Within the last year, TikTok has slowly gained most of my attention when it comes to my preferred social media platform. While I’m still getting accustomed to the app and all that it offers, I'm learning that it’s a go-to resource for beauty hacks and product recommendations. Gone are the days of the long format YouTube product review, TikTok is the quickest way to judge whether a viral product or beauty tool is actually “For You” in 60 seconds or less. The new generation of social media influencers gives us access to real reviews at our fingertips from the girl next door excitedly sharing her recent discovery of relatable skin and beauty products you never knew you needed.
After asking my TikTok-obsessed friends and spending countless hours watching product reviews, I decided to include a list of summer beauty products everyone will love regardless of their skin’s texture and tone. Gone are the days of face palettes and full glam, the natural makeup trend is taking over and I’m absolutely here for it. No more cakey layers and complicated applications, these barely-there makeup products are receiving glowing reviews.
Let's face it, everyone's an influencer in their own right so stay camera-ready with these lightweight easy-to-apply products, no filter required.
1. Saie Beauty's Glowy Super Gel Lightweight Dewy Highlighter
Saie’s glowy super gel + the sun = an amazing glow ✨ #MyRecommendation #UnwrapTheDeals #fyp #beautyhacks
A lightweight multi-use illuminator, Saie Beauty’s Glowly Super Gel Lightweight Dewy Highlighter is the perfect solution for glowing dewy skin this summer. Wear it alone, under foundation, or as a highlighter using just 1-2 pumps. This beauty find is perfect for an all-over coverage glow on your face (and bare skin like chest and collarbones, shoulders and legs) with nothing more than a little sunshine for enhanced healthy looking skin. For even more facial coverage, use it as a base underneath a few drops of serum, tinted moisturizer, or your favorite foundation. Created for all skin tones and types, this product is definitely a game-changer.
2. Charlotte Tilbury’s Hollywood Flawless Filter
Everybody uses this and I get why, this is amazing @Charlotte Tilbury #charlottetilburymakeup #flawlessfilter #makeuptest #skinbynena #glowyskintip
Inspired by social media filters, Charlotte Tilbury’s Hollywood Flawless Filter has proven to blur, smooth, and illuminate the skin for a stunningly youthful complexion. When on a mission for glowing dewy skin, this product seems to be absolutely worth the hype. Apply on its own, under a tinted moisturizer or foundation to achieve a radiant HD finish. Complete this everyday makeup look with Charlotte Tilbury’s Air Brush Flawless Setting Spray.
3. NARS Light Reflecting Foundation
ADD IT TO YOUR CART #makeup #beauty
NARS Light Reflecting Foundation is an innovative blend of makeup and skin care instantly blurs imperfections, smooths the look of textured skin, and helps conceal blemishes, dark spots, and redness. With claims to visibly improve skin’s clarity after six weeks of daily use with its advanced skincare ingredients, there’s no reason not to try this two-in-one product. For light to darker tones and for a range of skin types, including sensitive skin, this is intended to be 24 hour all day coverage with a natural finish.
4. Kosas Revealer Concealer
using the @Kosas #revealerfoundation and concealer combo for an easy sculpted FLAWLESS base 😤✨ #kosaspartner #makeuptutorial #makeuphack #contouring
For a flawless base, Kosas Revealer Concealer does exactly what needs to be done. Concealer meets eye cream with this super lightweight and creamy formula intended for medium coverage, creating a smooth dewy finish. According to influencers across TikTok, this product not only enhances the look of their skin but the quality as well. This is another product that can be worn alone or mixed with your favorite foundation for a complete makeup look.
5. NYX Pore Filler Targeted Stick
Is it worth the hype?! NYX Pore Filler Primer Stick. VC: @rocio.roses #makeuphacks #makeuptransformation #makeuptricks #viralproducts #viralmakeup
NYX Pore Filler Targeted Stick is pure magic, and that's no exaggeration. When I discovered this product, I couldn't believe my eyes as pores, fine lines, oil, and shine were blurred, seemingly disappearing with a few subtle swipes. For the best results, use NYX Pore Filler Primer, followed by the NYX Pore Filler Targeted Stick to target areas that need extra blurring, finishing with makeup application. Run, don’t walk to try this inexpensive instant blur while it's in stock.
6. Pixi Beauty On-the-Glow Cream Blush
Can we talking about the best drugstore blushes? The pixi blush stick, is if black girl friendly? Lets try @Pixi Beauty #pixiblushstick #pixiblushreview #drugstoredupe #affordablemakeupproducts #makeuptips @karinawaldron
If you’re like me and always on the hunt for an easy and inexpensive beauty product, then this On-the-Glow Cream Blush by Pixi Beauty was made for you. Paraben-free and comprised of ingredients like aloe vera, ginseng, and fruit extracts, this is a tinted balm providing a hint of natural color while hydrating and conditioning the skin. Use one shade on both the cheeks and lips with one sweep to instantly pull your look together. You’ll be sure to find your preferred match as there's a range of colors that compliments everyone.
7. Dior Addict Lip Glow Oil
The Berry colour 😍 which one would you try? #diorlipglow #diorlipglowoil
The Dior Addict Lip Glow Oil is an ultra-glossy cherry-infused lip oil that deeply protects and enhances the lips, bringing out their natural color. With the cherry-infused ingredients, it's a genuine lip care treatment that nourishes, protects, softens, and revitalizes your lips in an instant. I love the subtle pop of a rosy natural color that is still able to maintain its non-greasy, non-sticky oil texture while also creating a magnifying, mirror-shine effect. A multipurpose lip makeup, Dior Addict Lip Glow Oil can be worn on its own, as a lip primer under your lipstick, or as a top coat for volumizing shine.
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Here's Why Very Few Relationships Can Actually Be 'Platonic'
Recently, while in an interview, someone asked me if I think that men and women can be just friends. I didn’t even hesitate to answer; my response was immediate, “Absolutely.” What I followed that up with is what intrigued them — “Life has taught me that not a lot of male/female dynamics are ‘platonic,’ though.” When they asked me to expound, the interview ended up taking a whole ‘nother turn.
As a writer who really pays attention to word meanings, something that can be a bit frustrating about our culture is the fact that based on whatever is popular at the time, folks will just up and change the original definitions of words to suit a particular agenda or whim — and the word “platonic” 1000 percent fits into this category. And perhaps that’s why we seem to continue to go in circles about whether or not people of the opposite sex can (and should) be friends and what that even can (and should) look like.
Let’s talk about it for a bit. Because as a word-literal type of individual, while again, I absolutely believe that men and women can be friends, at the same time, I think it’s about as rare as a red diamond to truly find yourself in a friendship that is…platonic.
It’s Time (More) Folks Knew What ‘Platonic’ LITERALLY MeansGiphy
So, let's do first things first — let's define what it literally means for something to be platonic. If you go to your favorite search engine and put something along the lines of "What does platonic mean?", the first thing that you're (probably) going to see is a ton of dictionary definitions that say something along the lines of "of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex" (Merriam-Webster), "designating or of a relationship, or love, between a man and a woman that is purely spiritual or intellectual and without sexual activity" (Your Dictionary) and, my personal favorite, "purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of different sexes" (Dictionary). Yeah, bookmark that last one; I'll be circling back.
Keeping this in mind (and please do), where does the word "platonic" actually come from? From what I've researched, the philosopher Plato once penned something entitled "Symposium." In it, he addressed the topic of two people sharing the kind of love that is free of any type of sensual desire, one that is based on divine love alone. An author from the 1800s broke it down this way: "Platonic love meant ideal sympathy; it now means the love of a sentimental young gentleman for a woman he cannot or will not marry." A write-up on Merriam-Webster's site stated that "The term platonic was initially used to mock non-sexual relationships, as it was considered ridiculous to separate love and sex, but eventually this connotation faded away leaving us with today's notion of close friendships." Yeah, we used to live in a culture where love and sex were not separated. Hmph, that's another article for another time, though (check out "We Should Really Rethink The Term' Casual Sex'").
Anyway, as with many things (especially in our culture), the word "platonic" is kind of used in "broad strokes" these days (bromances, female friendships, etc.). However, because there continues to be this forever discussion — and oftentimes debate — about whether or not men and women can be "just friends," I'm going to tackle this topic strictly from that angle — from the place where platonic actually originated.
Yes, Men and Women Can Be Just Friends. But…Giphy
At this stage in my life, I'm pretty sure that I have more male friends than female ones. There are layers of reasons why, yet I think a huge one is because I like the balance that masculinity brings to my femininity (especially as I'm learning to embrace different aspects of my femininity, intentionally even more). And while every single one of my male friends is respectful and is a super safe space in my world on every single level that I can imagine (and have been for years now), there are probably only a couple who I would say 100 percent qualify as being…trulyplatonic.
Why would I say that? Well, I'll illustrate this point with something that one of my male friends once said to me. He's super cute. He can sing his ass off (and definitely has one of my favorite speaking voices). People see us out together often, and some have told us that they assume that we've had something going on at some point. Anyway, after hearing someone share their theory about us, I told it to him.
Me: "I told him, 'He's my brother. We would never mess around.'"
My Friend: "Correction, you are like a sister. You are not my sister, though. Under the right conditions, you could still get it."
When I shared that exchange with another male friend of mine, he basically cosigned on the sentiment: "Shellie, I have never approached you like that because I really respect you. I want to be good for you for the rest of our lives." (That reminds me: check out "Question: Is The Man In Your Life Good 'TO' You? Good 'FOR' You? Or...Both?" when you get a chance.)
Then I went to one more guy homie and ran both statements by him: "Girl, yeah. If I didn't want to keep you in my life long-term, I would've tried to holla a long time ago!" And he and I have been friends for almost 20 years at this point. When did he get around to telling me this? Eh, maybe two years ago. LOL.
So, my takeaway from all of these "for real?!" exchanges is even though men and women can be just friends, there is a certain level of intention, self-control, and ability to see into the future (on some level) that must go into account — because, just because something more-than-friends-like may not have gone down, that doesn't mean there isn't a "dormant seed" lying around somewhere…whether it's one-sided or on both sides of the friendship dynamic.
As you can see, I just provided you with three instances where the male friends in my life; we've had nothing sexual or even physically intimate beyond a hug when we greet each other in nature — although things aren't exactly platonic if there is some sort of attraction or sexual/romantic curiosity that simply never got explored. Because again, according to Plato, a platonic relationship is free from all of that kind of…tension — or possibilities. Zero. Nada. Zilch.
And now you probably get why I entitled this article in the way that I did…right? I mean, just think about it — out of your male friendships, where is there NO sensual desire or dormant romantic interest…on your side and/or on his? If you're not sure about "his"…have you ever asked him? Or them? Because again, once I really let the definition of platonic sink in, I think maybe two guys in my life totally fit the bill.
This brings me to my next point.
Are You Platonic? Or Are You Friend-Zoning?Giphy
Now that you know that probably 70 percent of the people you know (both online and off) have been using the true meaning of platonic all the way wrong, let’s go about deeper: when it comes to your friendships with men, are they genuinely platonic or…is it more like you’re friend-zoning them?
A few years ago, I penned an article on the topic entitled, “Before You 'Friend Zone' Someone, Read This.” If you’re skimming this on your lunch break, I’ll summarize friend-zoning as knowing that a guy has so-much-more-than-platonic feelings for you, yet because you basically want to keep the benefits of the friendship or even his emotions around, you will string him along on some level.
Personally, I can’t stand friend-zoning. I think it’s selfish, with some sprinkles of manipulation and wasting someone’s time. Don’t agree? How would you feel if a guy was friend-zoning you? (Yeah…exactly.)
This all needs to go on record because, knowing that a guy wants to “take it there” with you (whether sexually or romantically), you not full-on addressing it and/or giving him just enough hope to take you out, listen to all of your stories about other men and give you the attention that you need knowing that he doesn’t have a shot in hell — that is NOT a platonic friendship and honestly, you’re not being a good friend at all. Friends protect each other’s hearts, not abuse them.
A platonic friendship means that you both have no interest in each other, and, as Plato put it, while you may have a strong and solid bond, it’s spiritual love that connects you. And what exactly does that mean? Spiritual love also deserves its own article, yet the gist would be that you recognize there is a purpose in your friendship, yet it’s about wanting what’s best for one another and even helping each other to get there.
For instance, a platonic friend of yours may know that you desire to be married one day, so he has no problem setting you up with a good guy in his life. And if things go well, he would have no problem standing up as your own best man (without feeling like he’s dying inside) because he never saw you beyond anything but a friend. A guy in the friend zone doesn’t move like this; he likes you too much to help you move on with someone else. See the difference?
Why Relationships Should Start Off As NON-PLATONIC FriendshipsGiphy
Before I end this with some tips on how to properly care for the few platonic friendships you may actually have, since the use of the word may require a bit of mental reprogramming, I do think we should also address that if you've got a good guy in your life, who right now is a friend and either you've never thought of him in that way or the topic has never come up — he's someone that you may not want to brush off.
What I mean by that is, it's one thing for there to be absolutely no interest in someone vs. never considering it before — and the reason why you might want to give it some thought is because, ask any healthy married couple who's been together for more than five years and I'll bet you my next rent check that they will say that the best relationships are birthed out of friendship (check out "Are You Sure You're Actually FRIENDS With Your Spouse?").
Yeah, just because you've filed someone in the "I see him as a good guy" category, that doesn't automatically mean that y'all's friendship is platonic. For instance, I have a male friend who is fine and I adore on many levels, yet the reason why it would never work on my end is because there are certain relational standards that I have that he does not meet. However, don't get it twisted — I've considered him because, on so many levels, we "fit." So, the mere fact that I ever seriously thought about him on that level means that we are "good friends," yet it's not exactly platonic.
I'm not free of potential sensual desire…I just choose not to act on it. Yet because I get the value of having friendship as the foundation for my own future marriage (should life play out that way), I am wise enough to know that I would've been a fool to not at least…ponder him and the possibilities.
So yeah, if there is a male friend in your life that the thought of dating or having sex with him doesn't make you want to throw up in your mouth, there's a pretty good chance that it's not a classic platonic dynamic — and you might want to consider if it could/should go to the next level — if not immediately, eventually. Because there's a pretty good chance that if you are thinking that way, he probably is as well.
Protect Your Genuine Platonic Friendship(s) At All CostsGiphy
Let me end this with how one of my platonic friendships rolls. We both think that the other is attractive, yet neither of us is attracted. We both give each other opposite-sex insights. We both have said that the mere thought of dating each other makes our noses turn up like there’s an odor in the air. And even when I try to imagine us together, my mind goes blank. I love, love, LOVE this man — oh, but it is absolutely nothing more than platonic — and he feels the same way. It’s as close to familial love without being blood relationships. It’s a rare dynamic, and that is what makes it so special. There is definitely a spiritual type of love there; no more, no less.
If you’ve got someone in your life who you feel the same way about (again, it’s got to be mutual; he must feel that way, too), you’ve got a gem of a situation going on because there is nothing like having the kind of friendship where you and a guy can hang out, exchange perspectives and thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, knowing that’s all it is and will ever be. Things will never get weird. No one’s feelings are gonna get hurt (from the whole friend-zoning thing). You don’t have to walk on eggshells. You can just be.
And that’s why I’m all for platonic friendships. And listen, if you’re blessed enough to have even one in your lifetime, be fiercely protective of it. Don’t take it for granted. Nurture it in a way that your male friend needs (because it probably won’t be the exact same as your female friendships). Y’all, platonic friendships are so bomb because, if it’s honored and protected correctly, it’s the one male friend that you can probably keep for life because even your romantic partner will not find it to be a (true) threat — hell, they honestly could probably end up becoming (some level of) friends with your platonic homie as well.
I hope that I broke this all down enough to where, when you decide to use a word to describe your opposite-sex friendships, perhaps you will pause and ask yourself, “Wait, is this a platonic friend or a good or close friend?” Because the clearer you are on the differences, the easier it will be to know how to maintain your friendship — and feel about your friend. Feel me? Cool.
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