Tiffany Haddish Explains The Pressure Of Being 'The Successful One' In Your Circle
It was the year 2017. Girls Trip had just hit theaters and the world had no idea that a formerly homeless comedian from South Central was about to pull up on Hollywood and put her foot on all of our necks for the next three years. What a time to be alive.
Today, Tiffany Haddish has become a household name that would only evade you if you lived under a rock, but in a recent interview with Harper's Bazaar, Tiffany explained that her road to success has been nothing short of a miracle. She told the publication that when the Will Packer-produced film initially hit theaters, most people didn't even recognize her:
"Most people didn't recognize me at first. Then I'd get to talking and doing my thing. They were like, 'Hey, you know who you remind me of? Girl, you remind me of Tiffany Haddish.'"
Tiffany shared that with the perks of fame (and subsequently, more money) come more problems. There's a famous African-American proverb says that you should make that money, not let it make you and while Tiffany has remained true to this mantra, she says that her newfound success has also taught her the downfalls of being the successful one in your circle. She explained:
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"Everybody looks at you like you're supposed to take care of them. People that aren't even your blood; they're just a friend of the family, associates, old friends from junior high school or high school."
The 40-year-old actress was adamant that a come-up would never cause her to switch-up on the ones she loves, but it's easy for people to get selective amnesia if you don't call them on their sh*t:
"Then they say, 'You changed.' How have I changed? You didn't ask me for a dime when I was poor. When I was sleeping in my car, where were you? When I was going through my divorce and didn't have nowhere to go, where were you?"
Although Tiffany is thoroughly content with her rich auntie lifestyle, she told Harper's Bazaar that sometimes she wishes she could hire a publicist to switch up the narrative just to have peace of mind:
"It's the hardest part. I almost want to hire somebody in the press to be like, 'Tiffany Haddish: broke as hell. No money. She's been working for free the whole time.' Let that be on the front page of Google for a long time: 'We thought she was worth four million."
Tiffany may have her bag secured, but she also gave us a potent reminder that all money ain't good money. The actress says that after being cast in her leading role in Like a Boss, she was forced to bring certain concerns about the script to the filmmakers that could have potentially gotten her fired. Regardless of this fact, Tiffany stayed true to her beliefs and it paid off. Literally.
"I was like, 'I'm not about to be the angry black woman. I just walked away. I could've been fired that day. It very well could've been like, 'Fire Tiffany. We'll get somebody else.' That was a chance that I was willing to take. You have to say what you believe. When you have that bad feeling, honor that because that's the truth. Your emotions are your compass through life."
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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ItGirl In Motion: DonYé Taylor Asked Herself This Question When Creating Her Brainchild
"Being an 'ItGirl' is all about being yourself and taking all of the elements that make you who you are and displaying them at your highest capability," creative brainiac DonYé Taylor says in the introduction of the limited video series, "ItGirl In Motion."
In partnership with Hyundai, xoNecole has unveiled the limited series in conjunction with our inaugural ItGirl 100 list. The list boasts 100 Black women who not only innovate and take up space when it comes to putting on for their cities, but also as the driving force behind brands that create impact for the culture. ItGirl DonYé Taylor is one of the 100 featured ladies who put her purpose into action.
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As a marketing consultant, content creator, and CEO, a driving force behind DonYé's ambitions has been to show others how she sees the world by "creating art and doing things that shift perspective." In founding her brainchild, Nüclei, which is coincidentally also home to the ever-so-chic chrome brain piggybank, DonYé briefly touched on the inspiration behind the brand. "I was like, 'What would it look like if I were to be of service to myself?' And that's what made me create Nuclei," she said.
Watch the video above to take a peek into the life of the LA-based ItGirl, the importance of Black women receiving our "flowers" while we're here, and the three things she believes are absolutely essential to any ItGirl.
See our ItGirl 100 list in full here. Click through the gallery below for some BTS moments of DonYé and our partnership with Hyundai.
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Director: Mikkoh @mikkoh
Production Company: @30inthemorning
AD/Gimbal Op: @jeffreyrattanong
DP: @jucelandrin_
Editor: @30inthemorning
1st AC: Bonnie Delgado @bonniebellevue
2nd AC: Liz Robles @lizfatimarobles
FPV Drone Op: Kai Kevin Goh @kaivertigoh
Gaffer: Nelson Nguyen @nelson_ftw
Key Grip: Ames Hoang @mangothemaker
SLT: Jamon Tolbert @jamon.tolbert
Sound Mixer: Deyo Forteza @introducingdeyo
PA: Breyona Holt @exquisite_eye
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BTS: Marika Belamarich @marikarosegold
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