp how harsh you are towards yourself. You may laugh at many of your insecurities, and cry because of some but it vital to your self care that you release them out of your head where they fester.

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