Boundaries are like salt––sprinkle a little of those in almost any situation and you're bound to come up with a more satisfying result, and this is especially true when it comes to relationships. Whether it's friends, family, or romantic partnerships, it's important that you protect your time, space, and energy, and that's exactly why Kehlani says that she is currently living single.
The It Was Good Until It Wasn't singer recently sat down with The Breakfast Club and opened up about her controversial split with West Coast rapper, YG, and revealed that although the duo had mutually decided to be in an open relationship, their breakup was ultimately caused by infidelity and a lack of communication:
"I think that's what the big deal was about the situation that had happened was because I did give the space for communication in it to be open. It wasn't kind of honored, which kind of made it worse when you're like, 'Hey I low-key I am saying any, you know sh*t can go down um as long as everything [is] communicated and everyone's adults.'"
Kehlani explained that although she and YG, who was seen kissing another woman outside of a nightclub in a viral photo, had agreed to see other people as long as they remained honest with one another, she later learned that her former partner wasn't keeping up his end of the deal:
"It was a lot of lies and a lot of covering up... It was deep and it was like, intricate. It wasn't a simple––I found out the basics of something. It was deep and it was intricate and it was weaving of something that turned into something else. That's why I never spoke up on the outside the club thing because that wasn't a rule-breaking situation. I just don't feel like getting online and deeply explaining that that's not a situation that matters to me. Then I got to deal with everyone coming at me about my mentality about an open relationship."
The singer says that although she's received some backlash about her perspective on romance and open relationships, she stands behind her belief that when two people are grown (and honest) AF, they should be free to live their best lives. When asked how she defines an open relationship, Kehlani explained that although she and the "F*ck Donald Trump" rapper were unable to come to an agreement that worked for them both, couples should be aware that there are different strokes for different folks:
"It's really like each one of those relationships has to be set by each little rule with the two people. It's not like a formula for an open relationship. It's like, does this sex matter to me with somebody else? Does dating someone, just seeing someone, hanging out with someone matter to me? Does texting someone matter to me? You have to go through each individual step with those things. I personally can't define an open relationship for anybody else."
Despite a romantic apology featuring dozens of roses, Kehlani said that creating healthy boundaries has allowed her to move forward and find peace in their breakup:
"No. I think you get to a certain point where if you set certain boundaries for your relationship, that's the boundaries you should hold yourself to. If we had set the rules to be, 'If there's communication, you can live your best life.' Then there's that. If there's 'You can live your best life but don't communicate,' then there's that. If the rules and the boundaries get broken, at some point I have to hold that standard to myself and honor myself and dip out."
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