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Tiffany Haddish Explains The Pressure Of Being 'The Successful One' In Your Circle

"Everybody looks at you like you're supposed to take care of them."

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It was the year 2017. Girls Trip had just hit theaters and the world had no idea that a formerly homeless comedian from South Central was about to pull up on Hollywood and put her foot on all of our necks for the next three years. What a time to be alive.

Today, Tiffany Haddish has become a household name that would only evade you if you lived under a rock, but in a recent interview with Harper's Bazaar, Tiffany explained that her road to success has been nothing short of a miracle. She told the publication that when the Will Packer-produced film initially hit theaters, most people didn't even recognize her:

"Most people didn't recognize me at first. Then I'd get to talking and doing my thing. They were like, 'Hey, you know who you remind me of? Girl, you remind me of Tiffany Haddish.'"

Tiffany shared that with the perks of fame (and subsequently, more money) come more problems. There's a famous African-American proverb says that you should make that money, not let it make you and while Tiffany has remained true to this mantra, she says that her newfound success has also taught her the downfalls of being the successful one in your circle. She explained:

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"Everybody looks at you like you're supposed to take care of them. People that aren't even your blood; they're just a friend of the family, associates, old friends from junior high school or high school."

The 40-year-old actress was adamant that a come-up would never cause her to switch-up on the ones she loves, but it's easy for people to get selective amnesia if you don't call them on their sh*t:

"Then they say, 'You changed.' How have I changed? You didn't ask me for a dime when I was poor. When I was sleeping in my car, where were you? When I was going through my divorce and didn't have nowhere to go, where were you?"

Although Tiffany is thoroughly content with her rich auntie lifestyle, she told Harper's Bazaar that sometimes she wishes she could hire a publicist to switch up the narrative just to have peace of mind:

"It's the hardest part. I almost want to hire somebody in the press to be like, 'Tiffany Haddish: broke as hell. No money. She's been working for free the whole time.' Let that be on the front page of Google for a long time: 'We thought she was worth four million."

Tiffany may have her bag secured, but she also gave us a potent reminder that all money ain't good money. The actress says that after being cast in her leading role in Like a Boss, she was forced to bring certain concerns about the script to the filmmakers that could have potentially gotten her fired. Regardless of this fact, Tiffany stayed true to her beliefs and it paid off. Literally.

"I was like, 'I'm not about to be the angry black woman. I just walked away. I could've been fired that day. It very well could've been like, 'Fire Tiffany. We'll get somebody else.' That was a chance that I was willing to take. You have to say what you believe. When you have that bad feeling, honor that because that's the truth. Your emotions are your compass through life."

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Before she was Amira Unplugged, rapper, singer, and a Becoming a Popstar contestant on MTV, she was Amira Daughtery, a twenty-five year-old Georgian, with aspirations of becoming a lawyer. “I thought my career path was going to lead me to law because that’s the way I thought I would help people,” Amira tells xoNecole. “[But] I always came back to music.”

A music lover since childhood, Amira grew up in an artistic household where passion for music was emphasized. “My dad has always been my huge inspiration for music because he’s a musician himself and is so passionate about the history of music.” Amira’s also dealt with deafness in one ear since she was a toddler, a condition which she says only makes her more “intentional” about the music she makes, to ensure that what she hears inside her head can translate the way she wants it to for audiences.

“The loss of hearing means a person can’t experience music in the conventional way,” she says. “I’ve always responded to bigger, bolder anthemic songs because I can feel them [the vibrations] in my body, and I want to be sure my music does this for deaf/HOH people and everyone.”

A Black woman wearing a black hijab and black and gold dress stands in between two men who are both wearing black pants and colorful jackets and necklaces

Amira Unplugged and other contestants on Becoming a Popstar

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In order to lift people’s spirits at the beginning of the pandemic, Amira began posting videos on TikTok of herself singing and using sign language so her music could reach her deaf fans as well. She was surprised by how quickly she was able to amass a large audience. It was through her videos that she caught the attention of a talent scout for MTV’s new music competition show for rising TikTok singers, Becoming a Popstar. After a three-month process, Amira was one of those picked to be a contestant on the show.

Becoming a Popstar, as Amira describes, is different from other music competition shows we’ve all come to know over the years. “Well, first of all, it’s all original music. There’s not a single cover,” she says. “We have to write these songs in like a day or two and then meet with our producers, meet with our directors. Every week, we are producing a full project for people to vote on and decide if they’d listen to it on the radio.”

To make sure her deaf/HOH audiences can feel her songs, she makes sure to “add more bass, guitar, and violin in unique patterns.” She also incorporates “higher pitch sounds with like chimes, bells, and piccolo,” because, she says, they’re easier to feel. “But it’s less about the kind of instrument and more about how I arrange the pattern of the song. Everything I do is to create an atmosphere, a sensation, to make my music a multi-sensory experience.”

She says that working alongside the judges–pop stars Joe Jonas and Becky G, and choreographer Sean Bankhead – has helped expand her artistry. “Joe was really more about the vocal quality and the timber and Becky was really about the passion of [the song] and being convinced this was something you believed in,” she says. “And what was really great about [our choreographer] Sean is that obviously he’s a choreographer to the stars – Lil Nas X, Normani – but he didn’t only focus on choreo, he focused on stage presence, he focused on the overall message of the song. And I think all those critiques week to week helped us hone in on what we wanted to be saying with our next song.”

As her star rises, it’s been both her Muslim faith and her friends, whom she calls “The Glasses Gang” (“because none of us can see!”), that continue to ground her. “The Muslim and the Muslima community have really gone hard [supporting me] and all these people have come together and I truly appreciate them,” Amira says. “I have just been flooded with DMs and emails and texts from [young muslim kids] people who have just been so inspired,” she says. “People who have said they have never seen anything like this, that I embody a lot of the style that they wanted to see and that the message hit them, which is really the most important thing to me.”

A Black woman wears a long, salmon pink hijab, black outfit and pink boots, smiling down at the camera with her arm outstretched to it.

Amira Unplugged

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Throughout the show’s production, she was able to continue to uphold her faith practices with the help of the crew, such as making sure her food was halal, having time to pray, dressing modestly, and working with female choreographers. “If people can accept this, can learn, and can grow, and bring more people into the fold of this industry, then I’m making a real difference,” she says.

Though she didn’t win the competition, this is only the beginning for Amira. Whether it’s on Becoming a Popstar or her videos online, Amira has made it clear she has no plans on going anywhere but up. “I’m so excited that I’ve gotten this opportunity because this is really, truly what I think I’m meant to do.”

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