6 Books To Read When Discovering Your Purpose
What are we here for? During the hustle and bustle of life, it's so easy to forget that we're all here for a reason. I know for me, the word "purpose" can get so intimidating that it creates pressure to discover what ours actually is, instead of realizing that we could very well be doing it already.
It's almost like clockwork to find ourselves comparing our lives and destinies to others in hopes of trying to pinpoint what we're meant to do. If you're on the path to self-discovery, or on the search for your purpose, these books could help you put the pieces together.
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'The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?' by Rick Warren
This is a classic and will always be an oldie but goodie. It goes beyond providing you with suggestions of what your purpose could be and encourages you to answer thought-provoking questions to make sure that you're living life driven by your purpose and not something, or someone, else. The bonus is that it has 40 chapters, one for each day, so you don't get overwhelmed or stagnant.
'Be Unapologetically You: A Self Love Guide for Women of Color' by Adeline Bird
Sis did something special with this one. It can be so easy for us to apologize for being amazing, strong and bold, and to just wish that we were something or someone else. I love this book because it pushes us to be our best selves, and to do it unapologetically. It inspires readers to dismiss the excuses and start making moves toward what we really want out of life. And it all starts with self-love. If you're on that journey, this is a must-read.
‘Crushing’ by T.D. Jakes
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Grab a tissue and get ready to discover what you were created for. T.D. Jakes shows us in such a compelling way how we can use life's biggest disappointments, setbacks and unexpected curveballs to our advantage. Through the pruning process of letting our disadvantages make us better, we have the potential to unearth not just the purpose of things that could have knocked us out, but the reason for our life in general.
'Girl, Wash Your Face' by Rachel Hollis
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It's no secret there can be a ton of mess and detours on this path of self-discovery and uncovering our purpose. This book by Rachel Hollis literally clears out all of the mess and makes room for who we were created to be. It speaks on 20 lies (many that we've already told ourselves) that have kept us from living our best life to the fullest, and then unearths the truth of who we really are, preparing us to embrace and use the abilities that we truly possess.
‘The Purpose Room: A Meeting Place Where You Discover, Birth And Accomplish Your God-Given Purpose’ by Heather Lindsey
Sometimes the question isn't what our purpose is, but how we're going to get there. The journey doesn't necessarily get easier just because we know where the finish line is; but this book motivates us during the race when we might be tempted to ease into another lane that's not meant for us. It encourages readers to stay the course in every stage of our purpose from discovery to fulfillment and beyond.
‘Restless: Because You Were Made For More’ by Jennie Allen
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I can testify that this book lives up to the hype. I borrowed it from a friend years ago and I'm ashamed to say she has yet to get it back. The book itself empowers us to not just recognize our gifts and passions but to use them daily, realizing that we have them for a reason. Whatever it is you feel that you might be missing can be discovered through this book. Plus, there's a workbook that helps us tap into our purpose in a way we can't deny.
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Charmaine Patterson is a journalist, lifestyle blogger, and a lover of all things pop culture. While she has much experience in covering top entertainment news stories, she aims to share her everyday life experiences, old and new, with other women who can relate, laugh, and love along with her. Follow Char on Twitter @charjpatterson, Instagram @charpatterson, and keep up with her journey at CharJPatterson.com .
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Recently, I watched Ayesha Curry and Lindsay Lohan on Hoda & Jenna discussing their new Netflix film Irish Wish. While they play BFFs in the movie, they also revealed that they were besties in real life. In fact, Ayesha and Steph Curry are godparents to Lindsey and her husband, Bader Shammas’ son Luai. I may be late to the party, but it got me to thinking: what other celebrities have other celebrities as godparents to their children? If you were wondering the same thing, then look no further. Below is a list of celebrities you may not have known were godparents.
Steph and Ayesha Curry and Lindsay Lohan
As I mentioned, this celebrity couple serves as godparents to Lindsay’s son. The actress and author, who is expecting her fourth child with the NBA champ, opened up about it on LIVE with Kelly and Mark. “Anytime somebody honors you and bestows that upon you, one, I’m like thank you ‘cause that means that you think I’m a semi-decent parent, but two, I’m just excited to have a hand in raising him and helping shepherd him in the right direction,” Ayesha said.
Zoë Kravitz, Marisa Tomei, and Cree Summer
Zoë Kravitz (L) and Cree Summer (R).
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Lisa Bonet enlisted a couple of her A Different Worldco-stars to be godmothers to Zoë Kravitz. Marisa Tomei and Cree Summer are both the godmothers of The Batman star, and they all appear to have a close relationship with each other.
Cicely Tyson and Lenny Kravitz
Legendary actress Cicely Tyson was Lenny Kravitz's godmother and the two shared an inseparable bond. When she passed in Jan 2021, the singer wrote a long, loving tribute on Instagram. "With inimitable style and grace, my dear Godmother Miss Cicely Tyson made her grand exit to the heavens. She lived a remarkable life up to the last moment," he began. "A true pioneer, who bared her heart and soul so we could witness the spirit of the characters she so brilliantly portrayed, which continue to move and inspire generations."
He continued, "A Black queen who showed us how beautiful black is," continued Kravitz. "The love between us was and is tremendous. As long as I have had consciousness, I've known Godmother. She and my mother were kindred spirits. Sisters. And after my mother passed, Godmother's role in my life was amplified." He concluded his post by saying how he spoke to her days before she passed and how she sent him her memoir Just As I Am.
Cicely Tyson, Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry
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Cicely also served as Tyler Perry's son Aman's godmother. But she didn’t have that role alone. Oprah Winfrey is also Aman's godmother. When the filmmaker visited The Real eight years ago, he talked about being a new dad and shared the best advice Oprah ever gave him. “I think the best advice that she’s given me is about just living in the moment. Just be present in what’s going on within your life."
Tyler Perry, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry
Speaking of Tyler Perry, the Madea creator is the godfather to Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s daughter Princess Lilibet Diana. Tyler opened up about receiving that honor in the couple’s Netflix docuseries. "I had to take a minute to take that in," he said. “I thought, 'I'd be honored. I'd absolutely be honored.'”
Usher and Ben Vereen
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Tony award-winning actor and dancer Ben Vereen is the godfather to “Superstar” singer Usher. While visiting The Kelly Clarkson Show in November 2021, Ben opened up about their relationship and revealed whether or not the multi-platinum artist takes his advice. “I love giving advice. He just don’t take it,” he said. The Roots star also joked about Usher stealing his moves for his “You Make Me Wanna” video.
Nicole Richie, Quincy Jones and Michael Jackson
When famed singer Lionel Richie adopted Nicole Richie, he bestowed the illustrious title of godfather to two fellow legends, Quincy Jones and the late Michael Jackson. Lionel frequently collaborated with both Quincy and Michael throughout his career.
Star Jones and Vanesa Bell Calloway
Vanessa Bell Calloway (L) and Star Jones (R).
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Divorce Court judge Star Jones is the godmother to both of Vanessa Bell Calloway’s daughters, Ashley and Alexandra. They are also all sorority sisters as they are members of Alpha Kappa Alpha.
CeCe Winans and Bobbi Kristina
CeCe Winans was the godmother to Whitney Houston’s daughter Bobbi Kristina. The gospel legend spoke about dealing with Bobbi’s death in an interview with Toledo’s The Blade. "I don't think there's any words to describe a loss like that. I still can't believe it.
“At the same time, I guess you're just not surprised when drugs are involved in anybody's life," she said. "Most of the time it doesn't turn out well. I pray for the family. I still can't believe Whitney's gone, but now to see that Bobbi Kris is gone too … you just can't even come to grips with it."
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