

When it comes to our fitness journeys, sculpting our dream derrieres is top priority.
The glutes not only give us the frame of our “summertime fine” fitness goals, but are crucial for overall strength, stability, and athletic performance. These muscles play a vital role in numerous activities, from walking and running to lifting and jumping. From stabilizing the pelvis to supporting lower back health, and enhancing our athletic performance, a well-developed gluteus maximus contributes to a balanced physique.
Scrolling on social media, it’s easy to draw inspiration from celebrities who have achieved the perfect peach. Typically, we get lucky enough to catch a glimpse into the workouts and exercises that get them to achieve their glute growth — and let’s just say, it’s the perfect motivation to take your lower-body days to the next level.
It takes hard work and consistency, but with the glute-focused routine and these celebrity motivations, you’ll be on your way to achieving you — in no time.
Tracee Ellis Ross
It’s safe to say that we want to be Tracee Ellis Ross when we grow up. She’s the queen of poolside bikini moments and kicking butt at her Tracy Anderson classes. She’s never shy about showcasing her progress photos, and her consistency and playful approach to fitness keeps us motivated.
TRY THIS: Pilates Leg Circles
Targeting: Gluteus medius and minimus.
How To: Lie on your side, extend your top leg, and make small circles in the air.
TRY THIS: Leg Lifts
Targeting: Glutes, lower back.
How To: On all fours, lift one leg behind you, keeping it straight, then lower.
Meg Thee Stallion
The Houston Hottie is the perfect example of how hard work can produce impressive glutes. She often shares glimpses of her workouts on social media, highlighting exercises such as kickbacks, hip thrusts, and sumo squats. And we can’t help but to take notes.
TRY THIS: Sumo Squats
Targeting: Glutes, inner thighs.
How To: Stand with feet wider than shoulder-width, toes pointed out, squat down, and rise up.
TRY THIS: Deadlifts
Targeting: Glutes, hamstrings, lower back.
How To: With a straight back, lower the barbell to the floor by bending at the hips, then stand back up.
Victoria Monét
Victoria Monét has given us gym bangers like “Ass Like That” and “On My Mama” to affirm that we do — in fact — look fly and look good. Seeing her and her partner take on the gym together not only shows us that dedication is key, but that sometimes a gym buddy can get us to the goals we desire.
TRY THIS: Single-Leg Deadlifts
Targeting: Glutes, hamstrings.
How To: Stand on one leg, bend at the hips, and lower the weights while extending the other leg back.
TRY THIS: Kettlebell Swings
Targeting: Glutes, hamstrings.
How To: Swing a kettlebell between your legs and up to shoulder height using hip thrusts.
@gainsbygaines @Victoria Monét album dropped today!!! Yall go run it up #gainsbygaines #victoriamonet #onmymama #jaguar #newmusicfriday
Kelis
Kelis is the queen of an all-natural, fitness inspo. Known for her curvy figure, Kelis is not only our fitness goal because of her physique, but because her chef background gives her a unique perspective on nutrition that fuels her workouts.
TRY THIS: Jump Squats
Targeting: Glutes, quads.
How To: Perform a squat and jump up explosively, landing back into a squat.
TRY THIS: Weighted Squats
Targeting: Gluteus maximus, quadriceps.
How To: Hold a barbell on your shoulders, squat down, and stand up.
Chloe Bailey
When Chloe Bailey drops a new selfie or video, it’s guaranteed to break the internet. The singer isn’t just dedicated to her craft, but her commitment to fitness is evident.
TRY THIS: Cable Kickbacks
Targeting: Gluteus maximus.
How To: On all fours, kick one leg back and up, then return.
TRY THIS: Hip Thrusts
Targeting: Glutes, hamstrings.
How To: Sit with your upper back on a bench, feet flat, and lift hips while squeezing glutes, and lower.
@chloebaileywashere putting in that work 💪🏾
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Aley Arion is a writer and digital storyteller from the South, currently living in sunny Los Angeles. Her site, yagirlaley.com, serves as a digital diary to document personal essays, cultural commentary, and her insights into the Black Millennial experience. Follow her at @yagirlaley on all platforms!
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Ladies, have you ever noticed that anytime we break up with an ex, we cleanse our spaces and bodies – mentally and physically?
First, we remove the things that remind us of them because there is no need to cling to a toxic or unnecessary past. I’m not sure about you, but something about getting rid of clutter that weighed me down is so refreshing; I rebuke all negative energy in my personal space. Next, we cleanse ourselves by taking a natural, detoxifying bath or journal to release those emotions safely and effectively. However, what do you do when it comes to spiritually detoxing yourself? Can you recognize when it is time for something like that?
Detoxes concentrate on drawing out bad toxins and energies and realigning us with our purpose. Usually, when my energy is low, or I experience constant uneasiness, I know I need to take steps to detox spiritually. Luckily, I remembered a Reiki healer who worked with a close friend years ago; therefore, I started there.
I checked in with Reiki Practitioner Tamara Angela (@loveandfaerymagic) for her top ten recommendations on how to spiritually detox. I appreciate Tamara’s advice because she uses Reiki as “maintenance, not crisis [management],” thus, helping me realize I can prevent “spiritual clutter” from progressing.
Reiki practitioner Tamara Angela
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According to Tamara, "Reiki is a Japanese healing art. It [Reiki] comes with the understanding that we are all energy. And the way I describe it is Reiki covers you like your grandma’s prayer.” And we all know how vital our grandmother’s (or elders’) prayers are, especially growing up.
Ways To Spiritually Detox
Tamara explained that her nine steps all work together and detoxify your spirit and help you maintain the work you put into cleansing your spirit. We apply many of these steps to our daily routine, not realizing how crucial they are for our spiritual health. Each step ties into the other, and all are necessary.
When you do a spiritual detox it's important to remember, it’s a lifestyle. Start slowly to create the level of peace you want and build the stability you need. Tamara shares, “You can do all nine steps and still experience chaos. That is why it is important to have a baseline, a level of peace,” Tamara says. “You have to create a baseline of stability that you can revert back to. ‘I am used to this level of peace.’ Someone came along to disturb it, and now I have to fix it. Now, I can come back to these [steps] and remove that energy and know how to properly.”
1. Turn off your phone notifications and alerts.
Those notifications keep you tethered to constantly looking out for things (i.e. a text from that one person you should have kept blocked), thus, making it harder to calm your spirits. “Instead, choose a time in the day when you’re checking notifications,” Tamara recommended.
2. Get proper rest.
We experience different levels of sleep, and getting proper rest allows your body to reset. Raise your hand if your off day consists of running multiple errands. Often, we do not rest on our off days; “something” comes up. That “something” can be as simple as your favorite reality show.
Feel seen yet? I surely did. Sitting down and binge-watching a TV show does not allow your mind to rest effectively. For proper rest, Tamara suggested that classical and jazz music or white noise is okay, but nothing with lyrics.
3. Clear and calm your nervous system
When you are constantly experiencing things, sometimes you need to calm your mind down. For example, when something goes wrong with the Wi-Fi, we reset the modem. We should do the same when it comes to our bodies. Unfortunately, we tend to not think like that regarding our body and nervous system. “We are in a constant sensory experience," Tamara explained.
"You have six senses. That is how you experience the world. So, when you are constantly experiencing things, sometimes you need to calm down. Sometimes you need to remove something. Sometimes you need to be aware of how much you have taken in or have the capacity to take in.”
According to Apollo Neuro, an overactive sympathetic nervous system can cause issues like muscle tension, jitters, insomnia, etc. It can also lead to hyper-vigilance, the tendency to detect danger, even in its absence. By contrast, excessive tiredness, depression, and an overactive gag reflex can signal parasympathetic dominance. Fortunately, steps eight and nine emphasize easing an overactive nervous system.
4. Enjoy the company of good friends with laughter
“Laughter is a way to express emotion; it’s a great release. You are not in an inadequate space when you’re there [with friends].” As we know, laughter is good for the soul; it releases endorphins and helps you release things.
5. Purge your living space/get rid of clutter
Also known as “spring cleaning.” Constant mess or clutter is draining, and cleaning removes that negative energy. A great example Tamara uses is opening a window as it “can let out negative, stagnant energy. Many people do not realize that this practice is hoodoo-based.”
6. Unplug
Completely unplug or pick a day or time, and unplug. One way to do this is by turning off your phone. You cannot scroll through social media, talk on the phone, etc. Tamara recommended starting with 15 minutes and progressing from there.
7. Set boundaries
My personal favorite as I’ve gotten older. From a former people-pleaser, this is not an easy task. A lot of the pleasing we wrap ourselves up in is one of the main reasons we are spiritually drained. Setting boundaries is healthy; do things are your terms.
8. Do some Reiki
“Reiki energy balancing allows you to center yourself and clear that [negative] energy,” Tamara said. She further explained that it's like a church mother “laying hands on you.” Reiki is an energy healing technique that promotes relaxation and reduces stress and anxiety through gentle touch. Reiki practitioners use their hands to deliver energy to your body, improving the flow and balance of your energy to support healing.
Reiki practitioners are a conduit between you and the universal life force energy source. The energy flows through the practitioner’s hands to you. However, your Reiki healer does not always have to touch you for Reiki to work physically. “You can receive Reiki healing from long distances, like on the phone,” Tamara said. Instead, clients experience the energy through heat, cold, tingling, or pulsing sensations.
There are many benefits to Reiki. Reiki can:
- Promote relaxation, stress reduction, and symptom relief to improve overall health and well-being.
- Bring on a meditative state.
- Foster tissue and bone healing after injury or surgery.
- Stimulate your body’s immune system.
- Promote natural self-healing.
- Relieve pain and tension.
9. Breath/breathwork
“Breathwork is extremely helpful in moving any stagnant energy,” and that is why Tamara gives the people she works with a two-minute meditation that consists of breathwork. One breathwork exercise is placing your hand on your heart and feeling the movement of your heartbeat. Doing this technique for two minutes will recenter you and can be performed anywhere – office cubicle, home, etc. Even a deep belly breath, hold, then release is a great way to release stuck emotions.
“The process of inhaling brings in what we need, and that full exhale is letting go of what we do not [need],” Tamara said.
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Originally published on April 13, 2023