Are You Self-Gaslighting? Here’s How To Stop

You Place the Blame on Yourself

Have you ever been in a situation that was out of your control and yet, you still blamed yourself? Better yet, have you ever blamed yourself or made excuses for someone else’s actions? This is a form of self-gaslighting because you are punishing yourself for someone else’s behavior.

You Don’t Trust Yourself 

Some people tend to overthink and second-guess everything, which means they don’t trust themselves or their judgment. If you don’t trust yourself, how can you trust others? Just like gaslighters can manipulate your reality and make you not trust yourself, you can also do that to yourself if you’re not careful.

You Don’t Allow Yourself to Have Feelings

Everyone has feelings and it’s okay to express them, especially if a person or a situation made you feel a certain way. As a self-gaslighter, you may ignore your feelings or discount them but you have every right to feel good or bad and share that out loud.

If you identify with any of these signs, don’t worry. Here’s how to combat that way of thinking.

One word: self-affirmation. It’s nothing fancy and it doesn’t sound like a lot of work, but it’s a lot harder than we think. Self-gaslighters have the tendency to invalidate their thinking and their feelings and to prevent yourself from going that route, you have to do the opposite and that is to affirm yourself.

So, whenever you start having those bouts with self-gaslighting, tell yourself that you are worthy and that your feelings and thinking are valid. No matter what anyone else says.

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