The holidays are often considered a joyous occasion where you spend time with family and friends, eat delicious food, and much more. But not everyone is afforded the same luxury. There are many people who spend the holidays alone. These reasons vary from not having a family to issues with family, or lack of money to visit family if they live elsewhere. Whatever your reasons are, spending the holidays solo doesn’t mean you have to feel lonely. There are many things you can do to enjoy yourself over the holidays and the best part is that you are in control of the fun.
xoNecole compiled a list of a few things you can do to assure that you too can have a wonderful Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, or just a break. Make memories your way while also starting new traditions.
‘Tis the season!
1.Solocation
You may not be traveling to see family but you can plan a trip to see the world’s beauty. Solocations are a great way to reflect and learn about yourself and why not do that at one of the best travel destinations? Whether you decide to go snorkeling in the crystal blue waters of Jamaica or go on a winter escape in Aspen, going on a solo trip is a beautiful experience and a great way to spend the holidays.
2.Volunteering
There’s nothing like giving back; that is why volunteering is next on our list of the best ways to enjoy the holidays alone. There are a lot of people in need and are also alone during the holidays, so spending time with them, whether it's feeding the homeless or visiting sick children in the hospital, will make everyone happy.
3.Self-Care Day
Your favorite spa may be closed on Christmas day but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a spa-like experience at home. Pamper yourself by lighting candles or incense, painting your nails, and giving yourself a facial. You can also use this day to meditate, read a self-help book, write down affirmations, and write down your goals for the next year i.e. create a vision board.
4.Treat Yourself to Dinner
You may not want to cook a big dinner at home, so going out to eat may be the next best thing. Many restaurants are open on Christmas day, and some serve Christmas dinner. Be sure to check your local area to see which restaurants are open.
5.Staycation
You may not have time or money to travel but you don’t want to be at home for the holidays and like the good sis Tabitha Brown always says, “that’s your business.” So, book a hotel in your city and enjoy the luxurious amenities they have to offer. If you don’t necessarily want to leave your hotel room, you can always order room service and watch Christmas movies all day long. No judgment here.
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In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Quinta Brunson Gets Real About Divorce, Boundaries & Becoming
Quinta Brunson is the woman who chooses herself, even when the world is watching. And in her June 30 cover story for Bustle, she gives us a rare glimpse into the soft, centered place she's navigating her life from now. From leading one of television's most beloved series in the last decade to quietly moving through life shifts, the creator of Abbott Elementary is walking through a personal evolution and doing so with intention, grace, and a firm grip on her boundaries.
Back in March, the 35-year-old filed for divorce from Kevin Jay Anik after nearly three years of marriage, citing "irreconcilable differences." The news hit the headlines of news outlets fast, but Quinta hadn't planned to announce their dissolution to the public so quickly.
Quinta Brunson On Divorce, Public Scrutiny & Sacred Boundaries
"I remember seeing people be like, ‘She announced her divorce,’" she told Bustle. “I didn’t announce anything. I think people have this idea that people in the public eye want the public to know their every move. None of us do. I promise you. No one wants [everyone] to know when you buy a house, when you move, when a major change happens in your personal life. It’s just that that’s public record information."
In regards to her private moves becoming tabloid fodder, Quinta continued, "I hated that. I hate all of it."
"I Am An Artist First": Quinta On Cutting Her Hair & Reclaiming Herself
Still, the diminutive phenom holds her crown high in the face of change and is returning to the essence of who she is, especially as an artist. "Cutting my hair reminded me that I am an artist first. I want to feel things. I want to make choices. I want to be a person, and not just stuck in having to be a certain way for business." It's giving sacred rebirth. It's giving self-liberation. It's especially giving main character energy.
And while the headlines keep spinning their narratives, the one that Quinta is focused on is her own. For her, slowing down and nourishing herself in ways that feed her is what matters. "It’s a transitional time. I think it’s true for me and my personal life, and it’s how I feel about myself, my career, and the world," Quinta shared with Bustle. “I feel very serious about focusing on watering my own gardens, taking care of myself and the people around me who I actually interact with day-to-day."
That includes indulging in simple rituals that ground her like "making myself a meal" which has become "really, really important to me."
That spirit of agency doesn't stop at the personal. In her professional world, as the creator, executive producer, and lead actress of the critically-acclaimed Abbott Elementary, Quinta understands the weight her choices carry, both on- and off-screen. She revealed to Bustle, "People used to tell me at the beginning of this that the No. 1 on the call sheet sets the tone, and the producer sets the tone — and I’m both of those roles."
She continued, "I understand now, after doing this for four years, how important it was that I set the tone that I did when we first started."
Quinta doesn't just lead, she understands the importance of curating the energy of any space she enters. Even amid a season of shifts and shedding, her power speaks loudly. Sometimes that power looks like quiet resistance. Sometimes that power is soft leadership.
And sometimes that power looks like cutting your hair and taking back your name in rooms that have forgotten you were an artist long before you were a brand.
Read Quinta's cover story on Bustle here to witness the fullness of Quinta's becoming.
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