What's A Praise Kink? 8 Phrases To Get You Off In Your Next Partner Play
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What's A Praise Kink? 8 Phrases To Get You Off In Your Next Partner Play

If affirmations during sex gives you WAP, this one's for you.


Does hearing the phrase, “you’re such a good girl” during sex turn you on? If so, you might have a “praise kink.” When I hear the term praise kink, the church girl in me wants to immediately play “The Lady, Her Lover and Lord” while riding reverse cowgirl. But that’s not what is meant by the term praise kink. A “praise kink,” is a sexual fetish that focuses on overt praise, exaggerated compliments, and an outpour of verbal affection.

The concept of praise kinks isn't new, but thanks to TikTok a lot of people are now realizing they might identify as praise kinksters. Currently, the hashtag #praisek1nk is trending with 568.9 million views with tons of creators posting about their love for compliments and words of affirmation during sex. I too love a good compliment during sex. I once had a lover sing my praises about how good I was at a certain bedroom activity. His affirmations gave me WAP, but does that categorize me as having a praise kink?

How To Know if You Have a Praise Kink

Just because you love receiving praise doesn’t mean you have a praise kink. Someone with a praise kink experiences an intense level of sexual excitement from being praised or verbally affirmed by their partner during sex. You might have a praise kink if hearing your partner tell you how pretty you are makes you cum or if the thing that makes sex go from good to great is hearing your partner's thoughts about how good you are at giving head. And if during solo play, the thing that gets you all hot and bothered is recalling the times your partner called you a good girl, it’s probably a praise kink.

Generally, a kink is a sexual activity that is needed for someone to enjoy sex. When it comes specifically to praise kinks, if you need reassurance from your partner that you're sexy, or good in bed in order to orgasm, you have a praise kink.

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Examples of Praise Kink Phrases To Try With Your Partner

If you’re new to the term and looking to explore you probably have questions about what phrases to use. It may take a lot of communication and some trial and error to figure out what phrases work best for you and your partner. Ultimately, the best phrases to use varies from person to person and are based on what sex acts you and your partner enjoy, or what parts of their body they like complimented.

To get you started, here are some generic praise kink examples to try out with your partner:

Praise Kink Examples:

  • You're such a good girl/boy.
  • You're so good at [insert skill].
  • You look so hot when you [insert activity].
  • Your [insert body part] is irresistible.
  • You taste so good. I can't get enough of you.
  • You just have the perfect [body part].
  • Just like that… you’re doing so good.
  • Who taught you how to be so good at [something?]

While many examples of praise kink involve specific verbal affirmations, praise can also come in the form of brief words or phrases like “yes,” “keep going,” or simply a moan. No matter what type you prefer, praise kink is all about finding what feels good and exciting, and turns you and your partner on the most.

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