Earlier this week, Kehlani and YG shut down the internet with news of their Compton coupledom, but her newfound relationship isn't the only major transformation that's happening in the 24-year-old singer's life these days. Along with becoming a mother to a now almost 6-month-old baby girl, Kehlani says that she's focused on becoming the best version of herself, for herself. In since-deleted tweets, Kehlani got real about how she almost let her anxiety block her bag and I can totally relate.
Despite the pressure that may be placed upon us in our personal lives, the world doesn't stop spinning on our behalf, and Kehlani learned this first hand after a very public breakup with her ex, Kyrie Irving. In 2016, the singer was hospitalized after a suicide attempt and left to pick up the pieces in from of the world. She tweeted:
"I never went outside much. I go to the studio and go home. I've dealt with 3 years of social anxiety and media related PTSD."
I can personally attest to a number of times that I almost allowed my lack of belief to block my blessing and Kehlani says that over time, the pressure of walking in her purpose almost led her to walk away from the industry for good:
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"I've stopped my own bag and slowed myself down for years because I was literally terrified of y'all. The internet. I shaved my head and moved across the country for a year. I drew up my contracts to quit. Ya'll are not about to reduce my newfound healing and confidence to PR."
Although Kehlani is a survivor of mental illness, in previous interviews, she's made it clear that she's not a victim. Three years ago on The Cruz Show, the entertainer explained:
"I wasn't a victim, you know what I mean. I'm never a victim, I refuse to be a victim—I'm not. It was really recovering from so many things at once…on the flip side, there's not too much that can hurt me now."
Now, the singer says that she is here to reclaim her time and her career, and it's all thanks to one little person that came into the world and became the source of her inspiration.
"Birthing my daughter gave me [a] battery in my f*cking back. I have someone to go extremely hard for. To face my fears for."
The singer says you can call her what you want, but one thing you will not do is call her on some petty sh*t. According to Kehlani, she's been working through her issues one day at a time knowing that ultimate, she's the only one who can stop her from shining.
"So f*** with me, or don't… because what matters is that I finally truly f*** with me and if you can't tell than you know absolutely nothing about me and that finally has no control of my life, to God be the glory man."
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I've always had a love-hate relationship with wigs. Sometimes, I struggle to get them to lay flat and don't get me started with the bonding glue process. So when it comes to wearing wigs, I like to keep it nice and breezy around this b--- (word to Katt Williams), especially in the summertime.
That's why I jumped at the chance to try these three versatile wigs from Luvme Hair. Each one offers a unique look and is surprisingly low maintenance, which aligns perfectly with my philosophy that wearing wigs should make life easier. Let’s dive into the three styles below.
Headband Wig
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This was the first wig I tried on, and I instantly fell in love with it. So much so that it took me weeks to even consider trying the other two. I’m partial to colored hair, especially blonds, browns, and reds, so I was skeptical about the jet black hair. However, I think the color, combined with the curl pattern, worked surprisingly well for me.
One of the things I really liked about this wig was that I didn’t have to braid my hair down first. I could simply throw it over a low ponytail, which is the epitome of a low-maintenance style. The headband has combs inside and velcro on the ends, ensuring a secure fit.
Half Wig
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I had never worn a half wig before, so I faced some challenges. I cornrowed the bottom half of my hair where the wig would sit, but I believe this made it more difficult to use the combs. It might just be me though. I straightened the top part of my hair to blend it with the wig, which looked cute for about five minutes.
Firstly, I have a brown/blonde color mix on the ends of my hair, and the half wig is black. So, I had to hide some of the color (I didn’t have time to dye the wig). Secondly, straightening my hair myself is always a hassle because it never lasts long. Add to that the summer humidity, and you get a hot mess. Despite all this, I managed to get some cute pictures before things got out of control, and that’s all that matters, right?
Would I consider this a low-maintenance hair style? Yes and no. I think it’s unrealistic for me during the summer, especially since I enjoy summer activities. However, when the weather cools down, I’ll definitely rock it, dyed, of course.
Bob
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Now, this is the wig I was nervous about. I never had a bob and I didn't think I would like it. But once I put bobiana on, my mind instantly changed. I finally understood why the gworls rave about the bob so much. It was giving boss. It was giving grown woman. It was giving the bob means business. Iykyk. It was the ultimate statement.
I will say when I first put it on, one side of my wig just would not lay flat. It took some trial and error, but I finally managed to get it to look good. With the bob, I highly recommend braiding your hair down first as small as you can so it can lay as flat as possible. I really liked the ash blonde color, which is perfect for summer. The length also makes it a great low-maintenance style for the season, so you don't have to worry about the hair making your neck sweaty.
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