Method Man On Having Low Self-Esteem & How It Caused An Awkward Encounter With Destiny’s Child
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Method Man On Having Low Self-Esteem & How It Caused An Awkward Encounter With Destiny’s Child

Over the last few years, Method Man has been deemed a “zaddy” by many women due to his handsome, grown-man-like features. But while he may be admired for his good looks, he didn’t always feel good about himself. The “Bring the Pain” artist was recently featured on Math Hoffa’s My Expert Opinion podcast where he revealed that he often battled with low self-esteem early on in his career which led him to have an awkward encounter with Destiny’s Child.

During that time, he was going through a transition with his record label and he felt like he was no longer a priority which lowered his self-esteem. “I didn’t like myself, so I didn’t like anybody f–king else,” he said. “So that meant that anything that would have come in my circumference at that point and time was gonna get it.”

He also explained that he took his issues out with people close to him in his personal life and career. “My family went through a lot with my ass in the era and I can admit that I took a lot of my f–king misery out on them and they did not deserve it,” he continued. “And I took some of my misery out on people at Def Jam that did not f–king deserve it.”

He then shared an example of how his misery affected his relationship with his peers by recalling his run-in with Destiny’s Child.

He first met the group when they were a quartet, Beyoncé, Kelly Rowland, LeToya Luckett, and LaTavia Roberson, at the MOBO awards in the UK in 1999. He met them later in 2001 at Janet Jackson’s MTV Icon special when LeToya and LaTavia exited the group and Michelle Williams joined them he explained.

“We were at Janet Jackson’s Icon, and I remember I had just come off stage, and where we were sitting, there were nothing but VIPs,” he said. When he saw the “Say My Name” singers, he decided to go speak.

“Now, this is still me in my low self-esteem era. But I’m thinking like, okay comfort zone here; I’m gonna say what’s up to the girls. I love them, I’m just gonna say hi. I go over to say hi to them, and when I said hi, they didn’t even turn around and acknowledge me,” the rapper-turned-actor said.

He said his low-esteem caused him to feel like they “sh–ted” on him only to later realize that they probably didn’t hear him because it was loud in the building. However, it was too late. When the Power Book II: Ghost actor saw them again, he wouldn’t even shake their hand. “They put their hands out to shake, and I kept my hand here and was like, ‘Go ’head with that Hollywood sh-t.’”

He shared that that moment hurt him to this day. “Neither Kelly, Beyoncé or Michelle did any f–king thing to me.” He then issued a public apology to the trio, saying, “But me being so miserable and in that f--king moment, I felt like they wasn’t treating me the way I should have been treated,” he said.

“Who am I to think that about these girls? They’re here to promote themselves and break records and things of that nature. And it was not about me; it was about Janet f--king Jackson. And to this day, man, I don’t think I’ve ever apologized for that.”


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