

Money complicates love more than the average person realizes.
I’m serious.
And it’s not an excuse, but it’s real.
Every day, I see people on the world wide web debating about a celebrity relationship (or *cough* situationship)—the deal breakers, the multiple children, the reasons to leave. And every day I wonder why. High-profile relationships don’t possess the same criteria for us common folk and in most cases, the rules that the ultra-rich play by in matters of the heart, just simply aren’t a part of “our” game.
Like many of us, growing up, I was always led to believe, “Men are only as faithful as their options,” or “All men cheat.”
Being married now, I’ve learned that the “rules” of marriage aren’t always (or ever) as black and white as society makes it seem, so of course, I know better, but even in experience, balancing what we’ve learned and experienced with what we are led to believe, is a struggle. And over time, I’ve realized that this is because we’re all just women with different experiences, in different seasons of our lives, trying to collectively block out the noise, and figure this love shit out for ourselves.
For example, superstar City Girl, Yung Miami, has been linked to mega-producer, executive, and artist Sean ‘P. Diddy Puff Daddy Diddy Love’ Combs. He’s 24 years her senior, the exact age of his youngest son, and about $990 million her senior at the bank. His wealth has afforded him a lifestyle filled with directness and honesty that he gives to women that he dates, which is all we really want from our men, right ladies?
Well…
Recently, the starlet, who never shies away from a topic, dropped a nuclear bomb in the Twitterverse by saying:
I'm not sharing my next nigga!
— Yung Miami (@YungMiami305) March 6, 2023
The post sent social media into a frenzy, as she ultimately threw more gasoline on the fire by later going live on Instagram to publicly state that she’s also never getting married.
“I don’t want to get married ’cause I feel like men are not faithful,” Miami said. “If I get married, I’m giving my life away to you, and I’m going to be with you for the rest of my life. I take everything personal. If I’m with you and you step out on me, I’m never going to forgive you.”
She added, “If my husband cheats on me, I’m going to kill him. I’m going to bury you, because now I’m embarrassed, and I’m never going to look at you the same.”
And just in case there was any doubt of where she and Diddy stood, the "Twerk" rapper would also confirm that she is indeed "S-I-N-G-L-E" while at Rolling Loud. “I’m single, baby. What man you saw me with?” She added in the interview. “Yeaaah, yeah. I’m single S-I-N-G-L-E. Baby.”
Yung Miami sure knows how to get the gworls talking, but keep in mind these comments are coming from the vantage point of a woman who:
- Frequently says she’s single but is also publicly linked to a very powerful man that, although they harbor an obvious sexual attraction to each other, their body language and energy tell the story that they actually like each other.
- Has a brand that is intertwined with his--her massively popular show, Caresha Please being housed on his REVOLT Network, which he previously visited as a guest on the show.
- Has served as the Bonnie to the Clyde of a rich man with no traditional approach to public romance, thus, taking on the ridicule that comes along with accepting his lifestyle, while still managing and checking the flooding emotions that develop in the process.
- And lastly, has over-stated that their arrangement is their business, and they are just having fun in the process.
In the past, Miami has been linked to producer Southside, who she has a daughter with, and Diddy has famously had 7 children with four women (including an infant Love Sean Combs born sometime during his situation with Yung Miami) and was previously in a long-term relationship with Cassie for over ten years. And it may have taken Cassie a little time, but she eventually found love and a family with a man that adores her.
So, we can’t judge a woman’s journey to love. Sure, there may be variables that position one situation in a different tax bracket, but at the end of the day, we all want our person. One of my favorite things about womanhood is that as we mature, we unapologetically learn to check whatever isn’t serving us anymore. And most importantly, what we require from others evolves too.
Right now, all I see is a young rich, beautiful, and poppin' woman denouncing marriage because she loves hard, so she requires for her person to match her energy. And she’ll find exactly that.
But until then, as a woman, give her grace. Hell, give us all grace. We may have our individual journeys, but we’ll find our love.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Ashley Versher is known for her work in the Tyler Perry's Beauty In Black series and more recently, she starred alongside Taraji P. Henson in the Netflix film Straw. But she is more than just her acting credits and stunning looks (her hair alone is everything). In an xoNecole exclusive, Ashley dishes on her first celebrity crush, how she spends her downtime, and her go-to haircare products because we need the deets.
Get to know Ashley below.
xoNecole: Where are you from?
Ashley Versher: San Francisco - BAY AREAAAAAA!!!!
xoN: What was your first major acting role?
AV: A 49ers Super Bowl commercial - I think I was 3.
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xoN: Have you ever had an embarrassing or funny audition story? If so, what happened?
AV: Yes! I was doing a self-tape once and I forgot to take off my bonnet. But the tape was so good I sent it in anyway.
xoN: Your hair is gorgeous. What has it been like navigating Hollywood with natural hair?
AV: Thank you so much! Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself. Once I fully embraced my natural hair and committed to the journey, everything else began to align. It’s been nothing short of empowering.
Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself.
xoN: What are your favorite go-to hair products?
AV: Ooooooo, right now I’m loving Camille Rose’s Jai Twisting Butter—it’s super moisturizing and gives me a fun, bouncy twist-out! I’ve also recently gotten into oils, and I’m especially loving sweet almond oil.
xoN: We know you as an actress, but what is another special talent you have that most people don't know about?
AV: I trained as a classical violinist for 13/14years.
xoN: Who is your hero?
AV: My mom. She’s incredible - full stop.
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Johnny Marlow
xoN: How do you like to spend your down time?
AV: Ha! What’s that!? Jk jk, I love to travel, that’s honestly my favorite thing.
xoN: Who was your first celebrity crush?
AV: Prince.
xoN: What is your dream role?
AV: One day I will play a witch with Harry Potter-like powers!
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