Winter is here and the colder weather can have some major effects on our skin. Much like protective styling is vital for our hair, we have to have a system in place to protect our skin. Moisturizing your skin is very crucial in the winter and most times, it requires us to switch up our products and use something a bit heavier and equipped to protect us from the cold and other elements.
In addition to sunscreen and serums, you need to have a good moisturizer in place, here are five great moisturizers that will help your skin conquer this winter:
Nubian Heritage African Black Soap Moisturizer, $14+
Writer Krissy Lewis/xoNecole
You can't go wrong with a thick cream-based moisturizer. The Nubian Heritage African Black Soap moisturizer is great for protecting your skin in the winter. It's a thick moisturizer that feels lightweight and leaves your skin feeling very moisturized without being greasy. It also makes your face feel very soft and it smells amazing. The only downside is that it does not include sunscreen, which isn't a big deal. You can mix it with your favorite sunscreen and it won't interfere with how it works.
This moisturizer is good for both day and night time, as well as for all skin types.
e.l.f.’s Daily Hydration Moisturizer, $8
Writer Krissy Lewis/xoNecole
I have to say for the price, it's a steal. I paid about $8 for this moisturizer and it has an amazing fresh scent — it's soft, pleasant, and clean. The scented daily moisturizer is made with natural ingredients like purified water, jojoba oil, aloe, vitamin E, and cucumber.
The bottle recommended using a small amount however, I would use about two to three full pumps (if you have oily skin you may want to use less). When I used three full pumps, the moisturizer melted into my skin and gave me a beautiful natural glow. My face felt moisturized and smooth, it definitely did better than I expected. I would highly recommend for my beauties on a budget.
Neutrogena Hydro Boost Water Gel, $16+
Writer Krissy Lewis/xoNecole
This is my first time trying a water gel and I did notice that there was a slight difference between the gel and the cream moisturizer. The gel moisturizer allows your skin to absorb moisture much quicker.
As far as the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Water Gel, I think it's best for people with oily skin, although it works fine for those who have combination/normal skin. I also think it would work for those who have dry skin, however, I do recommend either using a serum along with this gel or purchasing the Hydro Boost for extra dry skin. I used this gel for about a month and I noticed that it instantly moisturized, soothed, and softened my face. The gel is very lightweight and non-comedogenic, so it doesn't clog your pores. You can use this moisturizer at any time of the day; I usually use it in the morning along with the Neutrogena sunscreen and go about my day.
I wouldn't say this gel gives you a lot of glow, but it does brighten your skin and acts as a primer for your makeup.
Shea Moisture’s Bamboo Charcoal Hydrating Gelee Moisturizer, $11+
Writer Krissy Lewis/xoNecole
The Bamboo Charcoal Hydrating Gelee Moisturizer is made with African Black soap, bamboo charcoal, and aloe. Not only is this mixture good for moisture, but it can reduce the appearance of dark spots and acne.
This product is for people who experience frequent breakouts, however, if you have dry skin I won't recommend it. Depending on how dry your skin tends to get, it may not give you all the moisture you need. If you have oily, normal, and combination acne-prone skin, then this is perfect. It hydrates, soothes, and treats your skin; if used twice a day, you can see results in about 2-3 weeks.
Olay Total Effects 7 In 1, $7+
Writer Krissy Lewis/xoNecole
This moisturizer is on the pricey side for a drugstore moisturizer, but is still a good price for a skin care product. There's a lot of hype around this Olay moisturizer, so I purchased the trial size to see if it really works. I do think it's worth the hype, especially for the winter. It hydrates your skin, fights dry and aging skin, and it also includes SPF 15. This is a good product to get if you want one product that gives your skin what it needs.
The fragrance-free lightweight moisturizer is good for all skin types and adds a beautiful glow to your skin. To me, this is your everything in one product, and you don't need to use multiple products to get your desired look and achieve proper skin health (aside from cleansers and toners). I think it's worth the money, but what works for me may not work for you. I recommend trying the trial size first to see how you like it. A little goes a long way for this product and the smaller size should last for 1-2 months (depending on use).
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Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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