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All that most of us want out of life is to be happy. *Cue Kirk Franklin*


As simple as it sounds, why does it seem so hard? It feels like this lifelong journey that makes it almost impossible to know if we've arrived. Yes, there are moments that make us happy, from good food to even greater friends and family. But in general, are we really happy with our day to day lives?

Sometimes we don't realize that we're not happy until we face an obstacle and wonder why it took such an emotional toll on us.

For me, I had to evaluate several aspects of my life. I was a people pleaser who cared way too much about what other people thought, and I was cock-blocking myself from living my best life. It wasn't until I got to a point where I intentionally started embracing a happier life that I started to actually live one.

1.What Makes You Happy? Do That.

Think about the moments when you were at your happiest in life. What were doing? What made you laugh? What was it about those moments that you enjoyed?

Whatever it is, do more of that.

As much as we want it to, happiness doesn't just come to us whenever we want, or even whenever we need it. Thank God for the unexpected and pleasant surprises that make us happy, but we have to be intentional about going after what we know will make us smile and laugh. Taking advantage of even the smallest moments that put a smile on your face and doing more of it will make a world of difference in your happiness.

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