5 Fall Staples To Incorporate In Your Wardrobe In Your 30's
The moment I stepped into my 30s, my entire sense of self changed. It could be a placebo effect since women are often told, in many subtle and unsubtle ways, how life ends at 29. And if you're a single woman engrained in southern culture, you might be saturated with questions of children or marriage before you even hit 3-0. While it can be scary to transition from the wild days of your 20s to a seemingly quieter life in your 30s, we're slowly seeing that stereotype being shattered. We are surrounded by female icons and celebrities who refuse to adhere to the ageism experienced in almost every professional industry. And that confidence translates to your personal style.
More so than before, it's about the silhouette and investing in clothing that makes you feel comfortable and confident. In this stage, we're happily trading night outs for early morning boardroom meetings, and weekend ragers for staycations in the mountains with your intimate tribe.
Even if the mainstream trends are set by younger generations without a full paycheck or corporate jobs, there are plenty of trend-worthy pieces that will stand the test of time and work perfectly for the hustling lifestyle.
1.Trousers
I'll be honest: I never understood the need for a perfect pair of suit pants until I got into my very late 20s. For many years, denim was my go-to gal so much so that I never bothered to date other types of trousers. But once you find your first pair of excellent suit pants, akin to finding a gifted nail technician, you never look back. And as elevated suiting resurges from its 90s grave, investing in suit pants that flatter is paramount.
Where to Shop: Re Ona, Hanifa
2.Satin Dress
When you reach a certain level of confidence within your personal style, typically towards your late 20s and early 30s, it's no longer only about showing skin. Sex appeal is defined differently and your wardrobe needs to reflect that. For a first date night, a girls' night out, or an über-sexy moment; a satin dress will keep right - morning, noon, or night. You go with an ultra-mini hemline to show off those gorgeous legs or opt for an ankle-sweeping flare that flatters and elongates the legs. Either way, a satin dress is perfect for adding a significant amount of sex appeal to your style without sacrificing comfort.
Where to Shop: Kai Collective
3.Strappy Heels
Not only are the 90s strappy heels making a comeback, but they are also perfect to pair with almost anything found in a working woman's wardrobe. One of the key elements to nailing style in your 30's is utility. With the strappy heel, you can effortlessly dress them up or down - with a cozy pair of denim, under a perfect pair of trousers, or with your favorite midi dress. The longevity of this trend is one of the most enticing things about it; if you invest and take care of your items, you can carry this trend for decades.
Where to Shop: Tom Bianco; Lilly's Kloset
4.Loose-Fit Denim
It's time to put your super skinny jeans on hold and invest in a new trend. As of late, and especially in the wake of a whole year of WFH, a perfect pair of loose-fit denim remains my best friend. Cropped or baggy; high rise or low rise; there are many options for the perfect loose-fit denim. As with many trends in this article, you can easily dress up your denim with a shorter blazer or strappy heels; you can also dress down by adding your favorite flats and crisp white shirt. After all, the name of the game is sustainability.
Where to Shop: Madewell, American Eagle, Good American
5.Trench Coat
Whether you live in a cold climate is irrelevant; everyone needs a long-lined trench in their wardrobe. It's the one stellar go-to coat that you can style with elevated basics or your favorite corporate suit. Trench coats are available in a plethora of silhouettes, fabrics, and across a variety of price points - making them customizable to your personal style.
Where to Shop: Burberry, ASOS
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Courtney is a contributing writer, based in Puerto Rico by way of Tennessee. Interested in the intersection of fashion and culture, she has an affinity for fashion, empowerment, and really good tacos. Keep up with her on Instagram (@hautecourtxo).
This Black Woman-Owned Creative Agency Shows Us The Art Of Rebranding
Rebranding is an intricate process and very important to the success of businesses that want to change. However, before a business owner makes this decision, they should determine whether it's a rebrand or an evolution.
That's where people like Lola Adewuya come in. Lola is the founder and CEO of The Brand Doula, a brand development studio with a multidisciplinary approach to branding, social media, marketing, and design.
While an evolution is a natural progression that happens as businesses grow, a rebrand is a total change. Lola tells xoNecole, "A total rebrand is necessary when a business’s current reputation/what it’s known for is at odds with the business’s vision or direction.
"For example, if you’ve fundamentally changed what your product is and does, it’s likely that your brand is out of alignment with the business. Or, if you find your company is developing a reputation that doesn’t serve it, it might be time to pump the brakes and figure out what needs to change.
She continues, "Sometimes you’ll see companies (especially startups) announce a name change that comes with updated messaging, visuals, etc. That usually means their vision has changed or expanded, and their previous branding was too narrow/couldn’t encompass everything they planned to do."
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The Brand Doula was born in 2019, and its focus is on putting "the experiences, goals, and needs of women of color founders first," as well as brands with "culture-shifting missions."
According to Lola, culture-shifting is "the act of influencing dominant behavior, beliefs, or experiences in a community or group (ideally, for the better)."
"At The Brand Doula, we work with companies and leaders that set out to challenge the status quo in their industries and communities. They’re here to make an impact that sends ripples across the market," she says.
"We help the problem solvers of the world — the ones who aren't satisfied with 'this is how it's always been' and instead ask 'how could this be better?' Our clients build for impact, reimagining tools, systems, and ways of living to move cultures forward."
The Brand Doula has worked with many brands, including Too Collective, to assist with their collaboration with Selena Gomez's Rare Beauty and Balanced Black Girl for a "refresh," aka rebrand. For businesses looking to rebrand, Lola shares four essential steps.
1. Do an audit of your current brand experience — what’s still relevant and what needs to change? Reflect on why you’re doing the rebrand in the first place and what success would look like after relaunching.
2. Tackle the overall strategy first — before you start redesigning logos and websites, align on a new vision for your brand. How do you want your company to be positioned moving forward? Has your audience changed at all? Will your company have a fresh personality and voice?
3. Bring your audience along the journey — there’s no need to move in secret. Inviting your current audience into the journey can actually help them feel more connected to and invested in your story, enough to stick around as changes are being made.
4. Keep business moving — one of my biggest pet peeves is when companies take down their websites as soon as they have the idea to rebrand, then have a Coming Soon page up for months! You lose a lot of momentum and interest by doing that. If you’re still in business and generating income, continue to operate while you work on your rebrand behind the scenes. You don’t want to cut existing customers off out of the blue, and you also don’t want so much downtime that folks forget your business exists or start looking for other solutions.
While determining whether the rebrand was successful may take a few months, Lola says a clear sign that it is unsuccessful is negative feedback from your target audience. "Customers are typically more vocal about what they don’t like more than what they do like," she says.
But some good signs to look out for are improvements in engagement with your marketing, positive reviews, press and increase in retention, and overall feeling aligned with the new branding.
For more information about Lola and The Brand Doula, visit her website, thebranddoula.com.
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Exclusive: Will Packer Talks 'Fight Night,' New Book And Celebrating Nine Years Of Marriage
Will Packer has a lot to celebrate. His limited series Fight Night: The Million Dollar Heist premiered on Thursday on Peacock. He just celebrated nine years of marriage to his wife, Heather Packer, and he has a self-help book coming out at the top of next year. xoNecole had a chance to chat with the boss during the premiere of Fight Night, and he gave us gems about love and career.
The executive producer shares the motivation behind creating this film, which features a star-studded cast, including Kevin Hart, Taraji P. Henson, Terrence Howard, Lori Harvey, and more.
"It was pitched to me as a true life story that I didn't know. I didn't know this story. And I was like, how can I not know such an incredible piece of not just Atlanta history, not just Georgia history, but the history of the United States, honestly," he says.
"And having the opportunity to come make this, put a great cast together, I then produced the podcast, along with some incredible folks that are here after we did the original, and that is what became the limited series."
True Crime only adds to the diverse genres Will has tackled over his career. With classic films like Stomp The Yard, fan favorites like Girls' Trip, and his popular dating shows like Ready To Love and The Never Ever Mets, he has proven that he can do it all and be successful at it, too.
"True Crime. It's a period piece, but you know what? Good content is good content. People can watch anything they want because there's such an oversaturation of content out there right now. So for me, at the end of the day, it's about what's the story."
He continues, "What are we telling people? What is important to get people to care? I want audiences to be engaged. I want them to feel something when they see a Will Packer project. And I thought there was a tremendous opportunity to not only let them know a story that they may not know but also wildly entertain them. That's what I want. That's what this is about. It is extremely entertaining."
Through it all, he has had a supportive partner by his side. On August 28, Will shared a post with his wife, Heather, celebrating their anniversary. "NINE Years down! More lifetimes to go! (Let's come back and do this again 😜) HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BABEE!!!😍 ❤️," he wrote.
During our interview, the lovely couple shared the key to having a strong relationship. "Making each other happy, putting your partner before yourself," Heather says.
Will also chimed in saying, "Because when I work really hard to make her happy and she's happy, she's going to do everything in her power to make me happy, but it requires you being selfless.
He continues, "It requires in those moments where you want to be all about me, me, me, that you can't be like that and you gotta be about the other person and know and have faith that they're going to reciprocate that back to you."
What's next for the father of two is his book, Who Better Than You?: The Art of Healthy Arrogance & Dreaming Big. Will describes the book as "inspirational" and "motivational."
"I've been in Hollywood now for over three decades, and through that time, I've dealt with some of the biggest personalities, egos and challenges," he says. "But the reason that I've been successful is the belief that, not that I could be successful, but that I deserve success. And that's what I dare other people to do in this book. I dare you to realize that you are predestined for success. It's a state of mind."
Fight Night is out on Peacock now.
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