

If you've read my recent post on the importance of investing in conferences, you will see that there are so many exciting conferences coming up. I'm now in the process of handpicking three to four conferences that I need to attend so that I can increase my network and learn new things.
The first live conference that I went to was a blogging conference called Blogger Bootcamp. I had such a great time at the conference, but honestly I was so unprepared. When you go to conferences, you have invested a lot of money and time in it, so being prepared can help you get the most out of your experience.
Besides making sure that your hair, nails, face, and eyebrows are on fleek, and that you have a nice outfit, there are so many things that you should take care of before the big day.
Here are a few things that you need to do before you attend your next conference.
1. Make a hit list
Prior to the conference, make a list of at least six people that you should connect with. These people can either be panelists or people that will be attendees like yourself. You can find panelist information by going to the conference website or social media. The list of people that are attending the conference will not be public, but with social media, you can use the power of hashtags to find out who is coming. For example, when I went to Blogger Bootcamp, I used the conference hashtag on Instagram and Twitter and was able to see who was coming. Then I did a little Instagram and Twitter stalking - don't judge me, we all do it - and I was able to get some background information on the people that were going.
In addition to writing down at least six people to connect with, I write a quick blurb on who they are, why we should connect, and a conversation starter idea just in case my mind goes blank when I see them. No one enjoys boring conversation starters about the weather.
2. Work on your elevator pitch
We all know the importance of the elevator pitch, but sometimes we forget that you need to mold your elevator pitch so that it is fitting with the event or moment. For example, if you are at a women's conference, it may be important to craft your elevator pitch in a way that speaks about you, discusses what makes you valuable, and what it is about you that others can benefit from (as it relates to the purpose of the conference that you are attending).
Here is an example pitch: Hi, my name is Brittani, and I am a manager and journalist that loves to empower and lead women through educational and inspiring content.
Keep in mind, your elevator pitch should be short, to the point, and should not be boring or sound rehearsed. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a teleprompter!
3. Get business cards
This may sound obvious, but trust me it is not! At my last conference (and even at networking events that I have been to), I have met so many people that do not own personal business cards. Even worse, I met some people that have business cards, but it is their card for their 9-5 job. You should never take along your job's business card unless you are at the conference on behalf of your job. If you take your job's business card to a conference, keep in mind it is your company's email and phone number that is on the card. If you give someone your company's business card, but then you leave your company within the next year, the person who you gave the card to won't be able to connect with you anymore.
Always, and I mean always, invest in personal business cards. Even if you are not an entrepreneur with a booming business, you can still have personal business cards. On your business card, keep it simple and sleek and include your full name, phone number, email, what you do, and your social media handles. Too many times, I have been handed some of the most ratchet business cards from people that doesn't include an email or phone number. Yes, you read that right. There are so many people that fail to include the most important, basic information! Don't make that mistake. You should make it easy for people to find you and connect with you.
You can get really inexpensive business cards from Office Depot/Office Max, Vista Print, and Moo. Check them out, they are all pretty inexpensive and make quality cards. While you are at it, don't forget your business card holder!
4. Connect with panelists and attendees
You've made your hit list for the conference, but make sure you follow them on social media as well. Use the time before the conference to do a little networking, and it will also make conversations go even smoother once you see them in person.
If you have read any of my articles, you know that I am in love with LinkedIn. If you don't have one, get one now and update it with your job experiences, skills, and portfolio work. Prior to the conference, scour over your LinkedIn and make sure that it is fully updated - you should also do the same for your other social media accounts. For example, if you plan on giving someone links to your Twitter and Instagram page, go on there and make sure the message that you are delivering is the message that you want others to get from you.
If you have your own website and blog, update it as well with recent information. If you are a blogger, add new, refreshing content and maybe curate content that will be relatable to the conference. Also, on your website, make sure your social media and contact information is up-to-date.
6. Make a hit list for the conference schedule
Conferences that are really big and popular tend to have several different panels and events for people to attend. Look at the conference schedule closely and mark off events that you have to attend. Make sure you pay close attention to the location where the event or panel will take place and the times. You don't want to over schedule yourself or poorly plan and end up missing really important events.
7. Read industry news and know what's going on
If you are planning on going to a conference in a specific industry, search for recent news pertaining to that industry. At the conference, you will want to successfully and intelligently engage in all types of conversations. You can find industry news by reading publications, looking online, or listening to, and watching podcasts.
8. Prepare your tech kit
Going to a conference, you want to make sure you have your technology emergency kit. This includes your laptop or tablet, charger, and portable charger for your cell phone. In addition, make sure you include a durable bag to put all of that in as well. I even recommend bringing a pen and a journal (just in case your computer crashes).
9. Plan ahead with perfect shoes
Going to conferences, you want to look your best. Most importantly, you want to wear something that makes YOU comfortable. I am a believer in being cute, but comfortable. Everyone cannot wear high heels, and that is okay - there are so many cute flats available. You do not want to be caught at a conference walking like a three-year-old in heels. Find shoes that you know you will be comfortable walking and standing in for hours.
Click here to catch a list of conferences that are worth attending this year.
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Brittani Hunter is a proud PVAMU alumni and the founder of The Mogul Millennial, a business and career platform for Black Millennials. Meet Brittani on Twitter and on the Gram at @BrittaniLHunter and @mogulmillennial.
Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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Patricia "Ms. Pat" Williams has always marched to the beat of her own brutally honest drum — and that’s exactly what makes her so magnetic to watch. Whether she’s making us laugh until we cry on The Ms. Pat Show or now laying down the law on her courtroom series Ms. Pat Settles It, the comedian-turned-judge proves time and again that there’s nobody quite like her. Unfiltered, hilarious, and real to the core, she’s made a name for herself by turning her life’s journey — including the pain — into purpose.
Now in her second season of Ms. Pat Settles It, airing on BET and BET+, she’s not only delivering verdicts — she’s dishing out life lessons in between the laughs. The show feels less like your typical courtroom drama and more like your outspoken auntie running a court session at the family cookout, complete with celebrity jurors, petty disputes, and a whole lot of real talk. xoNecole sat down with Ms. Pat to talk about her wildest cases, balancing motherhood and fame, and why sleeping in separate bedrooms might just be the key to joy.
CASE CLOSED, BUT MAKE IT CHAOS
If you’ve ever tuned in to Ms. Pat Settles It, you already know the episode titles alone deserve awards. But when we asked Ms. Pat which case stood out most, she didn’t even have to think twice. “There was this one woman — Shay — who got out of federal prison and was working for her old bunkmate. But the bunkmate didn’t want to pay her!” she says, chuckling. “That girl came in the courtroom like a firecracker.”
It’s moments like those that remind viewers Ms. Pat isn’t just bringing the laughs — she’s giving people a platform, even if it’s a little messy. And if her court ever gets turned into a real-life franchise, we need Shay on the promo posters immediately.
WHEN THE CELEBS SHOW OUT
It’s already hard enough to get a word in with Ms. Pat running the show, but throw in a celebrity jury featuring Tamar Braxton, Ray J, TS Madison, and Karlous Miller? Whew. “I don’t even try to control them,” she laughs. “Thank God we have something called editing.” According to her, behind the scenes, things get wild — but that chaos is part of the magic. “People only see the cut-down version. What you don’t see is all of us losing it in real time.”
Still, Ms. Pat makes it work. The courtroom becomes a stage, but also a safe space for guests and jurors to show up as their full, unfiltered selves. “It was a wild season,” she explains. Let’s be honest — if your jury looks like a BET Awards afterparty, you might as well let it rock.
IF FAMILY COURT WAS REALLY A THING
Ms. Pat might wear the robe on screen, but at home, she’s still managing her own wild bunch. When asked what kind of case her kids would bring into her courtroom, she burst into laughter. “Oh, they’d be suing my oldest son for eating their food,” she says. “You know how you have that one roommate that eats up everybody’s food? I can see my oldest son getting sued for that..”
And let’s face it, we’ve all either been that sibling or have one. Ms. Pat says moments like that — the everyday family squabbles and real-life irritations — are what make her courtroom show so relatable.
THE VERDICT SHE WISHES SHE COULD REWRITE
Ms. Pat is known for keeping it real, even when the conversation turns serious. When asked if there was one “verdict” in her real life she’d change, she pauses for a second before answering. “I wish I had graduated high school,” she admits. “All my kids went to prom and I took all of their high school diplomas.”
“I wish I had graduated high school,” she admits. “All my kids went to prom and I took all of their high school diplomas.”
It’s a rite of passage in most Black households — your diploma doesn’t really belong to you, it lives at your mama or grandma’s house like a family heirloom.
HOW SHE STAYS GROUNDED
Between filming TV shows, headlining comedy tours, and running a household, Ms. Pat makes it very clear: she will find time to rest. “People swear I don’t sleep, but I do — I just knock out early and wake up early,” she shares. “And sometimes, I’ll just sit in my car.” She’s also a big fan of solo naps and mini getaways when things get overwhelming.
But one of her favorite forms of self-care? Separate bedrooms. “Me and my husband don’t sleep in the same room. That way, when I don’t feel like being bothered, I go to my space,” she laughs. She’s also found a new love for facials. “They’re addicting! I don’t need a lot — just sleep, a facial, and a little quiet.” Honestly? That’s a self-care routine we can get behind.
FROM PAIN TO PURPOSE
Ms. Pat’s story is one that’s deeply rooted in resilience — and she’s always been transparent about how her journey shaped her. Her advice to other Black women trying to turn their pain into purpose? Speak up. “You have to tell your story,” she says. “Because once you tell your story, you realize you’re not the only person that’s been through that situation.”
She adds that sharing your truth can be one of the most powerful things you do. “When you give a voice to pain so many other people who have that pain gravitate to you,” she says. “To heal, you have to speak out loud about it. What you keep inside is what eats you up.” Coming from someone who built an entire brand on truth-telling? We believe her.
WHAT’S NEXT FOR MS. PAT?
While Ms. Pat’s got her hands full with Ms. Pat Settles It and her comedy show, she hints there’s much more to come. “I got some stuff poppin’ that I can’t even talk about yet,” she teases. “But just know, like Kendrick [Lamar] said, we about to step out and show ‘em something.” That multi-genre deal with BET and Paramount is clearly working in her favor — and she’s not slowing down anytime soon.
She says one of her proudest moments in this chapter of her career is seeing things she once dreamed of finally come to life. “In this business, you never know what’s gonna work or what’s gonna stick. But now I’m working with a network that really understands me — and that’s special,” she says. “I feel seen. And I’m just getting started.”
Whether she’s in the courtroom cracking jokes or catching up on rest in her own sanctuary, Ms. Pat is living proof that success doesn’t have to come at the cost of authenticity. She’s rewriting the rules in real time — on her terms, in her voice, and for her people. As she continues to turn pain into purpose, laughter into legacy, and everyday mess into must-see TV, one thing’s clear: Ms. Pat is in her prime. And we’re lucky enough to watch it unfold.
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